Couple of updates from today...
Had a missed call from one of my sisters at 3:30 pm today... you know, like three hours past the point when my daily migraines have started for, oh, the last 10 years or so? I swear to God it's like they're all in that movie Momento and they need to get things tattooed on their body because they have no short-term memory. I will call in the morning to see what THAT is about...
Was supposed to hear from one of the two friends I'd yet to connect with today. But he didn't call. Was only mildly concerned because his relationship to time and dates has always been tenuous, at best. He texted later in the day and said he had his days mixed up. We will chat in the morning. But all is good with him.
Still have not really connected with the last friend, other than an immediate text that was supportive, if not curt. But as I may have mentioned he is literally finishing his latest book this week, plus when we spoke last week it was because he needed advice about this new professorship he was being offered... plus he is the midst of some personal family stuff. So were it not for my big news bomb, we'd only be talking this week if he needed my help. So I'm sure when the dust settles we'll have a long chat. Again, not worried.
However, at dinner tonight I finally heard from the oldest of my nephews... one of only 3 on my side I hadn't heard from, and the #1 on our list of "he's probably not going to be ok with this, politically."
He texted because his college reunion is coming up in a few weeks, and while he lives on the west coast, his college is near us. So he wanted to know if he could crash in our house as he'd done in the past. Before I could respond he also texted "Also, thanks for the email. I'm happy for you to live your life how you want."
My wife and I had a good laugh about that.
I mean, it's fine. But it definitely felt like, "Oh damn, I'm asking to stay in their home... I probably should comment on that email from two weeks ago. What can I say which sounds nice but in no way could be used to indicate that I'm supportive of the existence of trans people or their lifestyle."
We really think he nailed it.
Anyway, love the kid... he's always welcome in our home, end of story. And while we chatted about the logistics of him coming, I did not in anyway respond to his second text. Just let it linger.
Love,
Allie
