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Started by danimunj, May 05, 2011, 10:50:54 AM

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danimunj

This afternoon my oldest son came home with the car and the smashed out back window. Gee, it is good to see him. Smiles all around.

We talked and talked and went for a ride down by the ocean. Marriage is agreeing with him. He looks handsome and healthy. Maybe he'll stay overnight tonight.

The pollen was killing me while I was outside working for a bit. I feel much better now, though.

You know, I was looking over an old WWII book of famous personages from that time. British statesmen and military brass. Darned if I don't find that I like that British moustache thing. Never did before. That I'm aware of, anyway.

Stiff upper lip and all that...

:)
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danimunj

My oldest just left to go back home. It was very nice to see him again. I am already missing him. I think he wanted to stay with us a bit longer. I wish both of them could be little again sometimes. It's easy to forget how hard things were for us back then.

Gosh, I'm so old. And feeling it more and more. Just in the sense that the rest of the world seems to have gotten a lot younger looking all of a sudden. I notice that so much has changed. When did that happen?

It feels like being older and realizing it places limitations on you somehow or other. You're out-of-date. You don't know what everybody else is talking about sometimes. They speak in a different generational dialect.

And yet, when communication happens it is very good. Seeing the younger generation facing for the first time challenges and struggles which we faced so long ago. We can't fight their fights for them, but we can be there to offer our support and understanding.

And, once in a while, they see or hear something in our past experience which catches their attention. How did  you do it when you faced this kind of situation? Didn't you do this? Didn't you do that?

It's like I've become an archive or something. lol

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danimunj


Beautiful morning here.

Found an article in the Boston Globe confirming what I have been seeing on my own. Over 50 is difficult to find employment. It's a generational thing. You're just out of touch with the younger generations. And you're not especially wanted. Ouch.

Not reassuring if you need to work in order to survive. This is not going to be easy.

One day at a time.

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Karynm8621

How old is your son?

My daughter turns 26 on May 21st and it doesn't make me feel old at all.
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Kristyn

Quote from: danimunj on May 07, 2011, 08:29:01 AM
Beautiful morning here.

Found an article in the Boston Globe confirming what I have been seeing on my own. Over 50 is difficult to find employment. It's a generational thing. You're just out of touch with the younger generations. And you're not especially wanted. Ouch.

Not reassuring if you need to work in order to survive. This is not going to be easy.

One day at a time.

Yep, one day at a time is the only way.  Better still, living in the moment.  It's hard, but doable--it takes work to override those negative emotions that are so deeply ingrained into us.  Bad times/situations mean we have to express those feelings that are associated with these events--sorrow, anger, worry, etc.  When you alter your way of thinking towards a more positive, devil-may-care attitude, it makes one wonder whether they are slowly losing their sanity because, after all, aren't we supposed to feel those negative feelings?.  Staying positive and happy is what I've been working at for the last month or so--I couple it with meditation which I include with my workouts.  Makes for a long day.  I find meditation to be helpful in maintaining a happy, positive outlook on life.  So far it seems to be working--I feel I am at peace, no stress whatsoever.

Yesterday confirmed the end of my unemployment insurance and I am now living off my savings--$25,000--not much at 45 years of age.  For the most part, I feel pretty calm.  I look at this as a new chapter and feel prepared for whatever life has in store for me.  I guess I'm slowly become detached  from my materialistic  self--this, according to Buddhist teachings is a step toward enlightenment.   Hmmmm.

Either way, life has definitely taken an interesting turn for me in the last year and in the last 24hrs.  I'll stay calm, peaceful, positive and focused and see where it leads me.  I'll let the Universe drive for awhile because after all, anger, sorrow, resentment, blame doesn't do much good.
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danimunj


Ah.

It helps to know that there are others walking along the path of happy destiny beside me.

I find calmness and peace in acceptance of things that are outside of my control. The trick for me is determining where that boundary lies. Seems to shift a lot when I'm not looking.

If I am successful, my courage increases as I change the things I can. It's a daily reprieve based on the maintenance of my spiritual health.

That is job one.

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danimunj

My oldest is 24. His brother is 22.  Now that they're out of the house I am encountering empty nest syndrome. Or, what now syndrome.

It's disconcerting.

:-\
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Karynm8621

Quote from: danimunj on May 07, 2011, 09:53:51 AM
My oldest is 24. His brother is 22.  Now that they're out of the house I am encountering empty nest syndrome. Or, what now syndrome.

It's disconcerting.

:-\

I went through that, that was when I realized it was finally time to fix me ..

I hope you work through it, it does get easier over time
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danimunj

Thanks, K.

Gosh, the Internet is such a big, big place. It's grown so fast.

I think in order to ameliorate the effects of generational drift I need a 21st Century MakerOver!!!!!!!!

Hmmmmmmmm...

Where can I get one of those now...

:) :) :)
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danimunj

I may have found my makeover.

:)

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FairyGirl

Quote from: Kristyn on May 07, 2011, 09:07:55 AMEither way, life has definitely taken an interesting turn for me in the last year and in the last 24hrs.  I'll stay calm, peaceful, positive and focused and see where it leads me.  I'll let the Universe drive for awhile because after all, anger, sorrow, resentment, blame doesn't do much good.
a very Taoist attitude, and you're absolutely right Kristyn. :)   To paraphrase an old hippie saying, Grace will get you through times of no money better than money will get you through times of no Grace.  The catch of course is realizing there is no such thing as times of no Grace.  I think a lot of us when we reach this point post-op know that we are where we're supposed to be, doing what we're supposed to be doing, even if times are rough.  There is a kind of inner peace that settles in the weeks and months following surgery that no outer circumstances can ever take away from us.  Seems so to me anyway.

Hi Danimunj :)

Quote from: danimunj on May 07, 2011, 06:49:27 PMI may have found my makeover.
ooh what's his name? ;)

Chloe
Girls rule, boys drool.
If I keep a green bough in my heart, then the singing bird will come.
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