My goodness! "Wisdom?"  My overwrought psyche lashes out.  "Wisdom?"  Really?  We'd better decide what wisdom means in this context and quickly! 

What does wisdom have to do with the way individuals feel and experience LIFE itself!  Wisdom results most often from experience, reflection, and learning.  Like a well of knowledge deepening over time, shaped by encounters with life's challenges and opportunities.  Is it wise to de-transition?  For some it my be pragmatic, prudent, fiscally sound, or however you'd care to bucketize the motivations driving to such an action or categorize the events leading to such a decision.  But, "Wise?"  Best for your social game or maybe self identification?

This discussion harkens to the infinite variations in human self identity.  There are so many iterations of transition that where we/you fall on the spectrum is a fascinating study.  Human sexuality plays its role within its own complexity and expressionism.  Perhaps there are those where the dysphoria could/would never be satisfied and transition has not succeeded for them, or the societal price was/is too high to bear, or maybe the cost in financial resources was/is too high to achieve.  False starts or incomplete transition drive the decision.  Wisdom is likely  not the best word to use in this context.  De-transitioning sounds like a knee jerk reaction rather than a calmly rationalized decision based on "wisdom."  How do I know.

My own story includes varying degrees of mental health services expertise.  I was so disheartened that I took on a psychology degree to see what the hubbub was all about.  I knew "Me".  I didn't need some one else to tell me.  What I saw was mostly where the whole question of "trans-ness" and what to do about it evolved so fast in the last 40 years, those under 45-50 years old are benefiting from the pain, struggles, medical quackery, scientific successes and societal confusion of their seniors (at least in the western culture) AND the situation remains as chaotic as ever.  Just like the chaotic lives of each of us.

For every success story like Danielle/Northern Girl, who is great support and a leading example of achievement, to  those of us who occasionally are correctly gendered or as frequently misgendered, there are unnamed lives churning. Wisdom has little to do with it.

Again, For some it my be pragmatic, prudent, fiscally sound, or however you'd care to decide how to live.  But, "Wise?"

Gender therapy to seek out clarification as needed makes sense to me.

I simply want be a good person who lives out her life as a responsible woman.
I try to do that each day.  I try to be kind and understanding. 

Some days are better or worse than others but that is part of life.

Chrissy

Happy birthday to each of you!

Chrissy

Happy birthday Flan!

Chrissy

Affectionate

Correspondence Correspondents

Do you listen to music when you ride competitively or train?


Chrissy

Hi Allison!

Welcome!

Chrissy

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on May 17, 2024, 07:10:29 AMNo apology needed. I enjoyed all three posts.

I have bitsy breasts and thus often don't bother with an undergarment, but when I do wear a sports bra, I look so much neater.

The quality of your marriage and the quality of your friends are telling. Their good energy comes from your goodness.

Awfully nice of you to say, and greatly appreciated. I do think it really speaks to the character of those I've been lucky enough to surround myself at least as much, though.

Regardless, the bottom line is I know how very lucky I am and do not for one moment take it for granted.   

Well


The weekend is here. I am off to my cycling event which is Sunday. I am grabbing a pasta dinner w/ my youngest in Manhattan tonight. Tomorrow is in-person credentialing and pre-event carbs. Sunday I will be lined up on the George Washington Bridge for a 7 am start. Yeah, I am gonna get up mad stupid early (and frankly, it messes up the times I change patches and take spiro. its the trans life on that.)

My mentor/riding friend/security blanket is a last minute scratch. I am a gonna hitch up my big girl panties and get it done. She and I had a long call last night, to go over the my weekend and ride. I have a plan and its all about following the plan. Plus my legs. I have good legs.

Seriously-- I feel a nervous respect for the course. I am under-trained on hills. Group ride dynamics, a high speed descent, and a technical descent have my attention. Bitches get stuff done.

and on that.. I am off. Enjoy the weekend one and all.

~Jenn