Welcome to Susan's Place, Adrianna!

You mentioned in one of your posts that you are diagnosed with Aspergers. I  know that can impact a person's communication skills, so let me offer a friendly word. Chrissy, Sarah, Lori, and Marion all offered you a friendly greeting, and you ignored all of them. That's not good communication nor social skills. You just continued with your monologue. That's kind of a cultural taboo.

Try to be friendly to people who are being friendly to you, and you'll make lots of friends here. 

That's free advice. You can take it or leave it, or tell me to pound sand. No skin off my teeth either way.   

See you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Michelle_K on Yesterday at 09:49:23 PMAfter several months I tried to log in only to find my login did not work. So I re-registered.
In July of 2024, I tried rollerskating on the sidewalk outside my home. I fell down and broke both my wrists. In the emergency room I got listed as transgender female. I am assigned male at birth. It may have been the female under clothes that I was wearing, Or the fact that I look like I have been on female hormones.
A long time ago I changed my legal name to Michael. My mother refused to  use my new name. In fact she told everyone that they did not need to use my new name. It was only for legal purposes.
This year I have been to a new dentist and a new eye doctor. At both places I gave the name Michael, and both places mispronounced my name as Michelle. I decided to just go with it, and introduce myself as Michelle when I go in for appointments. Less than a week ago, I had cataract surgery on my second eye. I can see fairly well, although my eyes are still adjusting.
When I broke my wrists, in the hospital I let it slip that my female name was Michelle, and that was the name that was used the whole time. That was the first time I heard the name being used. Once while I was in my room I was a bit confused with the occupational therapist and the doctor discussing something. I kept hearing she and her, and then realized they were talking about me. About a week after I broke my wrists, I had surgery to put plates in my wrists. A week later, I was released to go home as I was to the point that I could take care of myself. I could tie my own shoes.
I've heard the term cutting, and I used the rubber band technique. One day I went through the motion of slitting my wrists without having a knife. It was a weird feeling, like a weight was lifted off me.
The ironic part is I now have scars on my wrists, but they are from the surgery to put plates in my wrists.
My dad cut his wrist when he slipped and broke a jar he was carrying. My mother cut her wrist when she broke my dads whiskey bottle in the sink.
Michelle

At least you still have a few months to not do that. 

Welcome to Susan's Place again. See you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Robbyv213 on Today at 11:06:21 AMI wanted to start a list that I hope everyone will contribute to for the most transgender friendly employers.

I have not come.out yet, and I know that once I do I will.most.likely.not be able to continue to work at my current job. I am a Mercedes Benz mechanic, and it is a very masculine environment, and from working here for 2 and a half years I feel I know where everyone stands when it comes to the topic of transgender people. I could be wrong and they could all be great, but I doubt it...

Anyways I wanted to try and get a list going of employers that seem to be the best or most trans friendly. Also any jobs in general that are great for trans people or that we typically gravitate towards. Thank you in advance

I worked for a defense contractor building control systems for these, and other military systems.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/ADM-160_MALD

I doubt Mercedes is a more masculine environment. I  transitioned on the job and everything was fine...because I wouldn't have accepted it NOT being fine.

Hugs, Devlyn

I am glad you rescheduled your therapy appointments. I understand that reluctance. I felt that way too sometimes. I did not suspect I might be transgender, I only knew that I wanted to find out what was "wrong" with me. When the therapist suggested Gender Dysphoria, I didn't know what they meant. When he explained I might be transgender, I rejected it.

It turns out that I had bad information about what that actually means. I spent two years in therapy before I finally accepted that this is who I am and began my transition. I have no regrets and I am the happiest I have been in my life. I don't mean to keep harping on it, but as a retired therapist myself and my own experience, I know what a great help therapy can be. Look forward to it and you will benefit from it.

Yes I agree the environment will be everything, and I feel that it's hard enough for women in general in the work place yet alone to be trans.

Right now I feel that it would be best to start fresh once I get to a point In transition that I can no longer present as male.

Thank you Lori, I do not know the laws that well. I have scheduled more appointments with my gender identity therapist. I had recently cancelled them all, prob trying to ignore and repress everything, there are many days where I don't want to face the light and everything that may or may not happen when I do.

I have heard good things about Lowe's Home Improvement stores from people who work there.

We have some members here who are/were auto mechanics. My ex-wife was one. It isn't about the job, but the employer environment.

This is a list from 2022 for most LGBTQ+ friendly employers. Not sure how it has changed in the last year or so

https://www.hrc.org/resources/best-places-to-work-for-lgbtq-equality-2022

I totally agree with the sounding board analogy. Sometimes our thinking becomes too focused. We get tunnel vision in our thoughts. A therapist can ask a simple question that makes you take a step back and re-examine from another angle, and maybe gain more insight.