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Not a girly girl and... stares :/

Started by Cody Jensen, April 12, 2011, 10:55:01 PM

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Cody Jensen

Okay. A lot of time has passed since I've last been at Susan's. Recently I tried a more masculine appearance in public (because I've been living as a girl and pass as a girl BUT I really just want to be seen as male). Not to mention I never really was a "girly" girl... I was wearing a baggy hoody and sweatpants and I also had my hair up in a bun and off my neck so in the front it appeared that I had my hair cut short. I was also still obviously female and still had feminine features (like my "girly" face). So when I headed down to the mall everywhere I went I was just scanned from head to toe from every pair of eyes I passed by. It just irritated me because I felt like I wasn't welcomed anywhere. No, I wasn't being paranoid, I'm not stupid. I know when someone's staring at me. Maybe they wouldn't stare at me so much if I just passed 100%. Then that made me realize how much I wanted to transition. It also made me realize how there's no possible way of that happening yet. I don't think my family would kick me out if they knew but I don't think they'd entirely support me either. I don't exactly have a career that supports me yet. I'm not really independent yet I still live with my parents (well, dad anyways) and that's a big issue I find in this case. I'm also just overall confused :/ I want to be a boy, I do... it's just that I don't want to regret it somehow. BUT I don't like the idea of being trapped in a female body either so I'm just lost. I want therapy badly, but I need to realize I'll get nowhere if I don't actually GO and get therapy. I think the reason why I posted this was because I wanted someone to make me realize that I do need it. Someone to snap me out of it y'know. I think I'm scared of all the labels and the looks and talks behind my back. Like I said, I need someone to snap me outta it :/ help please

EDIT I  had no idea where to put this so I just put it here, if it is in the wrong section, sorry..
Derp

"I just don't know what went wrong!"
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Wolf

If you know you want it, go for it. They might be staring at you because they can see you look 'female' but butch, perhaps, and think that's strange or whatever (depending on where you're from)- transitioning, the process, probably won't help as I feel like people are questioning my gender. But I rather they do that than mistake me for a butch lesbian, I hated that, it made me feel like even when I was trying to fit in i still stood out.

I see it like this: I was talked about and given labels (butch, lesbian, weird, etc etc) when I wasn't out, and they were just wrong. I prefer it now that even if people do talk, it's for the right reasons. Because I'm being ME, whatever that is to them. Sometimes it hurts more, if I get insulted or commented at, but at least I'm not hiding and I'm standing up for what and who I want to be.

Think about your future- that some 2-5 years of hardship will result in you feeling better in your own skin, feeling more confident and hopefully more happy- if this is what you decide on. Imagine the end result; male chest, male shape/ hair, voice.
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Cody Jensen

I suppose I could look at it that way. The last bit, about the male chest, hair, voice, I WANT that so much. Like I said, something is holding me back. What, I'm not sure. Until I figure that out and get past it I won't get anywhere.
Derp

"I just don't know what went wrong!"
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