I wanted to start a list that I hope everyone will contribute to for the most transgender friendly employers.

I have not come.out yet, and I know that once I do I will.most.likely.not be able to continue to work at my current job. I am a Mercedes Benz mechanic, and it is a very masculine environment, and from working here for 2 and a half years I feel I know where everyone stands when it comes to the topic of transgender people. I could be wrong and they could all be great, but I doubt it...

Anyways I wanted to try and get a list going of employers that seem to be the best or most trans friendly. Also any jobs in general that are great for trans people or that we typically gravitate towards. Thank you in advance

Quote from: Robbyv213 on Today at 10:11:06 AMShe fears she could.lose.custodet of her daughter if I came.out and started to transition.

Robby,

It is good that you are considering the effect your transition will have on others. I am afraid that this is one of those situations where you will need to be a bit more selfish. You must put your own mental health first. You won't be doing anyone any good if you don't.

I do not understand why your wife thinks she could lose custody of her child if you transition. I think that is an unrealistic fear. Your transitioning does not put the child in any danger. There will be people who do not approve, but there are laws against discrimination based on gender identity. Once your mental health professional gives you a diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria, no government agency, including a court, can discriminate against you because you are transgender. It sounds strange, but you are actually more protected by being "out" than when in stealth.

For your wife to lose custody, someone (whoever is complaining) must prove that the child is in danger. Just because they disapprove of you being around is not grounds for removal.

You will encounter many situations like this that will seem like obstacles blocking you from transitioning. 90% of the things we worry about never happen. Focus on what you want to accomplish. Then focus on what you need to do to make it happen. It won't be easy, but if it is what you need to live a free and happy life, it is certainly worth it.

Again, I urge you to have a therapist help guide you through this. Preferably one with experience in gender diversity. Work on communication with your wife. She needs to know what you are going through and how much it affects you. A therapist can help you both get through this. If she feels that she can't handle it after discussing it with a therapist, the therapist can help you deal with that situation too. I think she might be willing to try to understand so that you two can stay together. You will need to help her understand. You are not alone in this.

Hugs!

If you have a surviving divorced spouse, they could get the same Social Security benefits as your surviving spouse if that marriage lasted 10 years or more.

I was able to collect on her benefits when I turned 60.  Later on I can switch to my benefits.

The law is pretty cut and dried where it comes to the rights and responsibilies of married partners.
Not so much when folks are living together.  It can be a big mess sorting things out  an un-married partner passes away.

Have a great week Jenn!

Chrissy

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Quote from: imallie on Today at 10:09:56 AMTherapy this morning. We are on a "when you need it" basis now... and Friday I texted and said "got any time next week?" and she is always accommodating.

What's funny is, after a few weeks of "me, me, me, me" where I feel like all I'm doing is trying to make everyone else feel better by talking about myself -- which should not make sense, by the way... it's very nice to just be able to reset a bit -- even if it does involve, you know, talking about ME some more.

I can do this with my wife, but she needs a break as much as I do.    We took this weekend off, and now this week is shaping up to be a big one, with "hair day" at the end of it which is another jump off another cliff, so it's always nice to have a place to go to get your feet squarely back on the ground first.

And I know there are people who want "answers" from a therapist. I get that. I absolutely feel my therapist gives me real, actionable, common sense advice. But mostly a good therapist is a sounding board. All those things you normally are bouncing off yourself in your head you can see how they land to someone with experience in this area... allowing you to gauge that reaction and course correct if need be.

So yes, big fan of the process of therapy.

Love,
Allie

I love your therapist. With no reservations.



~Jenn

Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences, and advice.

As each day goes by I have to urge to transition more.and more, as quickly as I can.


 I really don't want to wait any long or waste any more time. Unfortunately I'm not sure where my wife stands on this and she has just as.much to lose as I do. She fears she could.lose.custodet of her daughter if I came.out and started to transition. So at the earliest I'd have to wait an additional 4 more years when she is 18 and legally an adult. I am not sure I can wait that long, and there is no guarantee that my wife and I will stay married if I transition anyways. I feel the longer I wait the more crazy things the woman Inside will do so that I can not ignore her any longer.

I know no one is ever fully ready and there is never a perfect time for anything..we can be waiting our entire lives for the right moment that will never come. I am afraid I could lose my wife, but I don't think I could live with myself if I was the cause of her losing custody of her daughter bc I needed to transition.

Therapy this morning. We are on a "when you need it" basis now... and Friday I texted and said "got any time next week?" and she is always accommodating.

What's funny is, after a few weeks of "me, me, me, me" where I feel like all I'm doing is trying to make everyone else feel better by talking about myself -- which should not make sense, by the way... it's very nice to just be able to reset a bit -- even if it does involve, you know, talking about ME some more.

I can do this with my wife, but she needs a break as much as I do.    We took this weekend off, and now this week is shaping up to be a big one, with "hair day" at the end of it which is another jump off another cliff, so it's always nice to have a place to go to get your feet squarely back on the ground first.

And I know there are people who want "answers" from a therapist. I get that. I absolutely feel my therapist gives me real, actionable, common sense advice. But mostly a good therapist is a sounding board. All those things you normally are bouncing off yourself in your head you can see how they land to someone with experience in this area... allowing you to gauge that reaction and course correct if need be.

So yes, big fan of the process of therapy.

Love,
Allie

Of course he is. Executive orders are just grandstanding; they lack any permanence. It's ping pong.


In his first 100 days in office, Biden signed more than 60 executive actions, 24 of which are direct reversals of Trump's policies. Biden has defended the number as necessary to undo what he considers "bad policy" inherited from Trump, especially on immigration."

The executive order in question here was signed in 2021, it isn't scheduled to take effect until August 2024, months before a new president can just rip it up.

Ruling by executive order without proper legislation being enacted helps no one.