Apologies if this is in the wrong forum - I just need some advice. I have this friend, we'll call her Sally, that I would like to ask out. I sometimes get the impression from her that she would say yes if I asked. The problem is that she doesn't know I'm trans. Should I come out to her first, before asking her out, or ask her out first, then come out to her? I feel like I would rather do the latter, but that the former is more ethical. What do you folks think?