CosmicJoke, I'm so sorry for the pain you've been through.

I've experienced something similar, when I came out, some people walked away.

It hurt.

And I know your connection lasted over a decade, which makes the grief even heavier and more complex.

It's okay to mourn that kind of loss.

But I've also learned that their absence creates space for people who align with who we are.

What's helped me is stepping back from cisgender spaces and connections that can't, or won't, accept and understand me, and instead seeking out community and connection within the LGBTQ+ family.

I hope that helps, even just a little.


~ Lilis 💕🌷

Happy Birthday MM! 🎂🎁

Quote from: Mandy Spencer on Yesterday at 02:04:48 PMThanks so much Lilis - yes, definitely a strength - and something that can't be repressed for too long, although I tried.

You're welcome, Mandy. 💕

Well, from the moment we're born, most of us are told, directly or indirectly, that we have to be one thing, either straight or gay, either a man or a woman.

One gender. One orientation no in between.

And if we don't fit neatly into those boxes, we're labeled as confused, or at least, I was. 

But the truth is, that kind of rigid, binary thinking leaves no room for bisexuality which, by nature, lives in the fluid space between and beyond the binaries.

It isn't confusion, it's complexity, depth, and honesty.

IMO

~ Lilis 💕🌷

Thank you, Danielle. I'll definitely let you all know how it goes.

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Thank you, Anni. I love the new avatar with the orange lilies.

The house is as clean as ever, and we're as ready as we're going to be.

We are in another heat wave, so I got up before sunrise to do stuff in the yard before it got warm!

I had a Trader Joe's waffle heated up my a toaster for breakfast and Trader Joe's dumplings for dinner.  I made my own dipping sauce for the pork gyoza.  I should make dipping sauce more often as I can make it while the dumplings reheat in the frying pan.
The dumplings are fully cooked in a supply chain with no middleman so I'd feel comfortable eating them without cooking if we had a power outage.  Last time we had a prolonged outage I ate everything in the refrigerator!  It is likely that the turnover of food in the West Hartford store is very high.  It doesn't sit around to spoil from bacteria.

Got the golf outfit via UPS yesterday.  The Skort and pants fit just fine.

I found that playing golf lowers my BP and raises my heart rate.

I found it very helpful to talk to my wife about transitioning.  Setting some ground rules about what you can and can't do will do a lot to relieve the stress on your relationship.  My wife would offer her perspective on what it was like growing up female in California.