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Title: anyone never coming out?
Post by: yabby on July 06, 2011, 04:48:21 PM
Post by: yabby on July 06, 2011, 04:48:21 PM
I read here a few time, people that decided to never come out to their family (direct family, parents, i am not talking about extended family).
If this is what you did, why? does it mean you will never see your family again?
If this is what you did, why? does it mean you will never see your family again?
Title: Re: anyone never coming out?
Post by: Jennie on July 07, 2011, 04:11:27 AM
Post by: Jennie on July 07, 2011, 04:11:27 AM
I will never come out to my Mom or Dad, I know they would not take it well and they do not look good on what they would term as "one of them".
Plus I figur that I am old enough now and my dad's heart is not too good, I will just not tell them and let them live the rest of there lives. I have told my brother and a few other family members but not my Mon and Dad. Aloha.
Jennie
Plus I figur that I am old enough now and my dad's heart is not too good, I will just not tell them and let them live the rest of there lives. I have told my brother and a few other family members but not my Mon and Dad. Aloha.
Jennie
Title: Re: anyone never coming out?
Post by: Hikari on July 07, 2011, 07:32:32 AM
Post by: Hikari on July 07, 2011, 07:32:32 AM
I don't really plan on coming out to my father, even after transition, but that is more because I just don't plan on talking to him. I am sure he will find out eventually, after all I will tell my brother when I am a bit further along, not like people won't find out anyway, just seems easier to tell them really. Truth be told though, if I never seen either of my parents again i wouldn't be sad, and it has nothing to do with my GID really.
Title: Re: anyone never coming out?
Post by: Sera on July 07, 2011, 09:04:05 AM
Post by: Sera on July 07, 2011, 09:04:05 AM
I see no point in telling anyone anything. It would just create strife. I avoid strife. This is my greatest power, but also my greatest weakness..
Title: Re: anyone never coming out?
Post by: mowdan6 on July 07, 2011, 10:49:31 AM
Post by: mowdan6 on July 07, 2011, 10:49:31 AM
It really is a personal choice. For myself, I told all of my family when I first came out 8 years ago. My parents still don't accept me as their son, so I have very limited contact with them. Not sure what happened to unconditional love, but I guess only a few of us get that lucky.
I just decided to tell them because I did'nt want to have to live in 2 worlds....which would have driven me crazy, especially where I try my best to live an honest life. And, I don't mean that to be an insult to anyone. We all have to decide our own way/best way to transition. There is no one 'right way' to do this stuff.
I just decided to tell them because I did'nt want to have to live in 2 worlds....which would have driven me crazy, especially where I try my best to live an honest life. And, I don't mean that to be an insult to anyone. We all have to decide our own way/best way to transition. There is no one 'right way' to do this stuff.