Sissy Boys and Crushed Spirits
June 8, 2011 by p2son
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And of course the treatments did not "work" in the ways that Reker's reported. Kirk did not change, he simply suppressed whole parts of himself. Like many ex-gay survivors he went underground. He took on masculine roles, and according to his sister, avoided love and possible partnership. He ended up moving far away from the US to India where we ultimately took his life at age 38.
This is a tragic tale about the dangers of people who offer help while dishing out colossal harm. People like Alan Chambers of Exodus International. People who run local "ex-gay" ministries. Ministers and Christian therapists who counsel lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender people in their congregations that "change is possible." People who insist that heterosexuality and gender conformity are God's best and the only healthy way to live. People who target girls and boys who do not behave according to society rules regarding gender and desire. People who offer false promises of a happy fulfilling life if one embarks on a straight and very narrow self-abusive path.