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Title: Completely missing the point...
Post by: cynthialee on July 06, 2011, 01:52:45 PM
Post by: cynthialee on July 06, 2011, 01:52:45 PM
3 times in the past 20 months I have had people assume I was FTM when they found out I was trans.
Talk about a complete misgendering!
Any funny anedotes along a similar vein you care too share?
Talk about a complete misgendering!
Any funny anedotes along a similar vein you care too share?
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: VeryGnawty on July 06, 2011, 01:58:01 PM
Post by: VeryGnawty on July 06, 2011, 01:58:01 PM
LOL, that is funny.
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: Brent123 on July 07, 2011, 01:18:42 PM
Post by: Brent123 on July 07, 2011, 01:18:42 PM
A lot of people I meet think I'm MTF. I guess its a compliment but I'm not sure. :D
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: sneakersjay on July 07, 2011, 01:22:48 PM
Post by: sneakersjay on July 07, 2011, 01:22:48 PM
On the plus side though, they got your gender right, anyway!
Jay
Jay
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: Padma on July 07, 2011, 01:24:02 PM
Post by: Padma on July 07, 2011, 01:24:02 PM
I've had the FTM thing a few times, because I dress more on the masculine side of the line. I remember feeling very flattered when someone on here admitted they'd been thinking I was an FTM who didn't pass very well :).
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: Hikari on July 07, 2011, 02:32:54 PM
Post by: Hikari on July 07, 2011, 02:32:54 PM
Not quite the same thing, but I get clocked as female fairly often when presenting as male as I am not full time yet, or even on HRT for that matter. Just today even as I was going into a local retailer with my wife the guy taking donations out front says 'hello ladies'.
After this my wife was musing that they probably think we are lesbians (my wife has very short hair, and was wearing jeans and a t-shirt). She wants me to go to the goth club in some of my women's clothes soon, with weeks like this (3 times so far this week people have "mistaken" me as female) I might just do that. I have to admit it has me very excited to get on HRT and do some LHR, I just need to get the money up.
After this my wife was musing that they probably think we are lesbians (my wife has very short hair, and was wearing jeans and a t-shirt). She wants me to go to the goth club in some of my women's clothes soon, with weeks like this (3 times so far this week people have "mistaken" me as female) I might just do that. I have to admit it has me very excited to get on HRT and do some LHR, I just need to get the money up.
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: Shana A on July 07, 2011, 04:43:38 PM
Post by: Shana A on July 07, 2011, 04:43:38 PM
I've had a couple of instances when I said I was trans, people asked which way. I took it as a compliment :D
Z
Z
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: Melody Maia on July 07, 2011, 07:25:18 PM
Post by: Melody Maia on July 07, 2011, 07:25:18 PM
When I started going to my trans support group in Houston, I was very early on and total boy-mode. At the last meeting I finally went dressed. That is when I found out that many of them had thought I was FTM. Similarly, when I went to my support group meeting here in Florida, I found out when I first walked in many in the group couldn't figure out if I was MTF, FTM or just a genetic girl ally. Heh.
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: RhinoP on July 07, 2011, 09:25:40 PM
Post by: RhinoP on July 07, 2011, 09:25:40 PM
I've never had anyone mistake my gender, but then again, I look a lot like this:
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Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: N.Chaos on July 17, 2011, 08:55:59 PM
Post by: N.Chaos on July 17, 2011, 08:55:59 PM
Nothing exactly like this, but about two years ago before I was going out in guy mode, me and Julie had to go to the grocery store later at night. There were some guys trying to sell coupons for some portrait studio, and as we were leaving he calls out after me "Sir, come on back with your wife, you two can get a discount!"
Completely sincere. And clueless of my genetic screwup.
I about died I was so happy XD I just wish button-up shirts still helped for me like back then.
Completely sincere. And clueless of my genetic screwup.
I about died I was so happy XD I just wish button-up shirts still helped for me like back then.
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: Luc on July 18, 2011, 09:18:30 PM
Post by: Luc on July 18, 2011, 09:18:30 PM
When I say I'm trans, people typically think I'm mtf. I always take it as a compliment, considering I'm told by the same people they can't imagine that I ever looked female.
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: ~RoadToTrista~ on July 18, 2011, 09:20:22 PM
Post by: ~RoadToTrista~ on July 18, 2011, 09:20:22 PM
Cynthia, your breasts got huge. o.O
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: Lisbeth on July 19, 2011, 12:21:06 AM
Post by: Lisbeth on July 19, 2011, 12:21:06 AM
I've known several people, including myself, who went through a period when people thought they were FtMs. I don't think it's at all unusual.
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: AbraCadabra on July 19, 2011, 01:36:40 AM
Post by: AbraCadabra on July 19, 2011, 01:36:40 AM
As naughty Lisbeth said it, it also happened to me.
Also during early transition when my hair were shorter.
Was quite taken when it happened in my first support group meeting.
Some other TGs said it be just fine, at least no one thought me being a di*sel-d*ke, heehee.
But your next question be: How's your baby doing?! :-)
Axelle
Also during early transition when my hair were shorter.
Was quite taken when it happened in my first support group meeting.
Some other TGs said it be just fine, at least no one thought me being a di*sel-d*ke, heehee.
But your next question be: How's your baby doing?! :-)
Axelle
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: Muffins on July 19, 2011, 01:52:46 AM
Post by: Muffins on July 19, 2011, 01:52:46 AM
Quote from: Zythyra on July 07, 2011, 04:43:38 PM
I've had a couple of instances when I said I was trans, people asked which way. I took it as a compliment :D
Z
I got this early on (which way comment) at a job interview. I was going for the "open and honest" angle as I figured at the time it was more than obvious and I didn't really know how to handle the situation. I was surprised by his comment and I thought he was being super nice about it all, though in the end his reason for not hiring me was complete and utter BS which made me question his integrity as a whole and more over his "compliment". :/
Title: Re: Completely missing the point...
Post by: jmaxley on July 24, 2011, 06:15:45 AM
Post by: jmaxley on July 24, 2011, 06:15:45 AM
When it first starting going through the gossip mill that I was trans (this was before I ever even told anyone), I had a guy who had been interested in dating me come up to me one day and said he'd heard that I was really a man and wanted to know if it was true and if I still had a penis.