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Transgender talk / Re: Terrible dysphoria today
Last post by Alana1990 - Today at 12:06:49 PM
Quote from: imallie on Today at 01:28:59 AMHey there Alana -

I'm so so sorry you have to deal with dysphoria. I'm so grateful to have that in my rear view mirror.

All of Lori's tips are great, as are all the other coping techniques mentioned... I always thought everything was worth a shot.

But what I wanted to add was a bit of perspective on two parts of it.

One, like I said I'm really glad it's in my rear view mirror - meaning...this isn't a forever thing. For me, once I started HRT that was it -- dysphoria was a thing of a the past. For others it slowly fades away. For others still, it leaves at other points in a transition. It's different for everyone, but one things for sure, somewhere along the path of a transition.. it will vanish or become so minimal you won't give it any thought.

So ... since it's a temporary thing? I KNOW you've got the inner strength to get through it. Just always remind yourself - this is NOT a permanent thing. This episode will pass, and the whole thing will eventually end. Knowing that really helps.

Second, seeing a beautiful cis woman... or maybe it's not her physical features as much as the way she's put together in her attire, demeanor, lifestyle, etc... certainly can be triggering. I know it got me too. And it was never one type of woman, either.

But again, what helped me to realize is all those things that are triggering you now, those are getting burned onto the vision board of the "new you" in your mind. You don't really think of it that way, but it's true. Something you see just clicks and your brain recognizes some aspect of YOU... so it's like striking a raw nerve.

Does it make it hurt any less. No of course not. But... just know that each time you go through it, you're likely collecting a few more pics for that board.

Lastly... I'm not a public picture sharer (sorry!) but gosh, trust me on this one... If I told you where I started, and where I am all of a sudden in just the last few weeks (my first of ever dressing or going out in public... and now i'm basically full-time)... I look in the mirror and it shocks me. I mean, I'm still not much to actually look at (Lori has actually seen pics so she can confirm this! LOL), but from where I started and how I'm received is quite amazing.

So what I'm saying is... hang in there sweetie, it very much gets better!!

Love,
Allie

Allie, you're 100 percent right when you said the "new you." That's exactly what I'm feeling. I'm feeling a ton of new emotions and feelings that I'm not used to feeling.
#2
Introductions / Re: Hello from Sweet luck
Last post by Sweet luck - Today at 11:57:51 AM
Quote from: Lilis on Today at 09:03:20 AMThe way you captured the lighting here is beautiful, nice smile, I love the nails and the hair.
Thank you for your warm words, dear Lilis! Since you've started GAHT recently as I can see from your signature, I wish you all the best to find yourself and achieve the success. I'm on HRT 4 months already and I know how is exciting to begin with it.
#3
Member Blogs / Re: Marion's Retirement
Last post by Gina P - Today at 11:40:30 AM
Most high efficiency boilers require a pipe to maintain draft. Many times they will drop this down the existing chimney.
#4
Member Blogs / Re: Davina's diary
Last post by Maid Marion - Today at 11:40:02 AM
They call that ethanol over in the States,
I bought a product called ethanol shield for $5 from Walmart to add to gasoline at the end of the lawn mowing season to delay gas going bad. I used to run the lawnmower dry at the end of fall but with climate change I'll do a mid-winter mow to clear the year of leaves and other debris that accumulates.  We didn't get much snow so I'm mowing every four days to use up all the gas before it goes bad.

#5
Transgender talk / Re: Terrible dysphoria today
Last post by she she - Today at 11:20:02 AM
To help with my dysphoria today I'm going to a show to see The Bikers, looks like a cool movie.    I will dress M but I will wear shorts with my nude thigh highs.    That will give me some mental rest at best.   It is hot out and I thought about a skirt and the rest of me looking M.   I have dressed in that style before and I get compliments from cis women, LOL   figure that  ;D 
#6
Introductions / Re: Hello from Sweet luck
Last post by tgirlamg - Today at 10:19:58 AM
Welcome Aboard Ralina!

Congrats on your hair procedure... A wonderful brave step towards the life you seek!...You look absolutely gorgeous in your picture 🤗 Fear Not... Amazing Things Await You!

Onward We Go Brave Sister!

Ashley 💕
#7
Member Blogs / Re: Davina's diary
Last post by davina61 - Today at 10:07:06 AM
Found the noise in mums car, lose heat shield. She could only hear it with her aids in and TBH nothing I could hear , tighten the clip and its fine. While I had it on Ds outside lift I knocked out the dent in the air dam under front bumper, looks better and with a bit of primer and top coat that mum has it looks fine.
 Jump leads of my car onto panel van made it turn over, looks like battery duff. Just need to put clean fuel in it now, warning to anyone with petrol powered machinery that the fuel is only good for about 3 months since they put methanol in it.
 Back home by 2.45, Debs was out. Mum gave me a load of broad (fava ?) beans so shelled them, 2 bags (about a cup) in the freezer and some of the tender ones to go with pasta tomorrow
#8
Introductions / Re: Hello from Sweet luck
Last post by Lilis - Today at 09:03:20 AM
Quote from: Sweet luck on Today at 08:18:51 AMI again forgot how to download pictures here, hmmm

The way you captured the lighting here is beautiful, nice smile, I love the nails and the hair.
#9
Introductions / Re: Hello from Sweet luck
Last post by Sweet luck - Today at 08:19:58 AM
If anyone interested in this hair transplantation I can tell you in details.
#10
Introductions / Re: Hello from Sweet luck
Last post by Sweet luck - Today at 08:18:51 AM
I again forgot how to download pictures here, hmmm