run in with the gender police

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

today was just another normal day for me. except, in consequence of me being a transsexual in transition, i have the gender police gunning for me 24/7, and trying to bring me back to prison. i've chosen to resist arrest from the get go, but that doesn't stop them from trying. i was out with my mom and dad today. we went to some diner for lunch, and surprise, someone who knows my mom finds her. in these situations i've learned to just ignore what's going on around me. the lady takes a glance at me, and quickly turns her head away in disapproval. next she goes into defense mode, and says to my mom "i though you had two sons. no daughter, right? two boys." my mom must've just nodded, and then the lady asks "how old are your sons?" she gives her the ages, and then she leaves. from the way that lady responded, i'm willing to bet that she knew who i was supposed to be, but chose not to accept it. i asked my mom who that was later on, and then she says it was just some lady she worked with, and that she's not a significant part of our life. it really isn't her business about my transition, and i agree. leave it to women to keep tabs on Mrs. X and Mr. Y's offsprings.

[Del]

I'm sorry to see you were treated like that.
Some folks just don't know what manners are or where their nose ends.
Take care kiddo.

[Cindy]

Don't let the crass fools get you down. You are so much bigger than they are. Remember the nice stuff, you were having lunch with you Mum and Dad who accept you. The opinion of evil minded little toads don't count.

Hugs

Cindy

[sascraps]

Yeah, the gender police, I have problems with them all the time.  I'm going to use that, though. Now I have a better way of explaining my frustrations with dumb little town skanks who constantly give me crap for not dressing like a girl and chasing guys.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

Yeah, the gender police, I have problems with them all the time.  I'm going to use that, though. Now I have a better way of explaining my frustrations with dumb little town skanks who constantly give me crap for not dressing like a girl and chasing guys.

the problem is, i dwell on it too much. i figured it's much better to just ignore those people, and focus on your own concerns. i guess the more i go out as me and the more i get used to my newly presented gender, the easier it will get. those people are just not worth the time or energy. i'm a little preoccupied with being prepared to get sassy with these people. then again, i have purely obsessional obsessive compulsive disorder. it makes it hard for me to just say "whatever." as a matter of fact, i was out with my family today. we were going to a restaurant where most of the people would know us collectively. i was like "ok, i don't care what any of them think." it became that i got excited over it, but then i got so nervous, that i felt like collapsing. it's this natural fight or flight anxiety that seems to come. fortunately, no one was there who would give me problems. i know there's nothing they can do to me other than that stupid ill mannered thing i first posted, but it's fear of the unknown. there's no way i'm going to quit no matter what my emotional state is. i guess i just need to work on that. people are idiots, nothing to be afraid of.

[sascraps]

Hey, you just reminded me about when I went out today. I went to grab lunch at a place I've been to a lot, and for the first time in that place was addressed as "sir". They do that at other places too, but I've only been to the more pricey restaurants in town maybe 1-3 times. I guess the trick is just be you. Don't give it a second thought. That's when people get your presented gender right. When you're not focused on trying to be, because you already feel that you ARE. It seems that's how it's been working for me. And I have huge boobs in the way, too. lol

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

Hey, you just reminded me about when I went out today. I went to grab lunch at a place I've been to a lot, and for the first time in that place was addressed as "sir". They do that at other places too, but I've only been to the more pricey restaurants in town maybe 1-3 times. I guess the trick is just be you. Don't give it a second thought. That's when people get your presented gender right. When you're not focused on trying to be, because you already feel that you ARE. It seems that's how it's been working for me. And I have huge boobs in the way, too. lol

that sounds like a pretty good idea. like people can just read your confidence rather than your gender.

[justmeinoz]

As an ex-copper I can tell you the most successful theives are the ones who look like they have every right to be there.  If you present as the real you with confidence and gentle assertiveness, you are almost always treated as such.

I have found that a raised eyebrow , or a "pardon?",and wave of the nail polish usually gets a rapid apology.  Accepting it graciously as a 'woman of a certain age' reinforces the impression.

Seeing I am generally old enough to be most shop assistant's mother, helps I will admit.

Karen.