It is so easy to do a detailed search on a person with the internet and a savvy investigator. The era of stealth and woodworking is over. Only those of us who transition in childhood have any hope of being deep stealth. Even then true stealth is not a guaranty.
Anyways...
With a real chance at being discovered, I would suggest that one disclose. I personally do not think it is any ones business. And in a more perfect world it would only be useful information to our doctors. But unfortunately we do not live in that world and being discovered years into a relationship would be the death bell for most relationships. Yes there are people who are decent enough for that not to matter but they are few and far between.
Even those who have gold star passing privilege have the real risk of being outed hovering over their heads. Lame but it is the way of things.
It is a real messed up dilemma. We want to be seen as the woman we are and accepted as so, but this society has allot of hang ups....
In a way I am kinda pleased that I will not have to worry about this. I will never be in another relationship as I am with Sevan. If I loose hir somehow I will not look for or accept another mate in my life. Sevan is a hard act to follow and I have HIV. I will not be with anyone who I do not know for a fact has the same strain of HIV I have. I do not feel it would be ethical to knowingly put a lover at risk for infection with HIV. A one night stand with condoms,... maybe, as the risks are almost non existant with safe practices and condoms, but a regular sex life and daily living risks that come with cohabitation I couldn't deal with. I get so paranoid whenever I accidentally cut myself for anyone near me when it happens. I can't deal with worry for a mate on a daily basis.
Also. I simply do not pass. I am outed in seconds just because of age and a lack of give a damn...If someone doesn't know I am trans just by looking at me, ...... huh stupid does run deep in their family. LOL
Anyways.
JMHO
