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After starting hrt I find myself becoming attracted to people I would never have been attracted to before. These changes are taking me by surprise and I don't feel that I had them before but ignored them.  This leaves me feeling that my sexual orientation is at least a little flexible.

Do you think that a persons sexual orientation is unchanging or can it change with hrt or by some other means? What was your experience on hrt?

HRT had NO effect on my orientation (I identified as a baby dyke from early on).  What I can easily believe happens for some transsexuals is that as they begin their transition, they lose the firm grip on some internalized homophobia that might have existed, whether they realized it was there or not.  Let's face it, there are some who engage in traditional opposite-sex relationships simply to fulfill the societal norm and not because they were really attracted to the opposite sex.

I have also known natal people who were bisexual who simply did not have an absolute affinity for one sex or another.  Not having had that feeling of fluidity, I cannot say if it really exists or if they are just willing to sleep with whoever will have them in their beds (almost a co-dependency thing).   

Quote from: Ann Onymous on August 19, 2011, 12:27:28 PM
HRT had NO effect on my orientation (I identified as a baby dyke from early on).  What I can easily believe happens for some transsexuals is that as they begin their transition, they lose the firm grip on some internalized homophobia that might have existed, whether they realized it was there or not.  Let's face it, there are some who engage in traditional opposite-sex relationships simply to fulfill the societal norm and not because they were really attracted to the opposite sex.

Guilty as charged!

It wasn't homophobia in my case, but lingering childhood fears (the result of the severe abuse I suffered) about what would happen if I simply gave in to all of my natural urges--namely, to transition and date the guys I wanted to date.  I had many gay friends and loved them to pieces, but I was secretly jealous of them for being who they were, because I thought I'd lose my entire world if I expressed my true self.

I had a slight readjustment to my sexual orientation.

I have been openly bisexual for the last 20 years so I am pretty sure it isn't a repressed homophobia or anything.

Prior to HRT I was bisexual with a sexual preferance for men and a romantic preferance for women.
After HRT I find myself still bisexual but I seem to have a preferance for women and I retain my romantic prefeance for women.
Before HRT men were very attractive to me and I had to have a man on occasion.
Now I feel like I could take it or leave it when it comes to men.

However....(there is always a 'however')
Since I started HRT every once and awhile I will see a man so hot that my teeth littleraly start chattering and I start to squirm. This never happened to me prior to HRT. There is something about some men that is so undescribeable desireable and scrumptious that I turn into a bathering idiot when I see one of these men.

Quote from: Zoë Natasha on August 19, 2011, 12:42:52 PM
Guilty as charged!

It wasn't homophobia in my case, but lingering childhood fears (the result of the severe abuse I suffered) about what would happen if I simply gave in to all of my natural urges--namely, to transition and date the guys I wanted to date.  I had many gay friends and loved them to pieces, but I was secretly jealous of them for being who they were, because I thought I'd lose my entire world if I expressed my true self.

I too experience the the severe physical and mental abuse from my parents. I think there a few us that had unfortunately :( I simply conformed to what they and society expected me to be and tried to live out that life until I had enough.  But to answer the question, yes my sexual orientation has changed. I found myself day dreaming of some guys, particularly one guy I know. Then there or those hot guys that smell so good that it drives me nuts. Women, I just don't have the sexual attraction  hardly anymore.

I think there are several things here.

My orientation has changed, I was always 'slightly' bi (don't laugh) but now I'm straight I'm only sexually attracted to guys.

Reasons?
One I'm accepting being me and all that entails.

I enjoy living.

I want to live.

Most guys are repulsive (unwashed and drunk)  but some are really cute.

I like them looking at me.

Mmmm wasn't going to go out tonight but maybe I will >:-)

Cindy

I don't like the idea of my sexual orientation changing, >.> but I guess that's just from my current perspective.

I had a period early on T where I thought I was attracted to women.  It didn't last.  Who knows, maybe I really didn't want to admit I was now a gay man, but duh, I like men.


Jay

I didn't think of myself as anything else than straight guy although not homophobic one. After starting the HRT I discovered not only my bi nature but I realized it was there all along only not in the way I thought of it. While I find women can be attractive I am really interested in men. So I actually led lesbian relationships without being quiet aware of it until now when I desire to be with a men and realize I compromised all these years. I feel quiet liberated now as I just didn't feel like I was gay man in the past. There is nothing wrong with being gay but I feel natural being straight more than ever in my life. Still I don't close all the doors of possibilities. A friend of me coined a term "heteroflexible" which I like very much.

Sexual orientation can change for anyone, at any point in time, hormones or not.

For this reason, I prefer not to identify with a particular orientation.  I'm just a person who likes people.

I completely agree with Alex. Before transition I began to come to terms with my bisexuality - if that's even what I should call it. I suppose I dig everybody, despite their form. Since being on T increases the libido like crazy I've had to outright come to terms with it and just embrace it, which is definitely a healthy thing.

Quote from: Alexmakenoise on August 20, 2011, 12:55:29 PM
Sexual orientation can change for anyone, at any point in time, hormones or not.

Sexual orientation can change, in my case it did and it was done to hormones, before my transition I would have found it repulsive to even consider sleeping with a guy, but now as a woman I just can't stop thinking of hot guys, I love the attention a guy gives me and the feeling of butterflies in my stomach, that never happen me before my transition, I posted about it before here  https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,86615.msg617179.html#msg617179 (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,86615.msg617179.html#msg617179)

Pauline

Quote from: Alexmakenoise on August 20, 2011, 12:55:29 PM
Sexual orientation can change for anyone, at any point in time, hormones or not.

I agree with this. I've always been bi/pan but untill I was 18 I liked women a lot more then men so much so that I identified as a lesbian for a while as I never expected to like a man enough to be with, then for some reason it switched like overnight.