I just got my yearly bloodwork done this morning, and when I see my NP I'm going to ask to be put on progesterone.  Cyproterone is a progestin, so it has helped, however from what I have read bioidentical progesterone helps to promote even further feminization, and is better, such as growing the breasts to Tanner 5.

You are doing the right things by staying healthy and allowing the HRT to do its work. I have not had FFS or BA. I did have eye surgery for drooping eyelids and the plastic surgeon did a brow lift and cheek lift at the same time. But it was not considered FFS.

You don't need to jump right to surgery. I asked my surgeon about breast implants and he said he won't do them until the breasts have stopped growing. I am 66 years old, but because I am on HRT, growth is still ongoing and I would have to wait to have that surgery.

You can wear padded push-up bras or even breast forms to enhance your top. Dress in feminine clothing, but be subtle. Look at what others are wearing in your area and adopt their style if possible.

Makeup and jewelry are a big help. Earrings, necklaces, and bracelets that have thin chains or a feminine theme (think hearts, flowers, etc.). With makeup, a little goes a long way. I wear a bit of eyeliner and pink lipstick. Avoid extreme colors like red, blue, or black. Nail polish is another good thing. Using just a few of these and being subtle will send the subconscious cues of femininity and you can pass.

Too often I see women wearing formal dresses to business meetings with too much bright makeup and they look like drag queens. Nothing wrong with drag, but it may not be appropriate for a business meeting or reading to children in a library. The best way to pass is not to stand out screaming "I AM A WOMAN!" The best way is to be subtle and blend in with how other women look.

I hope this helps. Keep reading posts on the forum, as others have shared their tips and advice too. We even have a Beauty sub-forum that might interest you.

I don't think I have, but what comes to mind is where they might be in their transition. If early on maybe they lack confidence to be more outgoing, sort of shy in discussing transition topics. Maybe do not want to discuss them as they are a private thing with them. If later in transition, perhaps would prefer not to hang out in a transgender group, instead preferring to develop cis-gender friends for dating or whatever. Like hiding out among cis-genders so that others would assume that they are too.

I'm just guessing here.

I know very well that president FDR wore dresses as a child. There is even a photo of him in a dress. Pink was for boys and blue was for girls. I'm thinking that for girls the dress had more lace and ribbons. I would not know if in the 1950s the colors were already switched. Somewhere I stated it was more convenient for changing diapers. It was also common to punish a boy by making him wear a dress.
Michelle

Give me coffee for the things I can change.
Give me wine for the things I cannot.

I think you have it right. Talk to the people you want to hear it from you. The rest will take care of themselves.

So as we prepare for this next (and final) round of "the telling" I'm working simultaneously on the note (a fun-sized version of letter) and the list.  One of the list issues is a bit geeky, but it relates to my fantasy baseball league.

And while I know that sounds like a bit of nonsense, our league is one of the oldest in the country — we've been together since 1989. So two of the members were in the original six I've already told, and another of the original six was a founding member of the league who left like 20 years ago.

But even so, the remaining members are all people I've known for quite some time, so they are on the list — except for one member. We have a new guy this year. And him, I barely know at all.

So the question is - do I need to tell him just for the sake of completing the set? Or, more, seriously... is it really nice to tell the others and then immediately ask them to keep a secret from "the new guy"? But on the other hand, this seems like a DRAMATIC elevation in the relationship between me and this new guy, you know? Uncomfortably so — for him, I would gather.

So this morning, I called one of the two league members who knows to get his advice. He is the one who brought the "new guy" into league. And so I thought he'd help me navigate this.

He certainly did.

Because he told me "Oh, uh... yeah, I already told him."

🙄😮🤔😂

I mean, WTF?

He said that the new guy bumped on my long hair at our draft (which was done via Zoom) and when they were talking shortly after my friend got the letter, new guy brought it up again... and, somehow one thing led to another and he told him.  Oh and he was fine with it. He's a doctor and he has patients, blah blah blah... all good.

So as I said to my wife, there are two ways to take this:

1. Be ticked off that, yet again, someone else just has gone and told my story without asking.

2. Look at this like there was an issue, and now that issue is sorted out.

With all the other things going on in our lives, I told her we should absolutely just go with #2. She laughed and agreed.

This is just further proof that we have NO IDEA nor NO CONTROL over who knows ... and once we told my sisters, from that day forward we knew again we never would. Any time we get deluded into thinking that things are operating on our timeline, reality slaps us in the face with a mackerel.

So... now it just means we really need to hurry up and get the note out. Because really as long as we make sure we've told the people whom we want to hear it from us... if/when other people find out was and never really will be in our control.

Love,
Allie

Hi everyone. The situation I am talking about is where maybe you tried to friends with another trans person but then you find they don't want that from you. They are just hostile to you instead.

I found myself in two situations like that and I found there's really nothing I can do about it. I did the best I could.

Have you ever found yourself in that situation?

Unfortunately, completely not passing 😞
I'm always trying to look more feminine, but in my country nobody recognizes me as a female. I have done more than 20-25 full electroepilation procedures on my face, being a few months on HRT (T<0.5 ng/ml, E =98 pg/ml), train my voice regularly. My hair has grown below my shoulders already. I'm not so tall (177sm) and not obese. I have already small, but visible grown up breasts (smth between 0 and 0.5 size). Regularly everyday train my body (yoga, fintess, cycling) and following balanced nutrition diet. But anyway nothing brings me closer to feminine look ((

So what do you think is the proper way to get the pass? Vast FFS with BA?

Quote from: Moonflower on Today at 04:58:39 AMWhat an accomplishment! Huge congratulations! May you use the power of this accomplishment as you approach further challenges.

Thanks!

like I said, if you are seriously in transition you are mentally tough. it just works that way. Same toughness works for transition and cycling.

Jenn

Quote from: imallie on Today at 12:46:52 AMWay to go Jenn! You set a long-term goal and hit it, nothing feels good like that kind of accomplishment! Whoo hoo!

Sorry about the dehydration. Cannot tell you how many times I've seen that sneak up and bite athletes of all ages, sizes and shapes. The good thing is, normally this is a lesson you learn once and don't forget! 😘

Congrats again! Hope your body is already on the mend!!!!

Love,
Allie

Live and learn. I have my finish and that is gold.

I feel recovered. thinking a quick 20 tonight. Who is in?

Jenn