He, She. . . . it, does this anger you as much as it does me?

[Yakshini]

Never been called an "it." I was called "they" once, by someone who meant well but didn't know how to handle the pronouns...nipped that in the bud real quick. I'd rather be a "she" than an "it" or a "they" - at least "she" is a definite specified person.

I am often referred to as "they", but it doesn't offend me. Many people in my life are not aware that I am transgendered, so the people I am out to want to avoid upsetting me by calling me she or dealing with the awkwardness of calling me "he" to people who don't know me as such, they will avoid gendered  pronouns.
To me, "IT" implies that I am not human. That the only two options are male and female and that anything else isn't human.

[coyote]

I've been called "it" many times since the start of my transition. Personally, I'm not bothered by it, but I'm not a particularly sensitive person. During this awkward in-between stage, I fully expect people to be confused about what to call me. Usually, they're just providing me with honest feedback as to how I'm being perceived. It's obvious if someone is just being an arsehole, and their input holds no validity in my mind, anyway.

Having said that, I can still understand how many trans people may be offended.

[Kendall]

I think someone calling you "it" says more about them than it does about you.

[~Blondie~]

Alot of people at school call me "It", but I remember the first time when I was in middle school and I was called an It I cried so much (In the bathroom), and avoided mirrors for a long time. That word can really hurt people, especially young ones. But I remember because of that I've become a stronger person on the inside and I just shake it off if people say things.

[Sephirah]

Intra-Terrestrial (IT): someone from this planet.

When looked at like that, aren't we all?

[Emmy]

No, but I'd hate to hear it.

Only one person has ever said something rude which was "heshe".

[jesse]

this actually reminds me of an experience at a drive threw once lol. the guy at the window when i pulled up said 6.25 mam and as i dug out the money he was like oh sir..mam.... oh god im so sorry. i was laughing outloud as i handed him the money the pour guy was so embarressed i dont think i could have been mad if he had stumbled out with an "it" or "a whatever you are"
jessi

[Jayne]

this actually reminds me of an experience at a drive threw once lol. the guy at the window when i pulled up said 6.25 mam and as i dug out the money he was like oh sir..mam.... oh god im so sorry. i was laughing outloud as i handed him the money the pour guy was so embarressed i dont think i could have been mad if he had stumbled out with an "it" or "a whatever you are"
jessi

I know what you mean, I got a taxi to a friends house last month, the taxi driver said I could sit up front & then spent more time looking at my legs than the road, when he gave me my change I forgot to use my more feminine voice & the look on his face as he realised was hilarious

[~RoadToTrista~]

I like to think that if anyone were to call me 'it', I'd break their nose.

[eshaver]

I really try and not let it bother me . I know I can't even think about a lot of facial re- constructive surgury . I know a couple of folks who were fourtanate to have had insurance to have allowed this to become so . Still,it's the  "Numb- Skulled " I do and will have a disscussion with as they are the ones calling me  "Sir ".......... Humph.......... ellen

[Sabriel Facrin]

I don't care if it's the only way to give a nod of acknowledgement to both sides of our life, it's really just dehumanizing!  People should be respectful of who we are...people don't pull that over other things.  I'd like to know when someone with implants or dyed hair ever got called a subhuman over it! >.<  They don't denied that they DID what they did to themselves!  People say <color>-haired person and 'enhanced' to them!
Ugh.  ok...I feel better...butyeah...That's just not right...The only people to call you your birth-self's pronoun or 'it' are the ones you explicitly permit, even if you turn out to be bad at passing...

It's pretty normal to feel upset the way you do. ^^;

[lost904]

my sister used to refer to me as 'it' and i know it hurt me deeply as a confused child. shes abit more understanding now but there sre still things we dont see eye to eye on, which i guess is to be expected since shes not as openminded as some.

[Joelene9]

  I don't care what kind of third person singular or pronoun my friends and family call me at this time of my life!  Just as long as they don't go stupid with these!  I told my one of my sisters that I may look like and may act somewhat like a woman, but I am still her big brother!  I did similar to others. 
  If I would of transitioned in the late 70's this might be different and have not the support my family is giving me now.  I am grateful that time changed the attitudes of the people I love.  Most of you young'ins have your work cut out for you, but there's more support for you now from us older transitioners and others these days.  Yes, I do envy that!  This was nonexistant in my day.
  Joelene

[Rachel Bellefountaine]

Never been called an "it." I was called "they" once, by someone who meant well but didn't know how to handle the pronouns...nipped that in the bud real quick. I'd rather be a "she" than an "it" or a "they" - at least "she" is a definite specified person.

With me I would rather be a "They" than a "He" , and it's my default pronoun when someones gender identity is unclear. After meeting so many transgirl tomboys whom I initially thought were transguys, I realized that I just can't assume what someones gender identity is.

"It" is offensive though, as it dehumanizes us and degrades us.

[Joelene9]

  Well, they is better then THAT or THAT THING!  count your blessings!
  Joelene

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

i think it's rude for someone to use the word "it" that's one of those dehumanizing words, because they are meant for objects, not people. if i don't know someone's gender, i refer to them as "they." for example, "they might get a speeding ticket." even though it's considered grammatically incorrect, i think it is the proper word. for someone androgynous "ze" just isn't known as an acceptable pronoun.

it's considered grammatically correct to say "his or her" in explanation of a scenario that involves people. personally, i don't agree with it.

[chloe savannah]

When I was first called "it" it upset me and hurt me, but now it just shows peoples ignorance, when dressed and out my circle of friends call me chloe because they know me, another word i dislike that is fashionable now is mockingly being called a "gender bender" xxxxxxxx

[wannalivethetruth]

We actually call ourselves he/she by just saying mtf transsexual lol. it doesnt bother me as much. id rather be called anything but he

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

We actually call ourselves he/she by just saying mtf transsexual lol. it doesnt bother me as much. id rather be called anything but he

probably the same with me. i was at the bank weeks ago with my mom. she wanted to get all my money that was put away taken out before my name became legally changed. obviously, i went in there presented as female, but with checks written to my alias. i was in that private booth while my mom was asking the lady at the desk something, and since she was confused by my gender, she just said "is the owner inside?" that works.

[gennee]

Jane, someone calling you an 'it' is tantamount to someone calling me the N-word. It's something that I will not tolerate. If someone calls you that to your face, correct them.

Gennee