So I came out and told everyone except my father that I was transgender. I was afraid of what he'd do or say. He's one of those old folks that are politically incorrect and use obscene words to refer to black or gay people as well as transgender
. He's often joked about trannies.
I felt he was going to be angry and then sad. I thought it would be like when I attempted suicide and he came rushing through the hospital doors to yell me a new one. After his initial anger of the first day of me being locked away in the mental ward for attempted suicide, he settled down and cried. It was the initial shock that scared him so bad that he didn't know what to do.
I sat down with him and my mother (my mother already knew) and told him I was transgender. He told me "It's your body and you can do whatever you want with it". I went on to say how I would be a girl and be referred to as a girl and he replied "As long as you have that thing between your legs you'll be a guy to me"
. I tried to explain it was a state of mind not biological. He just laughed it off like he didn't understand. When I was about to leave he gave me a hug and said "I will love you no matter what". He's been going back and forth between acceptance, denial, "it's a phase thing I'm sure" to acceptance again. He's not sure where to stand with it but he's been by my side the whole way.
I went out the other day with my brother to the movies (first time in town being a girl) and my father was worried that someone would say something awful and mean to me (
awwww such a worrywart).
He's told a few key friends of his about it. One of them actually started to tell a gay joke and my dad stopped him and told him "If we're still going to be friends, you'll have to do this for me and not joke or put down gays and transgenders".
He's been exceptional through this whole process. I have to admit I almost cried this morning
when my mother told me that he was worried about me and that he stood up for transgender people because I was one of them.
I couldn't ask for a better father. I just wanted to share my uplifting story with you all. I hope you enjoy.
