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MY MOM IS SO UNSUPPORTIVE!!  :'(

of course it's normal. coming out is a very emotional time. i'm sorry to hear about your mom, i hope things get better for you. it usually takes parents a while to come around to accepting this. good luck, keep your head up darling

Quote from: x1x1 on August 10, 2011, 10:14:27 PM
of course it's normal. coming out is a very emotional time. i'm sorry to hear about your mom, i hope things get better for you. it usually takes parents a while to come around to accepting this. good luck, keep your head up darling

I would tend to agree  :)

The first person I came out to... I cried and she seemed so extremely supportive. I think it's because I felt so vulnerable. I imagine that may be why :(

If the response was as bad as it seems, I think it is perfectly understandable.
It takes some parents a long time to come around though.

Karen.

I certainly hope it is normal, because I have a feeling I'll be doing a lot of it when I finally come out to my family. :(

I think we forget how hard it can be for parents to accept that there little boy/girl is really a girl/boy. They sort of don't always understand. But if they love you they will get around to it. And crying is good for you. Just don't get depressed.

Cindy

If things go well, crying tears of relief would be reasonable for some people.

If things go badly, crying tears of frustration would also be reasonable.

i cryed when i i ask my friend nia.....    about me being a lady.... i cryend when i heard her said yes i do :) <3

I know I did when I had my big "aha" moment. But I was at work, dressed in distinctly manly clothes. Thankfully I am known for being a crier, so I doubt anyone noticed. But it's a big deal, coming out, so full-on weeping is even understandable.

Maybe because it happened SO late in my life, that I came out to MYSELF first... that I finally admitted my 'case' - girl inside - I cried buckets!

At the same time I came out to the only person that I though (at the time) would have some empathy, a male gay friend.
It all happened 3am in the morning, and I'm surprised my keyboard still worked after that first long email when it all poored forth with loads of tears and snot.

In any case, yes and YES again, if we come out, every new relating of it is, initially at least, VERY traumatic. VERY.
And tears are the only thing that try to wash the soul of all the accumulated hurt inside of us.
Yet --- it is nobodies fault, neither is it ours.
It's just what life has handed us and we ARE smart and bright enough to deal with it.

A religious person (I'm actually not really myself), a homeopath I went to the day after it all happened, told me: "God (life) only hands you what you can deal with..." Amen.

The way I was dealing with it was maybe just a bit different to what she had though it would be?
Here I am 1 1/2 years later and 8 days to SRS, only few sad tears now and again, and so often tears of joy these days.

Bless you all babes and dudes :-)
Axelle

Its an emotional time, so yes it's normal.

I was exhilarated at first and then I hit a low point.   I wondered just how much my life was going to change and what made me feel apprehensive was thinking 'how much of my new life will I be able to control?'   With two or three exceptions - which I can live with, one of those I have come to actively enjoy, I have followed my own path at my own pace. 

I am sorry Scarlett that your mother is supportive.  My mother before I formally came out blew hot and cold.  Perhaps you mother feels that you are perhaps playing at being female?   That was something that was uppermost on my mother's mind.   Try sitting down with her an telling her that what you are going through isn't a phase, also reassure her that you won't embarrass her  or the family.   My mother is still somewhat fearful of what the neighbours will think.