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Title: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 22, 2011, 02:51:46 PM
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 22, 2011, 02:51:46 PM
I'm coming out tonight, I'm tired of this charade I have lived for so long, I know I'll never pass as a girl and frankly at this moment. I. Don't. Care. I 'm having trouble breathing with this weight on my chest. It shouldn't be like this,it shouldn't be something to be afraid of but I can't help but be scared I can't help the tears and the pain. But I refuse it I refuse this role that was handed to me at birth! I am a girl damn it and I will be one if only in my eyes.
This isn't a poor me post, this isn't to have unneeded sympathy or whatever from others, this is just to get my thoughts out somewhere *sigh*
This isn't a poor me post, this isn't to have unneeded sympathy or whatever from others, this is just to get my thoughts out somewhere *sigh*
Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: Venus-Castina on August 22, 2011, 03:04:04 PM
Post by: Venus-Castina on August 22, 2011, 03:04:04 PM
Good luck dear, let us know how it went.
Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 22, 2011, 03:06:53 PM
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 22, 2011, 03:06:53 PM
Yeah, I hope it goes well too, but quite frankly I just want it out in the open I really can't stand this. 10 years is far to long of repressing.
Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: madirocks on August 22, 2011, 04:34:37 PM
Post by: madirocks on August 22, 2011, 04:34:37 PM
Best of luck indeed.
I felt the same way before coming out, and although it's easier said than done please try to relax. After a day of anxiety and no sleep the person I came out too wasn't even bothered, and even mentioned that it would've been easier to understand had I been more relaxed.
So, do yourself a favour, have some tea, put on your favourite song, and go for a nice walk. Relaxing will help the conversation go smoothly. :)
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I felt the same way before coming out, and although it's easier said than done please try to relax. After a day of anxiety and no sleep the person I came out too wasn't even bothered, and even mentioned that it would've been easier to understand had I been more relaxed.
So, do yourself a favour, have some tea, put on your favourite song, and go for a nice walk. Relaxing will help the conversation go smoothly. :)
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Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 22, 2011, 06:17:58 PM
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 22, 2011, 06:17:58 PM
Thank you for the advice, and yeah I have spent the time since the last post on here just laying down listening to music on repeat and hugging my stuff bear I've had since I was 5. I think I know what I'll say I just hope it comes out right....
Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: madirocks on August 22, 2011, 06:36:44 PM
Post by: madirocks on August 22, 2011, 06:36:44 PM
You're welcome! :) I'm glad you're taking the time to relax. That's very important. And try not to stress out whether it will come out correctly or not. Just keep a clear mind, and be prepared to ask informational questions. And maybe throw in a giggle every now and then. :) People tend to be on edge, when the person they're talking to is as well.
Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 22, 2011, 08:33:20 PM
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 22, 2011, 08:33:20 PM
Well I did it....I told my mom, she was very confused at what I told her, but she said that she will accept me no matter what.
She also said that she can't begin to imagine how I feel and that she's sorry for not being able to....
I also told her I was bisexual, another bomb shell. But again she said she loves me,
I guess this is the best possible outcome but I still feel utterly shaken about telling her, the only thing she asks of me is that I go see a therapist and see if I truly want this or that I am just confused.
*Btw sorry if this is poorly written I am still shook up at what I just did*
going to bed need to sleep after this, so exhausted....
She also said that she can't begin to imagine how I feel and that she's sorry for not being able to....
I also told her I was bisexual, another bomb shell. But again she said she loves me,
I guess this is the best possible outcome but I still feel utterly shaken about telling her, the only thing she asks of me is that I go see a therapist and see if I truly want this or that I am just confused.
*Btw sorry if this is poorly written I am still shook up at what I just did*
going to bed need to sleep after this, so exhausted....
Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: Hikari on August 22, 2011, 08:50:58 PM
Post by: Hikari on August 22, 2011, 08:50:58 PM
Seems like that was a good start, best of luck with telling the others. And congratulations, it is a big step to part with such a big secret.
Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: caitlin_adams on August 23, 2011, 06:43:09 AM
Post by: caitlin_adams on August 23, 2011, 06:43:09 AM
Your Mum is awesome.
My Mum basically said the same thing but I was too embarrassed to go and see a therapist. Biggest mistake of my life.
She's offering you help, a path to safety. Take it!
BTW congratulations :) that takes a lot of courage.
My Mum basically said the same thing but I was too embarrassed to go and see a therapist. Biggest mistake of my life.
She's offering you help, a path to safety. Take it!
BTW congratulations :) that takes a lot of courage.
Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 23, 2011, 07:22:26 AM
Post by: Sam(my)I am on August 23, 2011, 07:22:26 AM
Quote from: caitlin_adams on August 23, 2011, 06:43:09 AM
Your Mum is awesome.
My Mum basically said the same thing but I was too embarrassed to go and see a therapist. Biggest mistake of my life.
She's offering you help, a path to safety. Take it!
BTW congratulations :) that takes a lot of courage.
I will, and yeah she's been a great mom. Thanks but I didn't feel courageous I just felt frustrated enough to do it :P
Title: Re: 6hours and I'm doing it
Post by: kristin? on August 23, 2011, 08:49:58 AM
Post by: kristin? on August 23, 2011, 08:49:58 AM
Quote from: Sam(my)I am on August 22, 2011, 08:33:20 PM
Well I did it....I told my mom, she was very confused at what I told her, but she said that she will accept me no matter what.
She also said that she can't begin to imagine how I feel and that she's sorry for not being able to....
I also told her I was bisexual, another bomb shell. But again she said she loves me,
I guess this is the best possible outcome but I still feel utterly shaken about telling her, the only thing she asks of me is that I go see a therapist and see if I truly want this or that I am just confused.
*Btw sorry if this is poorly written I am still shook up at what I just did*
going to bed need to sleep after this, so exhausted....
Congratulations! I can only wish my parents would be so supportive, you have it very lucky :)