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Every therapist will have their own approach. Some will ask you questions, some will have you ask them questions you have. I wouldn't worry about it. It will start as a bunch of small talk so you two can get to know each other. That helps you trust them with whatever you want to tell them, and it helps them understand you. It is an important process that helps remove barriers and misunderstandings. You may not even get into any deep discussions right away, not until you are comfortable talking with them.

I am truly happy that you have someone to talk to, someone who can understand and help you on your journey.

I think shaving is a smart idea. If the topper is tugging at the hairs, it could be painful and possibly damage the follicles. You don't need that. I forgot to mention, the prescription strength of the Rogaine they sent me is for men.

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Quote from: LoriDee on Today at 09:23:40 PMMy dermatologist just prescribed Minoxidyl for me. I have only been using it for a week this time. I tried using it pre-transition, but no success. We are hoping that now my body chemistry has changed it will work. I'm not convinced, but it is worth a try.

I use Walker's wig tape and it works very well. I removed the front clips from my topper so I could apply the tape right to the fabric. They also make a Lace Release Spray. It is just rubbing alcohol. Dab it on the tape and it releases the adhesive. No pulling on the skin. It is designed for lace-front wigs to keep the tape from damaging the lace when being pulled off. Try dabbing with a cotton ball wet with alcohol, but be careful. I always get it in my eyes. OUCH!

Is Minoxidyl much stronger than Rogaine? I really know nothing about this at all.

The issue, Lori, is that I do have some hair at the hair line...so the tape is going on that hair...so THAT'S what pulls. So I think if I'm not going to be able to grow enough hair there to bead my topper in, I think I'd rather shave that little bit away to get a cleaner area upon which to tape.

I have my annual physical with my primary care doc next week... I'm thinking maybe I can ask him to prescribe something. I figure it's worth giving it a shot for the next 6-8 weeks while I'm still clipping the topper down, and then if it doesn't work when I'm ready to go "permanent'... I have to make a call.

I would be worn out from all that driving. So glad you were passing through and we got a chance to meet. We will have to do it again sometime.

My dermatologist just prescribed Minoxidyl for me. I have only been using it for a week this time. I tried using it pre-transition, but no success. We are hoping that now my body chemistry has changed it will work. I'm not convinced, but it is worth a try.

I use Walker's wig tape and it works very well. I removed the front clips from my topper so I could apply the tape right to the fabric. They also make a Lace Release Spray. It is just rubbing alcohol. Dab it on the tape and it releases the adhesive. No pulling on the skin. It is designed for lace-front wigs to keep the tape from damaging the lace when being pulled off. Try dabbing with a cotton ball wet with alcohol, but be careful. I always get it in my eyes. OUCH!

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Quote from: RandomStrangerX on Today at 06:09:56 PMHi,

I'm Mateusz(wishing to be Marta someday), 29y old from Poland. I kinda stumbled upon this forum after looking for a place where I can either share my experiences or ask some questions(which I'll probably do right after this introduction). For a long time, I've tried to suppress these feelings that I'm not really a male, which considerably took its toll on my mental health and I definitely need to do something about it.
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And now for the question portion of our show...

Because I'm down to the wood on top of my head (pretty standard MPB), the salon people said I have wonderful hair, but I simply don't have anything in the front on which to attach the topper.

Therefore my topper (currently) has four clips, and in the front I have to put down a small piece of tape. It seems like a PITA to take that on/off on a daily basis... especially because it pulls against what little hair I DO have there.

But the salon people said they know clients who've had good results with Rogaine... and that I should give it a go. Because if I could just get some growth there, it might be enough that when I'm ready to have it beaded in... they could bead it into the front and I wouldn't still have to tape down even the "permanent" version.

The said Rogaine requires application twice per day, and I could grab it from amazon, and why not try it?

So I looked on Amazon and first thing I noticed is there was Rogaine for Men and Rogaine for Women. And each one said NOT for MEN and NOT for WOMEN (but don't say why). And the men's one IS twice a day... the women's isn't... so clearly the salon folks were talking about the men's... very confusing.

The wife and I were a bit concerned that maybe this had some interaction with hormones? So I messaged my endo (wanted to send her my pics anyway) and she said Rogaine has no impact on hormones and either version is ok.. but also, both versions are probably too weak to get much of a result.

So here's the question:

Anyone here have any success with Rogaine?
Which version did you use? Was it one of the "over the counter" ones, or did you get a stronger prescription version (if such a thing exists)?

Are there side effects? I remember hearing facial hair growth in women? I'm spending an hour a week on a table to get rid of that... I don't need to do something at cross purposes with that.

Just curious for any guidance.

Love,
Allie

Buncha stuff to update folks on... and then a topic I need some help on. I think I'll break that up into two posts. Updates first.

Some leftovers from the day on Saturday...

Didn't mention this, but while we were at the salon, my wife was sending update pics to my sisters. I could see their responses on my Apple Watch (she had my phone) but I also had my glasses off most of the time so "see" is used liberally.

So I didn't reply at all until it was all done and we were en route to lunch.

My three sisters were all effusively positive and supportive...in *sigh* their own ways.

One of them, sent a message that basically said "Looks great, are you able, though to pick something different? Like a different style and color? That would be fun, right? Here's a website where you can get toppers. Not sure if you are aware of it. Also, now you just need some better clothes!"

I replied... "Yup.. all set."  Because "WTF are you talking about?" Did not seem like a constructive response.

My other two sisters called me almost immediately, laughing their heads off. We all were. This is just that sister's way. She means absolutely nothing by it. She thinks she's being supportive. She's excited... it's just... dear lord.. it's just a lot.  Oh and to put a button on that story, she's a therapist.  Go figure.

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Also sent that to one of my friends. He knew it was "hair" day... and I said I had photos, and there were three phases, I'm happy to send zero, phase 1, 2 or 3. Whatever he wants. He said bring it on. And he was really positive and funny. In response to the photo I posted here, he sent back a photo of his wife from behind... as my hair is pretty close to her's. He said "I knew I'd seen that somewhere before..."

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Finally connected with my final of my original six friends today. We spoke for an hour. All good (as expected). He just has been monumentally busy and he has been checking in, we just haven't been able to chat. He did tell me that his teenage daughter now wants to meet me. He lives far away, and while I fell like I've known her since she was born.. and I've spoken to her on the phone, we've never met.

But he said now she wants to meet me. "Why?," I said. "Because now you're cool." He said. "But I'm really not," I said. "Oh, I know that," he said. "And believe me, I tried to tell her that. But she doesn't believe me." 😂

He also said this one — which goes in the book. "Hope it's ok to ask, but you know it's the reporter in me. Now that you're doing this? In terms of what I call you? Can I still call you a F***ing A**h*le?"

"Yup," I said. "Hormones really doesn't impact that at all."

"Just checking."

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I have been working on putting the topping on/off by myself the last few days as practice. Rough at first but I'm getting the hang of it. Today I think I nailed the longitude but the latitude was off a bit. But I'll get there. More on all that in the next post when it comes to the topic on which I need some advice...

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Oh and the last update is just a bit of this week's planning... I think we are going to finalize the final letter/list and tell everyone else that needs telling. Just to get that done.

And then Saturday my wife wants us to go to the mall and shop for new glasses (dressed, obviously). I'm all for it. It'll just be the one store, so... works for me!