Anger and pronouns kinda

[Inkwe Mupkins]

Ive never been refered to as a female in anyway by a stranger in 8yrs. People who know my secret refer to me with female pronouns which i hate. Anywhos when some one calls me she i dont want to make a big deal and brush it off kinda like if someone called you stupid. I correct people of they say women  hate that more than she but when it comes to lady. Oh hell nah i cannot tolerate lady. When someone who knows Im bio female and says ``little lady`` or ``young lady`` i get angry somewhat hateful towards the person i hate being called lady and will sternly remind them i am a man not a lady. If someone, anyone calls me lady i dont care who im gonna snap. Ive had enough of all female pronouns. I cant just let people call me what they want anymore my blood is about to boil over.  Is there any gender names/pronouns that tick you off more than others?

[JohnAlex]

Since I'm only out to a few people, I try to be tolerant to people calling me female pronouns or "lady" or "woman."  But one thing I can't tolerate is when someone thinks I should do something because I am a woman.  like when people say, "You should have the pink one because you're a girl."  Or, "You should come with us to this all-girls thing."
I guess it's that it annoys me far more to be treated like a female than to be called one.   But I also predict that once I'm out to more people and passing most of the time, then I bet I will start to become intolerant of people messing up and calling me "she" or "lady."

[Lee]

I'm with JohnAlex on this one.  Most people know me as a girl, so I grin and bear it for the time being.  The ones that really get me are my dad calling me "Miss Kim" or "Kimmy Dearest."  I feel really guilty about keeping being trans back from my family, and my dad's fondness for a daughter he doesn't have makes me feel really bad.

[Inkwe Mupkins]

I hate when people do that to.  ``You need these shoes or you need this hairstyle cause u have a clit not a stick`` or when people argue with you over what gender you are its like uh hello i think i should know...srry for all my rantng i just need to let off steam before i go all homicidal

[MaxAloysius]

Ma'am. God I hate that. But I especially hate when my mother calls me 'missy' or 'madam', because she knows better. For everyone else I just grin and bare it because I don't pass at all.

Just the other day at work, I took in some meringues for everyone because the Macedonian owners keep feeding me, and the owner said 'You keep doing this, one day you will make a good woman and a good wife!' And that's just about the worst thing I've ever heard, I was so shocked and so upset by it. Even if I wasn't trans I'd find that offensive...

[Devin87]

I'm only out to people at home, not out here, so I try not to get annoyed when people call me by female pronouns or my female name.  It's hard sometimes, though.  I do get a little angry when people out me.  I pass pretty well and whenever I'm going out with my friends and we're at stores or resturants or things, I tend to pass and I love that.  But then my friends start talking about me and start saying "she" and "her" and using my female name and I get really uncomfortable, even though it's not their fault at all.  I like passing and then when they call me all those things, anyone who hears looks shocked like a "that's a girl!?  Why is her hair like that and why is she dressed like that!?" kinda look.

[Andy]

I was in line getting beer the other day and the clerk was sir-ing and ma'am-ing everyone as she thanked them, and I thought, I will die if she ma'ams me. But she didn't do either, thankfully. I didn't get the sir I was looking for, but at least not the ma'am! OUCH

The ones that really make my blood boil are "missy" or "lady"! I swear I would go postal if someone said that to me.

[sascraps]

I get sick of being called a little girl. People say that to me as an insult, to insinuate that I'm like a child, helpless, defenseless and weak. That really pisses me off because I have NEVER been weak! If anyone said that to my face, they'd end up on life support!!! 

[Adio]

I don't have this problem anymore, but when I didn't appear male to other people, I hated being called "Miss."  Especially when someone would call me "Miss (Male name)."  She/her also bothered me for obvious reasons.

Now, I hate it when other gay guys call me "girl."  One of my more flamboyant gay friends would call me that all the time.  I finally told him to stop because I just couldn't handle it.  He stopped, gave me a lot of crap about it, but he calls me "bro" now.

For some reason...this will probably sound odd.  A guy I went to school with would call me "Mr. (Male first name)."  It annoyed me to no end.  "Mr. (Last name)" doesn't bother me at all.  Maybe it was because he used my nickname which has began to get on my nerves.  There's a reason I didn't change my name to that.

[tvc15]

"She" and "girl" are probably the worst. During my first short haircut the lady kept calling me that. Shivers down my spine.

My family still struggles with female pronouns. I plan on telling them that it hurts more than they think--they knew I was miserable before I came out. "She" was weak, depressed, and suicidal. I am not her, and I never was; so please stop talking to/about her, and focus on the real person in front of you right now.

[Noah G.]

I do get a little angry when people out me.  I pass pretty well and whenever I'm going out with my friends and we're at stores or resturants or things, I tend to pass and I love that.  But then my friends start talking about me and start saying "she" and "her" and using my female name and I get really uncomfortable, even though it's not their fault at all.

My "favorite" times when something like would happen was at my last job when I'd have a really cute girl at the register who seemed possibly kind of into me...then someone would always come up and say my name and I could see the bit of change that took place on the other side of the counter. I don't care if nothing would come of it, don't really want the cute girl to think I'm anything but a guy...

As for the topic at hand, the one I hate most is probably "girlfriend." Most others I can generally ignore, but for some reason that one really bristles me...also if someone is irritated or whatever with me, or even just joking around, and uses female derogatory terms it really, really bothers me. It's not that they're using derogatory terms, but the fact that they're using female ones. If they use male or gender neutral ones then I just get a kick out of it.

[bojangles]

Hate them all, especially ma'am, lady, Miss, Ms. and GIRL.  Always have. Didn't say anything about it before coming out as trans.
Now am trying to be understanding and give those who are supportive plenty of time to adjust.
But until they got it down, I'm not likely to go to public places with them.

Thankfully, I have some awesome friends who immediately started using the correct pronouns and name.
Some have actually corrected me a few times. 

[sascraps]

"She" was weak, depressed, and suicidal. I am not her, and I never was; so please stop talking to/about her, and focus on the real person in front of you right now.

Wow, sounds exactly like how I had my revelation! I was miserable all of my life, up until recently when the switch went off in my brain and I knew I wasn't the person I was born as. That girl was nothing but abused and stomped into the ground by others. The person here now has grown up into a strong, capable man who can take care of himself. And that's what I want the rest of the world to see too. Not some little girl they can victimize.