So i'm out to my immediate family (parents and sister) and closest friends and I'm considering at some point down the line, maybe months from now to tell everyone on facebook that has me added via a note. It's something i feel i want to share so i can just be me but at the same time im terrified. On the facebook are not only other family members and friends but old school friends and online gaming friends. I'm aware that i don't need to tell everybody however since i am part of a large gaming community have personally met some of them on various occasions and use voice chat. I dont want to abandon my games nor the community although some might not accept it I'm aware of that, plus theres the eventual voice change that will happen.
whilst its entirely possible I may change my mind at the moment im in the planning of the note and since I have yet to start HRT will probably wait until that has had some effect.
Here is what the note is in its current form I welcome all criticism just try not to be too harsh
QuoteThere's some changes happening in my life that you need to know about. Soon i'll be living as a girl. I will no longer respond to male pronouns. Don't worry about me. I'm still sane. Just pursuing what makes me happy. Basically My mind/soul/Gender Identity is and always has been female, the dysphoria surrounding the conflict between my identity and my body is what has been keeping me depressed for so long. I am currently in what is known as the transition period "the inbetween stage" this stage usually takes years and may never be 100% complete. All i hope for in those reading this is they support and try to understand, I will gladly provide any information.
Being transgender is no more a choice than being gay, having brown eyes, being left-handed or being straight. The choice is deciding whether or not to live your life honestly with yourself and others, by the time someone is ready to come out as transgender, they have thought long and hard and are secure in their feelings. Gender identity and sexual orientation are two different subjects. Some transgender people are lesbian, gay or bisexual in their sexual orientation, and some are straight.
A few quotes I can relate to:-
"Estrogen flipped a switch in my head and now I want to do so many things I will probably never finish them all. I guess you could say it made my life worth living again at a time when I was seriously thinking about suicide."
"Wouldn't it be much worse if life were fair and all the terrible things that happen to us, come because actually deserve them? So now I take comfort in the general hostility and unfairness of the Universe" To put it simply for those lazy folk I AM a girl but a birth defect made my body display male characteristics, I am now persuing what needs to be done to correct this.
Thanks,
Amelia
