Your story is unremarkable. A lot of people have gone through what you are dealing with. The good thing is there are plenty of solutions.. The hard thing is finding the right one for you.

Take this: You have been dealing with these feelings for a long while now. Tomorrow does not have to be the first day of anything, you have time to feel the way forward. You are talking to a therapist, that is good and a great first start. Explore with your therapist what these feelings mean, where they come from and later on explore some possible solutions. Many people who started this path like you found very different answers. I urge you to find yours and make wise decisions.

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I think you will find that many, if not all of us have had similar experiences. Not exactly the same, but similar. I felt the same way growing up, relating to girls and wanting to hang out with them. I started therapy after three failed marriages to discover what was wrong with me. I had no idea that I might be transgender. But, as you said, my psychologist knew what questions to ask and where to dig.

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Every therapist will have their own approach. Some will ask you questions, some will have you ask them questions you have. I wouldn't worry about it. It will start as a bunch of small talk so you two can get to know each other. That helps you trust them with whatever you want to tell them, and it helps them understand you. It is an important process that helps remove barriers and misunderstandings. You may not even get into any deep discussions right away, not until you are comfortable talking with them.

I am truly happy that you have someone to talk to, someone who can understand and help you on your journey.

I think shaving is a smart idea. If the topper is tugging at the hairs, it could be painful and possibly damage the follicles. You don't need that. I forgot to mention, the prescription strength of the Rogaine they sent me is for men.

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Quote from: LoriDee on Yesterday at 09:23:40 PMMy dermatologist just prescribed Minoxidyl for me. I have only been using it for a week this time. I tried using it pre-transition, but no success. We are hoping that now my body chemistry has changed it will work. I'm not convinced, but it is worth a try.

I use Walker's wig tape and it works very well. I removed the front clips from my topper so I could apply the tape right to the fabric. They also make a Lace Release Spray. It is just rubbing alcohol. Dab it on the tape and it releases the adhesive. No pulling on the skin. It is designed for lace-front wigs to keep the tape from damaging the lace when being pulled off. Try dabbing with a cotton ball wet with alcohol, but be careful. I always get it in my eyes. OUCH!

Is Minoxidyl much stronger than Rogaine? I really know nothing about this at all.

The issue, Lori, is that I do have some hair at the hair line...so the tape is going on that hair...so THAT'S what pulls. So I think if I'm not going to be able to grow enough hair there to bead my topper in, I think I'd rather shave that little bit away to get a cleaner area upon which to tape.

I have my annual physical with my primary care doc next week... I'm thinking maybe I can ask him to prescribe something. I figure it's worth giving it a shot for the next 6-8 weeks while I'm still clipping the topper down, and then if it doesn't work when I'm ready to go "permanent'... I have to make a call.

I would be worn out from all that driving. So glad you were passing through and we got a chance to meet. We will have to do it again sometime.

My dermatologist just prescribed Minoxidyl for me. I have only been using it for a week this time. I tried using it pre-transition, but no success. We are hoping that now my body chemistry has changed it will work. I'm not convinced, but it is worth a try.

I use Walker's wig tape and it works very well. I removed the front clips from my topper so I could apply the tape right to the fabric. They also make a Lace Release Spray. It is just rubbing alcohol. Dab it on the tape and it releases the adhesive. No pulling on the skin. It is designed for lace-front wigs to keep the tape from damaging the lace when being pulled off. Try dabbing with a cotton ball wet with alcohol, but be careful. I always get it in my eyes. OUCH!