QuoteHer man costume. How interesting that she was born on Halloween, a day of costumes. That man costume never fit her well.

This is why I have never enjoyed Halloween. All my life, I was forced to wear a costume to conform with other's expectations. I only wanted to be myself, and now I refuse to hide who I have become.

When you're in that in-between phase, heavy coats make it difficult for others to gender us properly. Having a colorful purse helps, or coat that is a color more favored by women. We need to have as many visible cues as possible to increase the chances of others getting our pronouns right. I'm sorry that happened to Beth, but it will get better.

Love always -- Jess

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on January 17, 2024, 06:55:41 PMHaving a colorful purse helps

Great suggestion! We talked about this this morning. I remembered two women who carry huge purses. One purse is full of cosmetics. The other has a change of clothes and a sewing kit. She always likes to have a thick heavy math textbook with her (and notebooks, big corded headphones, highlighters, pens, pencils, eraser...) to occupy any down time that might happen.

Mine is half empty, now that it's not full of kid or work stuff. Just sunglasses, wallet, tissues (for my nose and public restrooms that don't have any TP), salve, N95 masks, pens, a few pills, sometimes a snack. Funny how purse contents can vary so much.

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on January 17, 2024, 06:55:41 PMWe need to have as many visible cues as possible to increase the chances of others getting our pronouns right.

Great point! We're helping others to get it right!

Logged in just to say Hi to you, Moonflower. So .. HI!

Quote from: Faith on January 18, 2024, 08:23:06 AMLogged in just to say Hi to you, Moonflower. So .. HI!

Great to see you here again, Faith.

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on January 17, 2024, 06:55:41 PMHaving a colorful purse helps

Done! We looked online yesterday and she found a "travel bag" almost immediately that she liked, which will probably fit all her "purse" stuff, including her 2" 3-ring binder. Goodbye utilitarian dark dirt-colored canvas man-bag!

Quote from: Moonflower on January 22, 2024, 06:06:02 AMDone! We looked online yesterday and she found a "travel bag" almost immediately that she liked, which will probably fit all her "purse" stuff, including her 2" 3-ring binder. Goodbye utilitarian dark dirt-colored canvas man-bag!

Great! Every extra little cue you can add helps. Even just getting into the middle ground where people aren't sure can be a 'win'. It's been my experience that women usually wear more colorful clothing and accessorize more.

Love always -- Jess

@Moonflower
Dear Moonflower:

Your very "special day" ...
          .... your Birthday is on Wednesday, January 24th

Everyone on the Forum is wishing you a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY
                                                                     

I hope that your plans for your Birthday and Special Day are filled with happiness.

                  and with   Friends and Family
                                                    Candles and Cake

Be certain to look at your profile on your Birthday to find a Special Gift.

Warmest Regards and Happy Birthday
Danielle [Northern Star Girl}
                       
           

🎂✨ Happy Birthday, Moonflower! 🌙🌼

Today at Susan's Place, we're lighting up the virtual candles to celebrate a very special day – it's your birthday, Moonflower! 🥳

Your name evokes images of beauty and tranquility, akin to the enchanting flower that blooms under the moon's gentle glow. On this joyous occasion, my wish for you is to feel as cherished and appreciated as you undoubtedly are.

May your birthday be a reflection of the serene and beautiful essence you carry. Picture a garden under the moonlight, peaceful and full of life, just like the year that lies ahead of you, filled with moments of joy, wonder, and contentment.

Here's to a year as wonderful and inspiring as you are, filled with love, laughter, and countless happy memories. 🌟🎉

Sending you all the best wishes,
Susan Larson 🌹🎈

Happy Birthday Moonflower from down under.  I hope you have a wonderful day.

Best wishes, take care and a hug from me
Sarah B

Happy birthday Moonflower!

Chrissy

Happy Birthday, Moonflower! I hope you and your loved ones have a fabulous day!

  

Love always -- Jess

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on January 23, 2024, 09:47:52 PM
Be certain to look at your profile on your Birthday to find a Special Gift.

So sweet!

Quote from: Susan on January 23, 2024, 11:18:23 PM🎂✨ Happy Birthday, Moonflower! 🌙🌼

Thank you dear Susan!

QuoteToday at Susan's Place, we're lighting up the virtual candles to celebrate a very special day – it's your birthday, Moonflower! 🥳

Beautiful!

QuoteYour name evokes images of beauty and tranquility, akin to the enchanting flower that blooms under the moon's gentle glow.

May it be so!

QuoteOn this joyous occasion, my wish for you is to feel as cherished and appreciated as you undoubtedly are.

I do feel cherished and appreciated by many people. It's really nice.

QuoteMay your birthday be a reflection of the serene and beautiful essence you carry.

May such essence be contagious.

QuotePicture a garden under the moonlight, peaceful and full of life, just like the year that lies ahead of you, filled with moments of joy, wonder, and contentment.

May the garden include and bless you.

QuoteHere's to a year as wonderful and inspiring as you are, filled with love, laughter, and countless happy memories. 🌟🎉

May I continue to inspire as I enjoy being here in this place of loving nurturance.

QuoteSending you all the best wishes,
Susan Larson 🌹🎈

Thank you 💝

Happy belated anniversary of the day you were given to our world.  May you continue to grace us so.

Hi Moonflower

Me, I must be just a plain old boring Jane literally.  Why must you ask?  All I have ever basically brought was black leather handbags and purses.  Not long before my mum passed away, she said to me, "I will buy you a new handbag", being considerate, kind and embarrassed that mum would like to buy me a handbag. So I refused, stupid mistake.

It was not that we did not have money to buy such an item and the bag was getting old anyway.  Long story short I should have let her buy me that bag at least, I would have something to remember her by.

By the way, my mobile phone (cell) is black, but the cover is brown, I need to fix that, pronto.  Have a wonderful day and take care.

Best wishes and hugs
Sarah B

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on January 22, 2024, 07:03:42 AMGreat! Every extra little cue you can add helps. Even just getting into the middle ground where people aren't sure can be a 'win'.

Love always -- Jess

My sweetheart switched to her new Female bag, and was instantly rewarded with a shower of female references!

QuoteIt's been my experience that women usually wear more colorful clothing and accessorize more.

My sweetheart certainly gravitates to feminine colors and silhouettes. She's considering jewelry...

Quote from: Moonflower on February 05, 2024, 04:53:38 PMMy sweetheart switched to her new Female bag, and was instantly rewarded with a shower of female references! My sweetheart certainly gravitates to feminine colors and silhouettes. She's considering jewelry...

 

Quote from: Sarah B on January 27, 2024, 06:15:34 AMBy the way, my mobile phone (cell) is black, but the cover is brown, I need to fix that, pronto. 

I got my sweetheart her first smart phone last month. Of course, she chose a swirly pink case. Such fun!

Quote from: Moonflower on February 05, 2024, 04:53:38 PMMy sweetheart switched to her new Female bag, and was instantly rewarded with a shower of female references! My sweetheart certainly gravitates to feminine colors and silhouettes. She's considering jewelry...

Pastels have become more appealing to me over time.

Chrissy