Self-indulgent "I met someone" post :)

[Padma]

I went on a date yesterday with a fella - we've been chatting a bit online, but wanted to cut the e-crap and meet face to face. We both like each other a lot, and want to see where this goes. He's bi, and in a polyamorous long-term relationship with a woman, and they're both seeing other people.

I haven't "been" with anyone since my sense of gender homesickness fully woke up these last few months - and I'm wondering how this is going to work. Given who he is, and who I am, I'm pretty confident we can talk and feel our way into it, and he knows the score with my journey (and he's a counsellor and healer) so it's not going to be as chaotic as it could be - but I have no idea how/who I'll want to be with him until it happens. Scary and exciting (and, well, I'm just wanting to celebrate because it's been a while since I met someone I liked who liked me back... )

(damn, his eyes are lovely...)

[Wild Flower]

No one responded to this, and this been around since 5 pm yesterday?

Well congratulations! I am so happy for you, and I think you might find this a good relationship as long as he treats you right!  But what caught me by surprise he's in a poly-relationship, so he might not see you as the ONE, but as ONE of MANY? Is that what you want? Well I know I don't want a poly-relationship, and my new boyfriend... he's really amazing... he's young, semi-attractive, and he's bisexual. He is a law student in college, and will help me in college too. Plus he's buying me clothes right now, and will let me stay with him for free. I think I found the ONE, and I moved onto this one as quickly as possible. I never been with a guy this young, but I sure hope it's worth it. Sure he's 7 years older than me, but I been chatting with 60-50-40 years old men, so this one is new for me.

Plus... he's a very 1950s type guy, which is kind of attractive... so I am so looking forward to being with him. I am going to college too, and then I'll go to the best ones. I haven't brought up my transsexualism issue to him, but I think he'll understand... I hope.

[Robyn]

Congratulations, you two. Best wishes to you.

Stranger things can happen. You could marry an FTM who turns out to be more gay than into women. I did. Not a real problem, though, since we are older than dirt and very faithful/monogamous. (Sure would be nice to experience sex as a woman, though, even at my age.)

Robyn

[Wild Flower]

there's a brothel in Vegas called the Hens or something (legal too) so you could go there and find a young stud to have sex with lol

craigslist is also good, just say "I AM WOMAN AND I WANT SEX!!!!" , say your age in the description
I bet you'll get a lot of responses

At your age, no offense, but I wouldn't even care about getting an STD. Just live in the moment since tomorrow might not happened.

I would be the biggest slut on the planet if I was a 70-something year old woman, sex left and right, day and night. If there were no STDs I would be the biggest whore on the planet, since I have no morals... STDs just scare me, so I'm a virgin. How lame is that?

[Padma]

I'm not looking for "the one" because while I believe in soul mates, I think it's daft to assume we've each only got one of 'em . Anyway, at the moment I'm busy in a new relationship with myself, and I'm quite content with the idea of a part-time lover who will also be my touch buddy. I'm more concerned about the two of them, and whether deciding to be polyamorous in the abstract becomes more loaded once they're both seeing people. Time will tell...

[Wild Flower]

I think "The One" for me doesn't exist... at least not now until I am a woman. He wouldn't love a man... but if I transition he might see me.

If that makes any sense, and I think whoever loves me now is just a lover, but not my soul mate. Plus I think anyone could be a soulmate if they have good qualities.

I want to wake up every morning to the late James Dean or River Phoenix, since I think they would love me the most. But them being dead... not happening. Beauty shouldn't be so important to me, but it is... and I am growing old I am becoming less materialistic and more about looks. I guess now that I SEE that I am hot as F, I want the total package in a man, and I'm not settling for old grandpas who poop in their pants.

[Padma]

I want to wake up with someone sometimes, and with myself sometimes. Anyone who at least has Brad Pitt's collarbones may apply . Seriously though, I've done the "both fall madly in love" thing, completely lost myself, etc. etc., now I'd be happy with something a little less intense and a little more free. But still fiery!

[Wild Flower]

Oh, I can see that too, that's good, falling in love is too committed.

It's better to "be in lust" than to "be in love".

[Padma]

I like both - so long as they're reciprocated! But I don't ever want to lose myself like that again - it was very co-dependant, I was just coming out of a bad marriage, and it would have been much, much better (for everyone!) to have been on my own for a while first. But it was like a drug, seeing "that look" in the eyes of someone I was looking at that way (I coined the term Mutually Assured Distraction).

This fella I'm starting to see, making direct eye contact and letting my eyes (and voice) say "I really like you, so there!" is very enjoyable.

[Cindy]

Oh found the post

He sounds cute, does he plans to emigrate to Australia, no reason to ask just chatting 

Hugs you deserve some pamper and love

Cindy

[Padma]

No emigration plans that I know of - I'm looking forward to meeting his partner (which is part of the plan), and you never know, we might get on well too . Early days, though. But I like early days, lots to look forward to!

[Cindy]

Love my friend

Cindy