Transition and Sex

[Hazumu]

Kind of my point to my questioners -- it ain't about sex, it's about being your true gender (or being true to your gender...)

For those who haven't voted, keep voting. 

Karen

[Owen]

I would say yes. I would transition even if I could never enjoy sex normally as a woman. I dont really enjoy sex now. I think I am at a lull in terms of sex drive. It's dropped off sharply in the past year. It doesnt matter to me its more of being the gender I want to be in. I certainly would want to have the capability but it's not a priority. So option c for me..

Linda Ann

Love being female

[umop ap!sdn]

Orgasms last how long?  And the rest of life lasts how much longer??

Good point right there!

[BrandiOK]

  I would transition even if the only result were having to keep male genitalia or having non-existant genitalia.  If transition were a 'Jetsons' style booth that you entered one side as your birth sex and exited the other side physically matched to your true gender but without genitalia then I would still gladly do it. 

  It was never about the sex and SRS is simply, as someone else mentioned, icing on the cake.  Do I look forward to sex after SRS? Yes but much like I look forward to someday seeing the whales in Alaska or taking a cruise.  I look forward to the 'experience' of these things because they are new to me and I feel like I would enjoy them.  If I never get to see the whales or take a cruise it doesn't affect the other aspects of my life although I may hold a little sadness for not getting to experience such things. 

 

[stephb]

I think there was a time when I was much younger and still trying to understand myself, that sexual function and satisfaction may have been a concern. As I've gotten older and learned more about myself, I've known for many years now that there is no question remaining that I would choose C, without regret. I enjoy sex very much, but it's not nearly as important as my identity.

Steph

[Luc]

Honestly, I'm caught between A and B, and frankly baffled that no one else has this issue. Sex was never anything to me... and yet, now it is. I have a wife, and sex is enjoyable as well as the best way to get physically closer to her. No, orgasms are not everything. However, they're a good perk, and if you don't have an orgasm, do you know you're even experiencing enough sensation to be satisfied at all by sex? I may be in an entirely different realm from others, being that I am FtM and SRS is considerably less successful; however, I know that my genitals do not make me a man; who I am does. If I have to reconcile myself to not having a natural bulge in my pants in exchange for physical pleasure with the girl I love most, I'm game.

Dean

[MeganRose]

I voted option 3 as well.

I definitely would be disappointed if after surgery I never get to experience an orgasm as a woman, but it's not enough of an issue to make me stop and think about whether or not it's something I really want. I want to be comfortable with the body that I have, and I want to be legally recognised as female. Both are much more important to me than being able to reach orgasm.

That being said, GRS is still a long way off for me, so how I feel may change over time. Considering how much of a non-issue for me it is at the moment though, I can't se that hapening any time soon.

[Sandy]

Option 3.  No question, no hesitation.  As others have said, this is about being true to yourself, not orgasms. 

Not being true to myself very nearly killed me.  Being true to myself is more important than physical feeling.

-Sandy

[passiflora]

I did choose option C. I do love sex, and fortuantly I'm able to get orgasm, but even if I could'nt get them, I would still have taken C, and still love sex. It feels good to me just to be with a man, the orgasm is just an added bonus, if it happens, but its not at all nesscary for me to feel satsified and fullfilled.

-pass-

[kiddancer]

 If I were unable to ever orgasm again, I'd still transition.

[Natkat]

I've had a couple of conversations with people I'm out to, where the topic of having sexual relations comes up.  The questions that were asked were on the order of, "you really want to experience sex as a woman that bad?"

I've explained that, although I want to be sexually capable and enjoy relations (whatever my orientation may be,) I'm not doing this for that.  Having sex as a woman is icing on the cake, I'd probably do this if I could never enjoy sex ever again.

So, with that, what is your deal-breaker?  Would you transition even if you were incapable of orgasm or even of enjoying it to the degree 'average people' (including post-ops) are capable of?

Karen

I wouldnt transition as in a body fact, if I would be unable to orgasm.
one of the reasons I dont want bottom surgery are cause im unsure on that point,
however I do claim my own image to be more important than sexual plesure.
I did get top surgery even thou I might lose some sensation in my nippels, which had been some really sensetive spots of me,
so you could say I already had sacrificed alittle of myself sexually for that, but I wouldnt do it fully cause.... well i'm a pervert