Quote from: LoriDee on May 07, 2024, 07:38:37 AMMy coach's initial assessment is my voice is in the mid to high male range. My laugh is similar, but my cough is awful. I gotta work on that too. 

So much to retrain. Yawns, laughs, burps, coughs. I wonder if I can ever fully do it. Golotoplasty seams like an easier option but even that doesn't work without training. I find I do well reading doing training but as soon as I have to think of what I'm going to say the brain reverts back to old voice. My coach says in time this won't happen but its very frustrating now.

I did from 13 onwards (early 1971 a few months after my birthday). Mum gave me a bag of old clothes to take to the church jumble sale & I took the ones I liked for myself & hid them. I also experimented with makeup.
A few weeks after my 21st birthday I realised I was transgender. I'd often daydreamed of starting a new school as a girl since 7ish.I hated boys haircuts, sports, I was often bullied for being a cissy until I fought back big style at 14ish. I wondered why I could never get a long term girlfriend. I became a hard drinking, brawling poolshooting bad a** girl & boy chasing biker to hide myself.Iwas working on my Triumph motorcycle in late 1978 in a freezing garage. it was so cold I did 30 minutes on 10 minutes inside to warm up. I saw a piece in the paper on a transwoman who had a near identical life to mine & the penny finally dropped! It wasn't going to go away no matter how many drugs I took or how much I drank!

Congrats on the bump up. June will be here before you know it.
Hugs Gina

Quote from: jamieh on Yesterday at 04:38:07 PMGot my pre-op exams on Monday.  Who woulda thunk I'm the picture of health? lol

A friend of mine used to say they were the picture of health -- the 'before' picture!

Congratulations on getting bumped up, and I hope your surgery and recovery are uneventful.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

Quote from: Sarah B on Yesterday at 09:57:52 PMHello Lilis

My name is Sarah B   and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

You mentioned in your first posts:

I looked up your name Lilith and the meaning, a very unusual and unique name,  what intrigues me is why did you choose such a name?  You don't have to say the reasons why.

We are all different in how we perceive ourselves.  I have always been female.  I could never walk in two shoes.  You are not the only one here on Susan's that is either gender fluid or binary.  If you are happy with who you are, then that is the most important thing in the whole world. 

Given the description you have provided above, I would suggest if it is possible take a chromosome test as it could provide more information about why your body went through those puberty changes.  Other than hormonal imbalance.

It's sad that you had to endure being teased and stared at.  No one should ever have to be treated differently from others. 

It's good to hear that such drastic measures did not occur in your life.  Those feelings are always present and keep resurfacing until something is done about them.

Take me for example, the only feelings, I suppose if I was brutally honest occurred over a period of time from 1980 to 1989, my longing and wanting to be a female was growing stronger, however it did not affect me per se. It did not worry me that I was thinking about it. So I left family and friends in 1989, so that I could live my life as a female.  I still had those feelings when I was younger at certain times.

It's good to hear that you are able to share yourself with others and be acknowledged for who you are.  How you go about your life with opinions from others, if it makes you happy, the do it!  I was 30 years old when I changed my life around.

You have a wealth of experience and information here at Susan's, that I never had when I changed my life around.  I came to Susan's Place for the first time in 2010.  It was welcoming then, after leaving Susan's after a couple or years.  I have just come back and it's still welcoming.

Its good to hear that you are considering HRT yes it will feminise your features.  Just remember that whatever you decide to do.  It is up to you to make that final decision on what you do.

You can always tell us what he is up to.  We will not tell him, what you have told us about him.  Information that you tell us in PM (private messages) or on Susan's Discord Forum (private areas) will remain private between those individuals.

No, we are happy to have another like minded soul, that can provide insight to others as other members can learn from your experiences.  In addition other members of Susan's will come along and more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most of us have experienced these as well.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in other forums and threads.  I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something from new members.

Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!
Sarah B
Offical Greeter
@LoriDee
@Northern Star Girl
@ Lilis

Hi Sarah B,

Thanks so much for the warm welcome! It truly means a lot to connect with someone who understands.

