So I've been transitioning for almost a year now (mtf) and I'm starting to notice a trend that's been bugging me a lot lately. In general, I've felt fantastic about the changes I've seen. I love seeing my face soften, breasts develop, and the shape of my torso change into something a bit more feminine/androgynous. But at he same time, I've been having alternating feelings about my masculine features. There are days where I have very clear dysphoria and I become disheartened and frustrated by my large jaw, broad shoulders, etc. But then there are an equal number of days where I feel perfectly fine with them or even want to embrace them on some level along with my feminine features.
I've known for a while now that I'm nonbinary and not a woman so the idea of wanting an appearance verging more toward androgynous isn't a new one to me. What's driving me insane though is that I can't come to any solid vision of myself. I'm constantly swinging back and forth between wanting to embrace my masculine side as a part of myself and how I express my gender, and being overwhelmed by waves of dysphoria and just wanting anything broad, harsh, or even remotely "male" to vanish so that I can take on a more feminine or even purely androgynous appearance.
This has become a massive, frustrating wall for me in the past months that's keeping me from finding clothes/makeup that I feel comfortable in because I just don't know how to see my gender, let alone express it in a way that makes me feel confident.
If any other nonbinary/genderfluid folks out there have experienced anything similar, I'd love to hear about it and how you dealt with it. It could really help me a lot.
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