Boy. A smaller than average boy who developed a quick fuse and a drinking problem, but all boy. 

Hugs, Devlyn

When I refer to my childhood, I usually say, "When I was a kid,..."  It works in most contexts, and it avoids both misleading and disclosing.

Thanks @Lilis

A few years ago I got into a discussion on a Trans-exclusionist forum, something I wouldn't do these days. It was quite a bear-pit environment and made me realise that this small minority of women are vocal and vociferous, as well as pretty messed-up.

When I used the adjective cis in front of female, all hell broke loose. They were just women, thank you very much, without qualifying adjectives.

And this is one of several reasons why I reject the idea that we are trans women. NO! There are no qualifying adjectives: we are women.

The term is a broad one. It encompasses many shades of expression and indeed many stages of life, including those who have had to experience the physical and psychological effects of operations as well as those who have gone through menopause. And it includes those with gender incongruence at whatever stage of their transition.

We are all women. No ifs. No buts.

xx

Thank you all very much for your comments and support.
I feel that I should have looked out more for other medical advice, but didn't...until now.
All your comments make all the sense in the world, and now I read my initial message and I see that I needed to be told what you have all told me, which has encouraged me to look further.

After I started this topic and looked elsewhere, I felt as if had a blindfold taken away from me and now see things differently. For all that, thank you for your comments and great advice.

I do continue with my path and transition, but have changed some elements and understood others...so, as I always say, enjoy the way, and that is what I am doing...and learning a lot in the meantime.

Thank you sisters...love u all!

Hello all,

Wow...that must have been a lovely moment

Quote from: Camille58S on July 01, 2025, 09:05:16 PM" I knew there was something I liked about you!"

I will share this most recent moment that I am living with my daughter who is starting to develop her breasts. Her mother is not so present, busy, and I spend a lot of time with her, so I am really enjoying doing her hair (and she does mine too sometimes).

Now that her breasts are starting to develop and she sees the need of her first bra to cover her sensitive area (not so much bra, I do not know how it is called in English), I am being there and it is great fun showing her how to put it on and taking it off and her struggles, which were mine not so long ago.

We have shared painting our nails too (also with my son) and we all share those moments...and they give me my space with them and sharing something mine too. My daughter, well, she looks out to me when asking more girly questions and seeing her develop, also makes me be closer to her.

So, lets see if someone else wants to share some of their happy moments with all of us.
In the meantime, love u all and look out for your best and happiest version of yourself.

I knew I was different to those around me at 4 years old, and I couldn't identify as a boy or girl, so I have just been me all my life. When I talk about my childhood I simply don't use sex terms, and even now, I only use trans female to avoid questions and confusion for those in a binary mindset. If a therapist referred to my child self in binary terms I would correct them. I lived as me, with an obvious female side when I presented as male, and an obvious male side since I have presented as female.

Hugs,

Allie

Discovered

In out

I saw an old car with its hood up not long ago.
What was interesting was that it did not seem to be all crammed in as modern cars are.

Ill try to take your suggestions and advice, thank you. Some people act like we dont belong or fit in with society, its crazy. I hope i never get hurt again, i wish we would just all get along as human beings but some people thrive on hurting and hating others even to the point of committing crimes against us and oppose us so much.

I crossdress and have attracted both unwanted and wanted attention, some guy said i identify as something i dont have i quote. Its insane. But while another guy said i was very beautiful. Of course i was wearing makeup too but all this doesnt define us or who we are and our sense of self, its merely trying to look more feminine. Women didnt always have makeup and some dont even put it on.

I dress male most of the time right now, not a cross between male and female and if i crossdress its all female dressing, no mixing the two. I still have to confirm if im non binary with the therapist. Think i am though.

I dont know about the big cities, that is a maybe, i own land in a very small town. I'm not sure id want to sell it and move somewhere else. The city is only 45 miles away so its relatively close by and near me. I dont know ill think about it to see if that would be the best option. I prefer to live in a more quiet and less chaotic place.

Id like to start over or restart after i decide to transition in order to get a fresh brand new start in life and live as myself easier and nothing reminding others of how i was before or what i looked like, i dont want to take the risk and chance of getting hurt. Its a tough choice and one that scares me a little but also is very exciting to me. That's really awesome about your flower garden and how successful you have been with it and that was very nice and polite and respectful of the commuter, that's some coincidence. I do intend and plan on growing things on my property but no one is going to notice it because my land is so remote and secluded, in the middle of nowhere. I guess i moved out so far off the beaten path is because when i do finally transition no one will know where i live and come bother or harass me. Neighbor is like a mile away and i doubt she'd do anything.