I appreciate you sharing your story about transitioning. It's inspiring to hear about your journey.

The idea behind the name Lilith came about in the early days. To be honest in those days I wasn't a very good girl, back then I was only allowed to exist in the nightly hours, especially on Friday's and weekends after heavy drinking and drugging. Living in New York City, during that time I would dress and post salsy images of myself in websites such as craigslist, and other similar websites looking for cis-gender men for sexual pressures. No, I wasn't selling myself I did this because it was the easiest way for me to meet cis-gender men at that time in my situation. This phase in my life is behind me, and today I no longer participate in these dangerous activities. I didn't have a name and I needed something that resonated with my lifestyle, so I did some research and came across the name Lilith on a Google search, after learning who Lilith was from the wikipedia website and having a Christian background the name resonated with me with and the life that I was living.Thankfully I no longer live like this today, but I became attached with the name and kept it, I think Lithith and who I was and who I am have somethings in common.

About the chromosome test I'll definitely consider your suggestion and discuss it with my doctor.

I'm happy to be in a space where I can learn from others and hopefully offer some insights as well.

Thanks again for everything, Sarah B, and everyone for the warm welcome.

Good news! I have come out of hibernation, woke at a "normal" time for the last few days since the weather has picked up. Have to dive into my summer clothes and find something to wear for shopping, skirt and a loose top I think.
 Days like this I just wish I had my dream house, sat out on the patio having breakfast in the sun. If only I had £600k ----------
 Cant decide what to get for dinner tonight, lamb or chicken to make a curry and use up a pot of yogurt. It will be my normal impulse when I stare into the cooler.

early  morning

concertina

Hello Norah

My name is Sarah B   and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

I see that Lori one of our official greeters has greeted you with open arms and in addition other members namely Chrissy and Allie have also said hello.  This is one of the reasons why Susan's is such a friendly place to be.

You said in your introduction post:

Quote from: FinallyTrans on Yesterday at 08:31:32 PMHi all! After many years of holding back, I've finally decided to come out as a trans woman. It's not left my mind since I was like 10, and it's time to be myself finally. I told my therapist this week and it felt like such a weight lifted.

You have taken the first step in realising your dream in telling your therapist.  There are lots of members. where it takes them years to finally acknowledge the truth about themselves and many have memories and thoughts about being different in their childhood.

Quote from: FinallyTrans on Yesterday at 08:31:32 PMI am married, for almost 10 years, so next step is coming out to my wife. I have no idea how she will take it, I'm hopefully but readying myself for anything. I kept this in because I always worried how she would feel about me lying all of these years. I also have kids, but they are young enough to not hate me for this!

There are members who are married and have children.  How their wives and even the children accept you in coming out ranges from total acceptance to rejection.  I only had family and friends and I left them without telling them anything about me.  In other words I was prepared to lose everything.

Quote from: FinallyTrans on Yesterday at 08:31:32 PMI have always felt like a "Norah", so already settled on that name. Idk why!! But anyway, I'm hoping to meet some friends here, listen to stories, and get some advice as I move forward with my transition.

Any advice is appreciated!!

Well there is certainly nothing wrong with Norah.  There is one famous person and that name is Norah Jones, famous American singer.  So you have chosen wisely!  You will certainly meet other members on Susan's and you will also get help from them also, all you have to do is ask and they will help you as much as possible.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the Introductions Forum or other threads and posts.  I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new.

In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most of us have experienced these as well.

Take care and all the best for the future.

Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!
Sarah B
Offical Greeter
@LoriDee
@Northern Star Girl
@FinallyTrans

At the end of my session today, while I still lying on the table, my electrologist said "I'm so sorry, I have to end early today. I'll make it up to you next week."

I said "Oh my god, it's no problem."

And then I sat up put my glasses on and was able to see the time : it was 11:00 am.  My weekly hour begins each Wednesday at 10:00 am.

She was apologizing to me because this week, unlike almost ever other single week, she was NOT working on me for an additional 10, 15, 20 sometimes 30 minutes without charging me.

May each of you find someone even half as wonderful to be part of your team going forward. It would be a blessing indeed.