Quote from: FinallyTrans on May 08, 2024, 08:31:32 PMit's time to be myself finally. I told my therapist this week and it felt like such a weight lifted.

Yes! Yay Norah!

Quote from: FinallyTransI am married, for almost 10 years, so next step is coming out to my wife. I have no idea how she will take it, I'm hopefully but readying myself for anything. I kept this in because I always worried how she would feel about me lying all of these years. I also have kids, but they are young enough to not hate me for this!
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I'm hoping to meet some friends here, listen to stories, and get some advice as I move forward with my transition.

Any advice is appreciated!!

I hope we can help. What comes to mind is suggesting that you spend a few minutes each day imagining how your wife might respond. Start with the scariest stuff, then replace that with what you really want. Dwell on what you really want, to increase the chances of getting what you want.

I wrote previously,

Quote from: Moonflower on February 17, 2024, 06:12:01 PMI offer my perspective to significant others who feel shocked, betrayed, or severely disappointed by the discovery that their partner, parent, sibling, or child isn't who they thought they were...

I am the significant other/life partner/beloved/ardent admirer of a trans woman...

I discovered that the love of my life is a woman who has a few of the characteristics of a man, but not the core being of a man. Since she was 4 years old, she had put a lot of effort into being the boy and man that she was taught and pressured to be, and it never fit her...

For the past 25 years, I've been encouraging her to feel safe being herself at home alone and then with me. Now she's finding that being herself in public places can be safe and gratifying. Accompanying her is a thrill...

I enjoy hanging out at Susan's Place so much. Many women here have been hurt badly, like my very dear sweetheart. Many have heart-wrenching stories. Like you, they need an ear and open heart.

I hope you'll find this to be a healing place to work through your confusion, overwhelm, and frustration. I hope to encourage you to be a powerful advocate, but you are free to choose a different path. We wish you well, either way.

More recently, I realized that my post-mastectomy treatment decisions -- as a result of cancer -- were as gender affirming as transgender treatment. You are valid!

Quote from: coral on April 28, 2024, 12:54:21 PMSurprised  to see poor ratings for the Dotti patches.  I have used Dotti almost exclusively since I started nearly 5 years ago, as the brand my doctor prescribes and pharmacy provides. 

So far, my wife only has mild irritation from the Dotti patches.

Quote from: coralThe low transfer rate my be part of the reason I have experienced very slow results.  Of course not being allowed to have testosterone blockers has also been a major reason.

She's getting her blood levels checked next week. 🤞

Quote from: LoriDee on April 28, 2024, 02:15:52 PMMy Endo said that testosterone is a much more powerful hormone, so even a little can compete with estrogens.

Eventually, she took me off Spiro and had me taking Eligard (injection every three months) and Casodex tablets. I wonder if that might work for you.

Thanks. We'll consider it. ❤️

Quote from: JackintheBox on April 24, 2024, 11:22:39 AMHey folks, I'm new here

Welcome!

QuoteI'd like to just live a normal life without my past coming to haunt me.

Great question, which is so relevant to many of us. I report "misdirected" mail to my post office. They noted my address with a list of the names that we no longer want mail for, and they return each item to the sender.

QuoteIs there a way I can get my name change records sealed in Michigan?

In New York, you can ask for the record to be sealed when you request the court order. We have access to volunteer lawyers/Cornell University law students who provide free assistance to LGBTQIA+++ people. Perhaps you have a similar service?

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Hi Jenn,

I guess I am a bit late with my comments, I guess life got in the way. I really admire how busy you are keeping yourself occupied with tons of activities and as an advocate for our community. Aside from work and all those other extra-curricular activities there can't be much left for meals and sleep!

I love your story of renaming that conference room at your workplace and you couldn't have picked anybody better than Lynne Conway, as her web site had a huge impression on me when I first read it with gaping mouth some 20 years ago. As a software engineer I also enjoyed reading some of her professional background stories as well.

I have been following your cycling endeavors with particular interest, since I am heavily involved in sports myself and I have a soft spot for folks trying to accomplish a personal goal in any sports discipline. I like how you are getting in shape for the race and wish you the very best for your race in a little over a week from now. Go Jenn! I hope you'll find it an enjoyable experience and will continue to exercise on your bicycle with your friends.

Hugs,

Heidemarie

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I ate a really big dill pickle.  It was good.

One was enough though.