Wow Megan! So much shared with us, and thank you for doing so. The techs behind doing so far exceed my computer talents, but I hope that you repeat this post in introductions.
I think that so much of our adjustment issues stem from the sense of guilt and shame that society, family and friends breed into us - thou shalt not wear women's clothes, it is wrong-wrong-wrong. Thou must accept the physical body we were born with; to do otherwise is wrong-wrong-wrong. We of course either now know, or hopefully learn that it is not wrong. That is simply ingrained into us, regardless of how much we know that it is just us, and is just right-right-right. This of course is what transition is: going from to. If "from" caused self attacking with a knife, then "to" MUST be achieved at all possible speed, and it seems you are moving where you must. Good luck, and remember: You have friends here.
Susan Kay