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Title: Spouse came out to family...
Post by: qUiRkY qUeEn on July 04, 2011, 11:33:01 AM
Post by: qUiRkY qUeEn on July 04, 2011, 11:33:01 AM
Today is the first day we will not spend a holiday with family and I am feeling down in the dumps. My spouse feels like I am putting the blame on her and I am trying not to. I need to find what keeps me happy pretty much. I support my spouses needs to be a female BUT we are in the beginning stages so it is really hard emotionally right now mainly because I am also loosing my family and friends. I know down the road we will make new friends but I am more social right now.. I know what is stopping me from hanging out with friends and family and it is cuz I feel guilty leaving her at home when she is also going thru the same type of stuff I am. I am saying good bye to my husband and hello to my "wife".
I feel there are alot of positives toward being married to a wife instead of a husband, like she runs errands with me, she totally understands me and wants to engage in femme talk with me, better love making, etc..but we have all of our husband and wife pictures up and I try to not look at them because it at times hurts me and I feel guilty for having any good feelings come out of them when I remember those times with my husband. GRRRRRRRRR.... I just want to skip past all this emotional stuff and get to know the "new" life that awaits me. I am really impatient at times. And a worry wart too. We are seeing a therapist and she makes ALL of this sound so easy. I am usually happy and positive but today I can not stop obsessing over what we are loosing do to family not being very supportive right now. (mainly because this is a holiday)
I feel there are alot of positives toward being married to a wife instead of a husband, like she runs errands with me, she totally understands me and wants to engage in femme talk with me, better love making, etc..but we have all of our husband and wife pictures up and I try to not look at them because it at times hurts me and I feel guilty for having any good feelings come out of them when I remember those times with my husband. GRRRRRRRRR.... I just want to skip past all this emotional stuff and get to know the "new" life that awaits me. I am really impatient at times. And a worry wart too. We are seeing a therapist and she makes ALL of this sound so easy. I am usually happy and positive but today I can not stop obsessing over what we are loosing do to family not being very supportive right now. (mainly because this is a holiday)
Title: Re: Spouse came out to family...
Post by: spacial on July 04, 2011, 11:53:47 AM
Post by: spacial on July 04, 2011, 11:53:47 AM
Huggs
Title: Re: Spouse came out to family...
Post by: lifemorewistful on July 04, 2011, 11:58:09 AM
Post by: lifemorewistful on July 04, 2011, 11:58:09 AM
-huge hugs-
It gets better, sweetie! Every day it all becomes easier to understand and enjoy. I know that I was impatient as well. I wanted to be completely ok with everything from the very start, but that a little unrealistic. You have to get used to how things have changed and how they will change. Once that happens, there will be no stopping the two of you.
Much Love!
It gets better, sweetie! Every day it all becomes easier to understand and enjoy. I know that I was impatient as well. I wanted to be completely ok with everything from the very start, but that a little unrealistic. You have to get used to how things have changed and how they will change. Once that happens, there will be no stopping the two of you.
Much Love!
Title: Re: Spouse came out to family...
Post by: qUiRkY qUeEn on July 04, 2011, 07:59:54 PM
Post by: qUiRkY qUeEn on July 04, 2011, 07:59:54 PM
As always thank you for your wonderful support. My spouse told me this is a really hard time for her right now BUT she will want to explore new adventures with me when she is more comfortable. I can understand she feels like she is having an outer body experience dressing in male clothing when we go out and I do not want to push her too much on that..