Transgender and coming out at school...I can feel a headache coming on.

[Miles]

Hopefully ill be able to phrase this right on the first try xD
Anyways, I been discussion my feelings with my father and a few other people that Im out to who have all been so far surprisingly understanding.
We been discussing my short term goals for transitioning such as getting myself a binder and starting to use my chosen name.
But the one thing that has stopped me in my tracks are how to go about coming out at school.
None of my friends or teachers are currently aware and I know there will be questions asked when on the first day back to school I have on my binder.
How would you guys suggest dealing with this? Would it be better if I told them all first?
Im tempted to just go with the flow and let them stare I know that I would confuse a whole lot of people in doing so.

Really The only changes would be trying to get the teachers and students to use correct pronouns, indicating which gender I prefer to indentfy as and of course the binder as my hair is already cut short and everybody already knows about my more masculine behaviour. But I think that might be alot for some people to handle, specially since I live in such a small town where even being bisexual is a big thing around here 

So any suggestions?

~ Miles   

[Mika]

Maybe emailing your teachers would be a good first step, make them aware of your preferred name and pronouns. As for the binder, you'd be surprised how people will dance around it lol. It's out of socially acceptable behavior to ask about it, at least for most people. If you feel you are in a safe space, I'd say just go for it and wear it, and explain to those you want to. However, if you feel like you are not in a safe space, that complicates things. Having some faculty members aware of your situation would probably be good, like a guidance counselor, or a trusted teacher. That way, if you do have run-ins with classmates or faculty, you have someone to go to about it. You are not obligated to tell anyone your life story, you do not owe an explanation. Do you feel like your school is a safe place?

[Espenoah]

No one will notice your binder if you don't bring attention to it. Trust me, I went this whole last school year wearing one, and no one noticed until literally the day before graduation where it made a weird bump and a school friend asked "Do you have something under your shirt?" She even poked the bump and then said, "Oh, just a weird fabric fold then..." and went on with her business. And I went from D cups to FLAT. If anyone noticed, they didn't ask about it.

I guess the question is whether you want to be out in the first place. If you want to be out, I suggest emailing your teachers and school counselors to let them know about pronoun and name preferences. Or you can do what I did and just go as you are, bind, keep your hair short, whatever, and just let everyone think what they want to. This is surprisingly more effective than you would think if you're strong-willed and don't care about gossip.

You just figure out what's best for you, what you're comfortable with, and just go for it.

[JohnAlex]

No one will notice your binder if you don't bring attention to it. Trust me, I went this whole last school year wearing one, and no one noticed until literally the day before graduation where it made a weird bump and a school friend asked "Do you have something under your shirt?" She even poked the bump and then said, "Oh, just a weird fabric fold then..." and went on with her business. And I went from D cups to FLAT. If anyone noticed, they didn't ask about it.

Wow.  sorry, off topic, but what binder were you using?

[Espenoah]

Underworks Tri-top. I will swear by it a million times over.

[mm]

your Underworks Tri-top must be some binder to go from a D to flat.  I am not that large they are firm and can only get to a small A with my binder.

[Ithica]

I think if you want to get people to use different pronouns you are probably going to have to do a little explaining.

Letting the faculty know seems like a job for your father imo. I would get him to arrange an informal meeting with a member of faculty  (someone with a measure of authority, who could be like your main contact). Let them know whats going on and that their support is expected - perhaps with provide them some 101 materials.

If your just changing your appearance and name I would just go with flow.