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Hello Robby

My name is Sarah B and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

Where to begin?  That is the question in beginning your journey, if one wants to call it that or in my case how do I help you in some small way.

I have never heard the raw emotions of one letting out how they feel in an introduction post.  It has touched me very much so.  I say to new members, I'm always learning something new and I have certainly have, with the pain you are going to through.

In regards to your posts, I will answer some of the more salient points.  However, I noticed that you have been looking around Susan's Place and I noticed that you came across one of my posts called 'Future me'.

Yes, inspirational in the sense that a journey of a thousand miles, begins with just one step, a very small step or in my case big steps.  It is up to each and every individual to determine how fast or slow they go in achieving their dreams.

In your post that you wrote about in 'Future Me' you said:

Quote from: Robbyv213 on Yesterday at 11:01:16 AMThank you for writing this. It is very inspiring and gives me hope.

I am 37 and for many reasons I feel I can transition for at least 4 years. There is so much wasted time. I don't know if I can wait 4 years, ignoring and repressing her.

Thank you again for your inspirational post

I thank you for your kind words and I wrote this post so that others can have the hope that it is possible to realize their dreams regardless of what happens around them.  Your age should be no barrier as there are children and adults in their 70's changing their lives around.  So age is no reason for you not to start.

As they say; "it's better late than never".  I was 30 years old when I changed my life around and 2 years later I had my surgery.  Although this is not the shortest, I believe the shortest time to change is one year and this is because of the SOC and WPATH guidelines.

There is no point trying to suppressing these feelings, it has never worked and there is to my knowledge, that no one has succeeded in suppressing these feelings.  If suppressed long enough and hard enough these feelings will come back to bite you even harder on the backside.  There are members here on Susan's who can attest to this.

In my blog called Sarah B's Story.  I give a short description and a long winded version of what I did to change my life around, you find it my clicking on the following links.

• Sarah's Race to SRS Part I
• Sarah's Race to SRS Part II preamble

There are other stories by various members and I would suggest, when you get the chance to sit down alone, with a cup of 'coffee' and read that; "you are not alone", in what you are experiencing at this moment in time.

I cannot help, you in regards to your wife and the children, as I never married and I did not have children.  BlueJaye and LoriDee have provided their perspective views in response to your postings.  There are other members were their wives and children have stayed and those that have not.

In my case, I left my family and friends behind and I was prepared never to see them ever again.  They did not know that I was going to change my life around.  I was prepared to sacrifice everything so that I could live my life as a female.

I also suggest that you continue with your 'therapy' whether it is a psychologist, psychiatrist or counsellor that specializes in the area of gender therapy, to help you with your current issues.  Please understand that neither your parents divorce, or the abuse you have suffered or what you have done in your life has contributed the way you feel and want to be.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the various forums and threads.  I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members

In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most members have experienced these as well.

You have mentioned in your very first post that you served in the Marines.  I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your service.

Take care of yourself first and foremost, because if you do not, then how can you care for others as well.  Please ask for help if you need it.  Members will try there utmost to help you and if they are unable to, they usually can point you in the direction that you need to go.  If you need any help then the following link Transgender Help will provide you with contacts, that will enable you to do so.

Take care and all the best for the future.

Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!
Sarah B
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@Robbyv213

I went outside tonight to see if I could see the Northern Lights. We have a clear sky and I can see stars, but no lights. Kristi Noem probably banned them from appearing over South Dakota.

"We have Mount Rushmore. We don't need any fancy lights in the sky."

It could be all the city lights make it nearly impossible to see. I had a similar issue in 1986. I took my four-year-old daughter up on a mountain above the city, away from the lights, so we could photograph Halley's Comet as it went by. She had no clue what we were doing, but I wanted to try to show her. Because the next time the comet passes by Earth, she will be 80 years old. She will be one of the very few people who will have seen Halley's Comet twice in their lifetime.

I still have the pictures, but it is hard to see if you don't know what you are looking for. It just looks like any other star. But I took pictures from the same location a month later, and then comparing the two before and after pictures, you can see that the "star" has moved.

Absolutely gorgeous. It's interesting now that I don't live in Washington State that sometimes it is vieable there now. Yet, in Arizona you have to be in Northern Arizona to possibly see them. Thank you for sharing the picture. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on Yesterday at 02:26:44 PMMay 11, 2024
Be certain to keep you eyes viewing the night sky this week to look for the Northern Lights.
For our members in the Southern Hemisphere, the Southern Lights.

Due to extreme Solar activity the Aurora will be visible in the lower latitudes...
...usually not to far from the horizon.... a sight usually not seen in the low latitudes.

Here where I live further up North in Alaska, the Aurora Borealis is frequently visible
on many cloudless nights...  due to the higher latitude where I am,  the light display is
quite high in the sky.... sometimes nearly overhead.


HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

We can't see the aurora here.  Some friends have take. Photos with long exposures wherein you can see them.

No. Everyone has their own way of transitioning and the steps they need or want to complete. Other than often certain steps are needed to have access to other steps informed consent can help get around early obstacles. I  agree that often therapy is a great early step because can help you all the way along as come across different issues or situations you are facing. Hugs
Mariah

I am on the Resident Council here in my apartment building. It is a resident liaison group that brings complaints and such to management and helps management keep residents informed of policies and upcoming events. At our last Council meeting, we discussed putting in a community garden.

There is one about a block away that repeatedly gets trashed by homeless people. They leave trash and destroy the plants. So we plan to fence off an area only available to residents, and they must contact a Council member to gain access. We have funding for $5,000 for the garden itself, but the fencing falls under a "build" category because we need a property line survey, fencing permits, etc. We have requested the funding for the fence build, but won't receive those funds until later.

I will be curious to see how many residents make use of it. From what I have witnessed, many want a hand-out, not a hand-up. Especially if they have to put in some work to get anything. It is so sad.

Mariah
Again thank you for taking the time to  help out. It is much appreciated. I was also going to try to compile a list as well when I had some extra time

There are couple of different groups. One led by a therapist and the other one is peer to peer. Different resources in regards to doctors/ clinics in regards to trans care plus even a local surgeon. Plus other local LGBTQA+ groups in the area too. A few different therapists too. I would be glad to put a list together and then post in a spot that everyone can make use of. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: Robbyv213 on Yesterday at 08:17:25 PMHello everyone. I am just seeing if there is anyone here local ot phoenix Az and surrounding area. I have used Google to search for some resources here for us, but it seems very few and all located near the city center of Phoenix not so much any suburbs of Phoenix.

Any additional resources or local group meetings would be greatly appreciated. Also any suggestions for specific medical centers or doctors that are good or not afraid to help or give treatment.

Thank you

Robby

I ate broccoli florets, steamed and soft.