Socializing: a thread for transwomen

[Northern Jane]

As I have looked around on the web just wanting to find other post-op women I have that in common with for social reasons...

I felt (feel) that way to but have only ever run into one other girl in the same situation as myself (LONG term post-op, transition/SRS in the 70s, stealth, straight, transitioned young) and we remain good pen-pals because we had so many experiences in common. We live in different countries so we may never meet face to face but have become like sisters. We know there are others out there with similar experiences but they are deeply woodworked and difficult to find.

[StaceyC]

Sorry to hear about your troubles. In your post you mentioned trying to find other trans to hang out with.  If you can't do that or aren't having much success there, perhaps try to join a club or something you are interested, like take a tennis class, yoga, YMCA, scrap booking whatever.  It may not be trans centric, but you might me some other ladies and friends with similar interests.  Hope all goes well. 

[NikkiJ]

I'm in the mid-atlantic, and while people are nice to me on a day to day basis, in stores, at work, etc., there's no one who I consider someone that I could just call up and ask to go out to get dinner or see a movie with.

There is a support group, but its very dysfunctional and contained some pretty disturbed people the last time I went, which was years ago, before I transitioned even. And, going there post-op as others have said, might not be a good idea for me. They actually meet not far from where I live.

It used to be that I met lots of people online, but this was during the time I was getting back into my femininity after a period of being dormant, around 2004. Now, it's mostly crossdressers on URNA. The only person who wanted to get together with me turned out to be a crossdresser who asked if she could change at my place. That was when I said that I didn't think we were on the same wavelength. It's frustrating to have no one to celebrate this with. I guess I just have to go out to clubs, which I hate doing alone. Sigh.

[danimunj]

I think that loneliness is one of the most difficult and frightening aspects of this whole thing. Whether one transitions early, middle or late. I think you are brave for talking about it openly. Thanks.

-Dani <3333