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Good luck, Jenn.
The Susan's Place Cheerleading Squad is rooting for you.

Hugs!

First off, I have never been told that I am intersex or that I have Klinefelter Syndrome. However, It seems that I would fit the description.
Other than the fact that I am 69 inches tall instead of over 73 inches, everything else seems to fit.
Male genitals, check
Wide hips. check
Narrow shoulders, check
Gynecomastia (Breasts) check, I am a 38B

What else is there? long legs, long arms, Shirt sleeves an inch too short.
someone mentioned my long fingers.
Weak bones - is that why I broke both wrists. but dense enough for screws to hold the wrist plates.
Delayed speech and standing on my own.
Mental conditions like ADHD and autism.
I took algebra in high school, and I still count on my fingers.

I wonder to what extent the female physical characteristics are? Do I have the smaller organs such as the heart and lungs, causing me to have shortness of breath and chest pains. ( my doctor knows about the chest pains).
My first time wearing high heels, was not all wobbly and they fit properly. Wearing women's shoes, I do not have the foot pain like I had with the men's boots.

To find other things, I had to understand what estrogen did to the male body(trans-woman) thin skin, softer skin etc.

All this can be attributed to low testosterone, and the body at puberty defaulting to female characteristics. But is it still in the normal range?

I got tired of being the bearded lady. The way the little girls would stare, you would think they never saw a bearded lady before.

Growing up in the 50's, there was a lot of gay bashing, even from my own father. he once made a statement that he would kill his own son if turned out to be gay. This is from a man that carried a badge and a gun. I also heard statements about holding down a long haired guy and cut their hair.
Hearing that enough, it could probably turn a gay person homophobic.
This was also a time that cross dressing was a crime, and assumed that all cross dressers were gay. Perhaps this led to the idea that any feminine looking guy was gay, and him getting beaten up in the bathroom. Even in grade school.
Michelle

Of course you know this means war?!
Music is almost always going, especially in the garage!  I don't run anymore.
I like the bath and asper creme.

Like last week, I drove up to Montana (10 hours round trip)  just for the spectacular Aurora Borealis.
Music all the way.
Back 30 years ago, I'd run for hours with Pink Floyd on the Walkman.  Kind of difficult on the obstacle course though.

Have a good time dear, I will run the hot bath for after !

My goodness! "Wisdom?"  My overwrought psyche lashes out.  "Wisdom?"  Really?  We'd better decide what wisdom means in this context and quickly! 

What does wisdom have to do with the way individuals feel and experience LIFE itself!  Wisdom results most often from experience, reflection, and learning.  Like a well of knowledge deepening over time, shaped by encounters with life's challenges and opportunities.  Is it wise to de-transition?  For some it my be pragmatic, prudent, fiscally sound, or however you'd care to bucketize the motivations driving to such an action or categorize the events leading to such a decision.  But, "Wise?"  Best for your social game or maybe self identification?

This discussion harkens to the infinite variations in human self identity.  There are so many iterations of transition that where we/you fall on the spectrum is a fascinating study.  Human sexuality plays its role within its own complexity and expressionism.  Perhaps there are those where the dysphoria could/would never be satisfied and transition has not succeeded for them, or the societal price was/is too high to bear, or maybe the cost in financial resources was/is too high to achieve.  False starts or incomplete transition drive the decision.  Wisdom is likely  not the best word to use in this context.  De-transitioning sounds like a knee jerk reaction rather than a calmly rationalized decision based on "wisdom."  How do I know.

My own story includes varying degrees of mental health services expertise.  I was so disheartened that I took on a psychology degree to see what the hubbub was all about.  I knew "Me".  I didn't need some one else to tell me.  What I saw was mostly where the whole question of "trans-ness" and what to do about it evolved so fast in the last 40 years, those under 45-50 years old are benefiting from the pain, struggles, medical quackery, scientific successes and societal confusion of their seniors (at least in the western culture) AND the situation remains as chaotic as ever.  Just like the chaotic lives of each of us.

For every success story like Danielle/Northern Girl, who is great support and a leading example of achievement, to  those of us who occasionally are correctly gendered or as frequently misgendered, there are unnamed lives churning. Wisdom has little to do with it.

Again, For some it my be pragmatic, prudent, fiscally sound, or however you'd care to decide how to live.  But, "Wise?"