Community Conversation => Significant Others talk => Topic started by: EliNewGuy on August 09, 2011, 12:51:39 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Help for my sister
Post by: EliNewGuy on August 09, 2011, 12:51:39 AM
Post by: EliNewGuy on August 09, 2011, 12:51:39 AM
Hi SO's,
I have been reading through the titles of threads in this group and searching through PFLAG's site and others and am frustrated because so many resources seem devoted to helping parents and partners cope with us trans folks, but there's very little I can find out there for siblings. Can any of you point me to any resources for siblings? My sister called me tonight and it turns out she's adjusting a lot less well to my coming out process than I'd thought she was. :( I was able to handle it okay tonight but I know I can't always be there for her because some of what she's going through is because of my desire to grow and be authentic, so it's very hard to not get triggered when I hear that that process is basically making her miserable. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks,
Eli
I have been reading through the titles of threads in this group and searching through PFLAG's site and others and am frustrated because so many resources seem devoted to helping parents and partners cope with us trans folks, but there's very little I can find out there for siblings. Can any of you point me to any resources for siblings? My sister called me tonight and it turns out she's adjusting a lot less well to my coming out process than I'd thought she was. :( I was able to handle it okay tonight but I know I can't always be there for her because some of what she's going through is because of my desire to grow and be authentic, so it's very hard to not get triggered when I hear that that process is basically making her miserable. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks,
Eli
Title: Re: Help for my sister
Post by: spacial on August 09, 2011, 08:36:56 AM
Post by: spacial on August 09, 2011, 08:36:56 AM
Eli.
Some may disagree but I suggest the support you should give needs to be basically the same. I know you're looking for answers. But the reality is, there aren't any. It's about understanding, which you seem to have and support.
Some may disagree but I suggest the support you should give needs to be basically the same. I know you're looking for answers. But the reality is, there aren't any. It's about understanding, which you seem to have and support.
Title: Re: Help for my sister
Post by: EliNewGuy on August 09, 2011, 09:25:39 AM
Post by: EliNewGuy on August 09, 2011, 09:25:39 AM
Hi all,
Sorry, I guess I should have clarified my request. I'm not looking for help in how _I_ can support her; I'm looking for online or IRL resources for her to get support separately. Does anyone know of any?
Thanks,
Eli
Sorry, I guess I should have clarified my request. I'm not looking for help in how _I_ can support her; I'm looking for online or IRL resources for her to get support separately. Does anyone know of any?
Thanks,
Eli