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Somehow I have ended up with most of my friends being straight and cis, and the majority are girls.  I know that a couple of the girls are bi, but really the people I hang out with tend to be all straight women.  I enjoy being with them, but I've just been feeling out of place lately.  It doesn't really bother me much, but I was thinking about this weekend being pride.  I've never been before and was planning on going with a friend who unfortunately has to work that day.  Anyways, I realized that nobody else I know has any interest in going, so I'll probably just end up wandering around by myself. 

I love my friends and enjoy the things we do together, but I'm realizing that there is a whole range of things I would like to do in which they have no interest in getting involved.  I would also like to hang out more with other guys, but I think that'll have to wait until I come across as more male, as being "friends" usually ends up with finding out they're interested in me as a girl. 

I really just need to come out to them as being a guy, and to be honest I'm not sure what's keeping me back other than not having a clue how to bring it up.  I'm chatting with a friend at the moment and keep being on the verge of saying something, but I just can't.  So yeah, I'm sitting here feeling lonely and kind of stupid and thought I'd share.

Quote from: Lee on June 16, 2011, 05:53:27 PM
but I'm realizing that there is a whole range of things I would like to do in which they have no interest in getting involved.  I would also like to hang out more with other guys

Is there no way to combine the two, hon? Find guys who like doing the things you'd like to do and just go do them? It's been my experience that having a shared interest goes a lot of the way towards breaking the ice and forming friendships.

One of my very best friends and the first person I came out to was a straight cisgendered guy who just got home from the marine corps, and I was blown away by his acceptance. It has made our friendship even stronger, and he says if other people have a problem, he will yell at them :p

It just drives home to me that understanding isn't even really required for acceptance, the way he put it was he didn't have to know how a laser worked to see that they were useful. I think it is nice to have friends from a wide spectrum of people, I wouldn't want to limit myself, that being said having a few TG friends IRL would be nice, but one step at a time for me.

Well Lee, if you do wander around by yourself at pride, take that opportunity to meet some people, not very many public situations are safer to tell someone you are really a guy inside. Best of luck with it.

Thanks guys,
Yeah, I just need to get out of my comfort zone.  I love people, but I've become used to traveling in a pack of people that in its own way acts as a great barrier to social interactions. 

I'm just in this weird mopey mood at the moment, and it's nice having somewhere to vent my anxieties.