I can completely understand your frustration. What amazes me is how the man that loved the poor, loved the tax collectors, paid the temple tax, and fed the hungry became what too much of the church business says he is.
All that said, I learn daily - I'm not the person I was a few years ago (literally, thank God!). I used to believe hook-line-and-sinker in the garbage groups like Focus on the Family spouted. I voted against equality. I think I was still a Christian then, albeit a deceived one. And I suspect I'll find out I'm deceived even today about things. All Christ expects from me is to be open to His view of the world. It's not an instant process, it's one that takes - literally - an eternity.
But in the meantime, I certainly will pray both for myself and for the Focus on the Family type Christians.