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Quote from: LoriDee on Today at 08:41:29 PMI think that is a smart way to do it. You don't want to be stuck with something you dislike. That could have the opposite effect and make you less inclined to go out. I went through about four or five wigs before I found the style and color I wanted. There is no hurry since you are just discovering what the two of you can enjoy.

That makes a lot of sense, Lori. I do think the fact that I'm going with a topper will restrict my options in the best of ways... especially since I've been able to slowly acclimate to longer hair (at least in the back and on the sides). My wife keeps saying she can put my hair in a ponytail if I'd like, but there's clearly not enough for that yet.

My electrologist joked that I have enough for a "punytail" -- which is just hilarious in every conceivable way.

My wife keeps saying that all the choices on hair are up to me. But I feel like I'm just being logical when I tell her that SHE will be the one who spends the most time looking at it, so she honestly has a bigger stake in it than I do. I believe that logic is really irrefutable    

Hello Titan,

Welcome to Susan's Place.

We are happy to have you here and welcome your contributions to the discussions. If you are comfortable with doing so, we would like to have you do a short Introduction so we can get to know you better. Danielle has a link to the Introductions Forum in her greeting above. Introductions don't require much, but only share what you are comfortable sharing. She has also given links to site policies and such that you should review.

Again, welcome to Susan's Place.

Lori Dee

Quote from: titan on Today at 05:06:05 PMIn my opinion, you will only stop being trans if you decide to detransition.

Hello Titan,

Welcome to Susan's Place.

Thanks for contributing to the discussions here.

Your opinions are welcome and valid, but I must disagree with you on this one. By definition, being transgender means that your gender identity (how you perceive yourself) does not align with your sex assigned at birth.

Detransitioning does not change that. Sure, you can stop transitioning and go back to playing the role assigned at birth. But that does not stop you from being transgender. And doing such, for most of us, just creates more problems in that detransitioning does not "cure" gender dysphoria. The only way to treat gender dysphoria is to bring the alignment closer together to where dysphoria becomes less of a problem.

Many transgender people do not transition at all because they do not experience gender dysphoria. That is to say, their gender identity does not align with their sex assigned at birth, but that incongruence does not disrupt their lives and they do not feel the need to change the way that gender dysphorics do.

I think that is a smart way to do it. You don't want to be stuck with something you dislike. That could have the opposite effect and make you less inclined to go out. I went through about four or five wigs before I found the style and color I wanted. There is no hurry since you are just discovering what the two of you can enjoy.

Had a bit of a "hairy" discussion with the wife tonight... only in the punny sense of the word, of course.

I have my big hair appointment coming up on the 18th, and we've been talking about it a decent amount. Will I be amenable to changing color? What about length? And the bigger issue - will I be prepared to choose the "permanent" option (where it's attached at the salon and you can live in the topper for weeks), or do we want to go with the clip on option?

What with finally telling the important people in our lives... there's really nothing stopping me from being out in public, so there's a lot of positives to the "permanent" solution... especially as it will spur me to move things forward.

But we've both been a bit hesitant with that.

Tonight, though, I think we came to a conclusion. I said that I think it makes most sense to go with the clip on solution AND do our best to be out in public as much as possible until the next appointment (I believe it's 5-6 weeks between appointments). So that way, if at the next appointment, we decide that we're then ready for the permanent solution? We pull the trigger. If we decide we need another 5-6 weeks, that's what we do.

It's our timeline, and the way we've operated since the beginning is doing everything when we are comfortable together... seems like no reason to change that now. So I think we feel happy that we sorted that out.

As for color, length, style, etc... we have just decided to keep an open mind and lean on the experts at the salon and see what they recommend, and how we like it.

Love,
Allie

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