Happy birthday Flan!

Chrissy

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Do you listen to music when you ride competitively or train?


Chrissy

Hi Allison!

Welcome!

Chrissy

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on Today at 07:10:29 AMNo apology needed. I enjoyed all three posts.

I have bitsy breasts and thus often don't bother with an undergarment, but when I do wear a sports bra, I look so much neater.

The quality of your marriage and the quality of your friends are telling. Their good energy comes from your goodness.

Awfully nice of you to say, and greatly appreciated. I do think it really speaks to the character of those I've been lucky enough to surround myself at least as much, though.

Regardless, the bottom line is I know how very lucky I am and do not for one moment take it for granted.   

Well


The weekend is here. I am off to my cycling event which is Sunday. I am grabbing a pasta dinner w/ my youngest in Manhattan tonight. Tomorrow is in-person credentialing and pre-event carbs. Sunday I will be lined up on the George Washington Bridge for a 7 am start. Yeah, I am gonna get up mad stupid early (and frankly, it messes up the times I change patches and take spiro. its the trans life on that.)

My mentor/riding friend/security blanket is a last minute scratch. I am a gonna hitch up my big girl panties and get it done. She and I had a long call last night, to go over the my weekend and ride. I have a plan and its all about following the plan. Plus my legs. I have good legs.

Seriously-- I feel a nervous respect for the course. I am under-trained on hills. Group ride dynamics, a high speed descent, and a technical descent have my attention. Bitches get stuff done.

and on that.. I am off. Enjoy the weekend one and all.

~Jenn

I am glad to know you are seeing a therapist. It is difficult to do all of this totally on your own. The members here are very helpful, but you really need someone on the ground to help you navigate. As a retired hypnotherapist, I understand the value of having that help.

In my own story, I sought therapy for totally different reasons and at first rejected my diagnosis. I then spent two years with my therapist learning and trying to understand what it all meant. There is so much wrong information out there. As I learned what it means to be transgender, I began to see that the psychologist was correct in his diagnosis, and I accepted that this is who I am. Since that time, my therapy has focused on the obstacles I face in transitioning, and how to overcome them or handle those that I cannot.

I wish you all the best in your journey.

What an amazing resource! We're ALWAYS glad to hear about such generous support.

Intersex???

You might be here at Susan's Place for different perspectives on gender identity. This forum shows the beautiful diversity within the transgender community.

Years ago, my wife and I came across an article, probably in Scientific American, about the numerous chromosome variations that can occur. It caught our eye on a magazine rack in a grocery store checkout line! I see that more recent internet articles seem to be updates on that line of research, so you might want to look into it.

We also saw a documentary, "Intersexion: Finding a Place in a Two-Gender World", which she really appreciated as it seemed to validate her experience as a possibly-intersex person.

We're careful about our attitude toward the possibility that she is intersex. Her endocrinologist simply pointed out that her sex characteristics are dominantly male, though she is "missing" masculine characteristics, even before her recent hormone replacement therapy. We don't think that being intersex makes anyone "more" trans, and don't want to try to justify her trans-ness by it, but we do celebrate her apparent chromosomal femaleness, though we have no lab test to prove it. She got her first estrogen blood level: it's "High" for a man, even though she's been on just a small dose of estrogen, which is another reason for celebration, especially after all of the concerns about the health risks from estrogen.

Somehow, we have the belief that if we ever feel the need to justify the reality of her trans-ness, explaining that she might be intersex would somehow make it more believable to transphobes. We use this argument between ourselves sometimes to help us stay connected with the reality of her "condition". We don't ever want to feel like we need that argument. We aim to stay in a supportive social circle, advocating for all transgender people. We especially sympathize with transwomen who are conspicuously masculine. That seems to us to make understanding trans-ism, and transitioning, enormously more difficult.

Thank you for being here. We are rooting for you, no matter what and when you choose to believe and act. We just want to support your journey in whatever ways we can.