Came out to my girlfriend

[eleanorroberts]

I'm a 30 year old heterosexual crossdresser. I've always fantasised about wearing women's clothing or even becoming a woman but never had a chance (or the bravery) to dress up. Didn't want to borrow (steal) relatives clothing and way too scared to buy my own.

I've been dating the same girl for about two years now and we recently began to feel that although we get on really well something wasn't quite right. It felt like we weren't able to fully connect on a personal level and sexually I was not performing well.  I knew exactly what the problem was and really struggled with the decision to come clean. I strongly desire  to wear women's clothing.

Eventually we were dicussing the relationship and I made the decision to tell her. My heart was pounding (she noticed) and I was shaking but I managed to tell her. She was okay with it. In fact she was keen to explore this new side of me. That very night she offered to dress me and put me in one of her corsets and a pair of tights. It felt amazing. I was on a high for days afterwards.

Since then we've gone a little further. On several occasions I've shaved my legs and chest and dressed fully. She helped me with make-up and styled my hair (even bought me a wig when I cut my hair). We cook a nice meal and drink wine and talk deeply and honestly about our thoughts and feelings. It has brought us so much closer together. She finds my appearance as a female a turn off so we don't have sex when I'm dressed but I find for weeks afterward I have so much sexual energy and we make full use of it.

The funny thing is that after dressing I feel much more able to be a man. It seems to silence the female part of me for a while.

I feel very lucky that this has worked out this way. A great weight has been lifted.

[PhSensei]

Good for you, its great that you told her!   Sharing on that level can create a strong bond, and it seems she took the news like a champ (great!).

Good luck exploring that fem side of yours,  its part of you so enjoy it.  Thanks for sharing, great story.

I'm in a similar situation except my wife enjoys me in skirts etc... but I know the elation and centering you feel from getting to explore that side of you.

[Amy85]

That's great! I'm really happy for you 

[eleanorroberts]

Thank you!

I'm wondering about telling more people as I feel like I've put quite a burdon of secrecy on my girlfriend. But hiding is quite a tough habit to get out of after nearly three decades!

[chloe savannah]

Hi I told my girlfriend the first week we were courting that I was crossdresser, reason if I continued in secret would be worse,that was in 1979 now been married over 30 years, reason I told her from the start that it was part of me and who I am, I told her at the very start before our relationship developed if she said no, no harm done I think it was being honest that helped kisses chloe savvanah xxxxxx

[eleanorroberts]

Good to know it can work out long-term. Congratulations on a successful marriage!

[chloe savannah]

Eleanorroberts thank you am very happy things have worked out for you, xxxxxxxx chloe savannah