How to deal?

[JesseO]

I know a lot of us have been shunned by people around us when coming out. I was wondering if anyone had advice for dealing when NO ONE around you is supportive, or even tolerant of your decision? I always told myself I would wait until it was "life or death" before I transitioned. Now I am realizing that I shouldn't have to wait until I am severely suicial to transition and am taking my therapy seriously with intent to get my letter. I know that eventhough I am genderqueer (not a man) it will make me happier...but everyone else around me feels it is a mistake, that I am "picking transition over them" and that there is "no point because you will just seem gay". I find myself being extremely depressed that no one respects me or is willing to stand by me through something like this. I feel betrayed because it is obvious that my friendships and relationship were superficial. My "friends" are normally very open minded and mature people, except when it comes to this. My friend who is working on her Master's in counseling laughed hysterically at the prospect of me going bald and having a micropenis when I told her I am planning on starting T within the next few months. This person has been one of my longest friends. I've been holding back on taking T to wait for someone...anyone...I know to come around. It has been about 1.5-2 years since I first "came out". I just do not know how to go through all the changes T will end up bringing without a single person to discuss it with.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks,
Aiden

[Mrs Erocse]

Dear Aiden,
I am so sorry that is the case for you. Roxy my spouse is transgender. Her family is not accepting. They were very unkind in the way they handled things initially. It has been very depressing to Roxy and I. I find myself angry and depressed and sad much of the time for what they have done and how they have treated Roxy. Roxy is also that way. We do have support though. You are not totally with out support. We have friends and family here at Susan's. Everyone is really kind and informative.

Where are you located? Is there a support group near you?

I read the book:    http://www.amazon.com/True-Selves-Understanding-Transsexualism-ebook/dp/B003H060AY

I found it very helpful. It talks about how to come out to people among other things. It is for you to share with your friends and family, to help them understand about ->-bleeped-<-.

Please keep posting. We all are interested in you and your journey. You may send me a private message any time as well.

Many Big Hugs to you.

Patty

[Zash]

Hey man, I'm really sorry for hearing about tht. But congratulations on coming out! I've been in your shoes not too long ago, and I admit that it can be really frustrating and tiring to deal with the constant yakking from the people around you about what THEY think about you and your decision.

I know it's tough. But i can only tell you one thing. Do what YOU want. & do it for yourself. I'm glad you're taking your therapy seriously. This is a matter of defining who you are. Don't hide it just cus your friends are not okay with it. If they're true friends, they'll be behind you fully. But then again, it might take them a little time to adjust to it.

I understand that this may not be the best time of your life, but you'll get through it. & you'll come out of it as a stronger person. & when that happens, trust me, you'll feel so much more happier.

Be happy for yourself, doing what you want to. Instead of being sad cus you passed what you want to do for your friends. & you know, we all here at Susan's may not be you real friends, but at least you know, we've got your back. (virtually at least.)

With this, I wish you the very best of luck.