Ex Boyfriend. Rant-o-Rama?

[Vince1995]

So I ran into my ex boyfriend for the first time since I broke up with him, which was like sometime in the end of April. Things did NOT go well. I was with my friends, and he sits there making snide remarks to me. I tell him to leave me alone, and he has the audacity to say this. "For those of you who don't know, Vince is a GIRL. He's been lying to you this whole time." than he laughed, and made fun of me a bit for being Transgender. All my friends know I am a transgender, and are fine with it. He was perfectly fine with me being a Transgender when we were dating, and now he sits and makes fun of me because of it? My friend's ex Brandon really ripped into my ex after that, and basically drove him off. He was pretty ticked.

This happened to me in my relationship before him, my BF at the time had started to bash me and hate on me for being Transgender. He told me to check between my legs and look at my chest and realize I was a girl and that its a BF/GF relationship, and he was the male, and I the female, though he is bi. So I didn't see the issue there. When I came out to him last year when we dated, before I broke up with him, he was fine with it.

What is wrong with people? My current BF who is gay, is fine with me being Trans, and calls me a guy and Vince, like I wanna be called, but I'm afraid if I break up with him, he will bash me like everyone else.

[Sharky]

Degendering you is an easy way to make you feel like ->-bleeped-<-. Your ex obviously hasn't moved on. If any future ex does it consider it a sign that breaking up with them was the right move.

[Janet_Girl]

Degendering you is an easy way to make you feel like ->-bleeped-<-. Your ex obviously hasn't moved on. If any future ex does it consider it a sign that breaking up with them was the right move.

QFT

[meh]

What an ass.

[~RoadToTrista~]

Ugh, he's just using that as a fuel to hurt you. It's nice that your friend stood up for you. :-)

[Yakshini]

My ex likes to disgender me. We don't talk, so it isn't to make me feel bad. He just never thought of me as a man and only called me as such while we were dating to humor me. Now that we aren't together he just calls me "she", I assume because he is so deep in the closet he is finding Christmas presents and doesn't want anyone to know he dated a man.

[Vince1995]

Some people are pretty lame. :/ And I guess pathetic. My boyfriend wants to beat him up for what he did. Bahh. I guess you all are right, just a way to hurt me. :| I don't see how he could hurt though, since we dated for a week, and he disappeared for 3. Not like it should matter, but whichever, I guess.

[Sephirah]

It's like a predator going for the weak spot on its prey. People pick on the things they know will get a reaction. Find out the thing which matters most to a person and that's the spot where the knife gets twisted. But I suspect it wasn't done to hurt you directly, insomuch as it was done, in the setting you describe, in an attempt to isolate you from your friends and make them turn on you. Obviously it didn't work, and I doubt it's something he'll try again in that situation. The best way to strip someone of their confidence is to take away their support network. I think this is more what he was trying.

"I can't have your affection so I'll make sure no one else will want your affection, either." Oldest trick in the book. It stems a lot from jealousy.

[N.Chaos]

What a jackass.
I'm sorry Vince, that's...that's just sick. Good that your friends know and they're all cool with it, but still. That's just wrong.
Julie likes to do ->-bleeped-<- like that to me sporadically, that's actually been the final nail in the proverbial coffin of our relationship.

"Ever since you DECIDED you wanted to be a boy, you never leave the house anymore."

[tekla]

"Ever since you DECIDED you wanted to be a boy, you never leave the house anymore."

That is weird, most women have trouble getting their guys to come home.