wise /wīz/
adjective
1.   Having the ability to discern or judge what is true, right, or lasting; sagacious.
"a wise leader."
2.   Exhibiting common sense; prudent.
"a wise decision."
3.   Shrewd; crafty.
"made a wise move selling the house when he did."
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, 5th Edition 


I think anytime you realize you made a wrong decision; it would be a wise decision to do damage control and to try and undo what you can.    I used the term "Damage Control" because you'll need to weigh cost of undoing vs. stopping vs. continuing.   

This would be like buying a car you can't afford.  Do you sell it and cut your losses, trade it in on something more in line with what you can afford and take some loss, or stick it out and eat a lot of Top Ramen for a few years? 

The most important factor in making a wise decision to detransition would be knowing for sure that you made the wrong decision in the first place.   Not nearly as simple as knowing you bought the wrong car.

Warm Regards,

Paulie.

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Dear Members:
  12 members Birthdays to recognize on May 18, 2024
    Wishing each of you a very Happy Birthday
                 

What are your plans for your Birthday? 
        Dinner out with friends and family?
            Cake?  Candles?  Special trip?

On your Birthday, check your profile for a special gift...

    Again, wishing you well and enjoy your special day.
Warm Regards,
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
                 

Quote from: Leo1997 on Yesterday at 04:57:46 PMHi everyone, i wanted to really ask for some advice about identity and how you all came to realise what you really identify as?

First I had to learn what is Binary vs. Non-Binary? I learned that traditionally, gender has been seen as a binary system: male or female, and that Non-Binary identities challenge this idea and encompass a spectrum of experiences that fall outside those two categories.

Furthermore, I had to understand Non-Binary. I learned some people who identify as Non-Binary may feel like a mix of masculine and feminine genders.Others might feel like they don't have a gender at all (agender) and their gender identity could also be fluid (genderfluid), meaning it changes over time.

Unpopolar opinion I think Non-Binary isn't fully understood, but the medical professionals know there's a wide range of experiences it can represent, and how someone describes their Non-Binary identity is unique to them.

I knew I was Non-Binary, when I can identify with some of those definition above specifically being genderfluid. This means I can be a female for days, weeks, or months, and (or) go back to male for  days, weeks, or months, the degree is not predictable and it's different from person to person.

I'm I Non-Binary, yes.

QuoteA few years ago i first came here under my original account which seems to have been lost asking for advice as to whether i was a transgender woman, but more recently I've began to wonder if i may closer identify with a non binary identity?

Are you? Only you would know, and like others mentioned on their reply the medical professionals can help you decide with this decision.

QuoteI really appreciate it is hard to tell how another person feels internally, but what i really wanted to ask if anyone could share their story on how they became aware that they themselves were non binary, so i can begin to try to understand what i am feeling more clearly.


Thanks as always! Leo

I have a long story, and I don't think it fits here. But long story short, some of my life experiences that let me know that I was Non-Binary was when I discovered my sexual orientation this mean when I am a female I am attracted to cisgender men, and not attracted to other gender identity, for example transgender men or cisgender women.

Also vise versa, when I am a male I am attracted to cisgender and transgender women. And not attracted to other gender identity for example cisgender and transgender men.

Other things that help me decide was my gender expression, this mean how outwardly I show my gender identity to the world. When I am a man yes I only wear traditional cisgender men clothing, and vice versa when I am a female I only wear traditional female clothing.

Again, these are just some examples from my experience, but the Non-Binary identity is vast, hopefully others Non-Binary members can reply to you here with their gender identity, sexual orientation, and gender expressions, or other reasons why they identify under the Non-Binary umbrella,

I hope this helps, and best wishes to you.

A lot of GGs talk about wanting to be different.
If they have stick straight hair they want to have curly hair.
If they have curly hair they want it to be straight.

Then there are critics who want the impossible.
TaylorSwift has talked openly about them.
When it comes to relationships you want someone who likes you just the way you are.
Not what you could or should become.

If you have severe body issues those need to be addressed.
But I don't have them.  I've posted a picture wearing a 2 piece bikini!

Good luck but mostly... have fun!

I consider myself female but most people would say I'm non binary since I'm non op and non HRT.
I socialize freely presenting as female, having a passable figure, voice, and mannerisms.
Which means that even if I identify as male on the phone or in person, the other person will often recognize me as female and identify me as female, forgetting what they knew or what they were told!

It took me a long time to realize that trying to present as a male was futile, that only put in the uncanny valley that made people uncomfortable.
Fortunately I live in New England, where folks are cool with people outside the binary!
I recall an openly transgender girl at a party back around 1987.  A long time ago in New England.
Now Connecticut has gender protection laws.

Hello Danielle

Thank you so much for your kind words and your wisdom, you say to yourself, "but I'm not wise", unfortunately whether you think of those words or not, you are and it simply shows in your writings to the members of Susan's:

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on Yesterday at 11:43:57 AM@Sarah B
Dear Sarah B:
I so very much enjoyed reading about your sweet and caring thoughts
that you expressed for your mum.

As I have already said, "your kind words," do not go unnoticed by me and most of all by others here on Susan's. I'm happy that you enjoyed the post that I wrote.

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on Yesterday at 11:43:57 AM
Many members here that are transitioning or have transitioned do not have,
or may have never had that kind of unconditional support from a parent
and other close family members.

This is what troubled me the most on whether, I posted on the relationship between my mother and her children, especially in regards to me.  It hurts me so deeply that others do not or have some support, bond or connection with their family.

Do I post or do I not post?, it did not matter in the end as I alluded to what I wrote in my above post.  So I posted, knowing it may hurt some and letting others know that family members will love them for who they are.  As time moves forwarded and hopefully acceptance will be come the norm of accepting people who are different from themselves.

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on Yesterday at 11:43:57 AM
Count yourself very fortunate.

Thank you for sharing and for posting your update on your blog thread.
Many HUGS,
Danielle

I know I'm very fortunate, but even it hurts me to some extent knowing that, while others are not so fortunate.

You are most welcome, it was my pleasure in doing so.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
PS Fixed some formatting issues
@Northern Star Girl

Quote from: D'Amalie on Yesterday at 10:13:18 AMOf course you know this means war?!
Music is almost always going, especially in the garage!  I don't run anymore.
I like the bath and asper creme.

Like last week, I drove up to Montana (10 hours round trip)  just for the spectacular Aurora Borealis.
Music all the way.
Back 30 years ago, I'd run for hours with Pink Floyd on the Walkman.  Kind of difficult on the obstacle course though.

When working from home.. yes, I have a soundtrack. Its so well known people on calls even talk at my speaker for me. "Hey Sonos! stop". Biking or walking not so much. I live urban enough I need the feedback to not get hit. I am not that good a cyclist I can ignore the world around me. yet.

~Jenn

Quote from: davina61 on Yesterday at 10:06:40 AMHave a good time dear, I will run the hot bath for after !

Quote from: LoriDee on Yesterday at 11:10:23 AMGood luck, Jenn.
The Susan's Place Cheerleading Squad is rooting for you.

Hugs!

Thanks! I drove in over the a few miles of the course.. and texted my friend "my legs don't like you anymore". HILLS! I am just going to grind it out.

~Jenn