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There is a post-op peer support group here with a private forum in Just For Us- you have to be a member of the post-op peer support group to see it.  It's not at all active (last post in there was last November) but I'm not sure how many even know about it.  Anyway just FYI if any post-ops want to join.

Mmmm, interesting. I also didn't know it existed. Thanks Fairygirl

I didn't either

I'd like to join.  How do I do it?

Quote from: Re: Joyce on August 27, 2011, 11:28:50 AM
I'd like to join.  How do I do it?

Are you post-op?  I'll add you. :)

Quote from: Forum Admin on August 27, 2011, 12:44:51 PM
Are you post-op?  I'll add you. :)

I'm post-op I would also like to join.

Thanks!
-Sandy


Update: Nevermind.  Apparently I already am subscribed.  Thanks!

I want to join

post op, wanting to join as well - thanks

Quote from: Forum Admin on August 27, 2011, 12:44:51 PM
Are you post-op?  I'll add you. :)

I am a post-op McGinn Girl.

     I'd be pleased if you'd add me to the group.

     Thank you.

thanx Val

Quote from: FairyGirl on August 27, 2011, 03:34:55 AM
There is a post-op peer support group here with a private forum in Just For Us- you have to be a member of the post-op peer support group to see it.  It's not at all active (last post in there was last November) but I'm not sure how many even know about it.  Anyway just FYI if any post-ops want to join.

Im getting my surgery in 5 weeks. Would this apply to me too?

Thanks!

Well I am at a loss. I looked in the profile area under groups but didnt see any thing.
I thought this was a post op area...

Maybe I'm just blond tonight.

Wow I didn't know. Cool thanks =)

Given many of the problems perculiar to post-op members, this is a wonderful idea.

I confess, I didn't know about it either, but am pleased that it is obviously confidential.

I will like to make a polite, if urgent appeal to post-op members of thiis section. Don't forget about us.

How do i join, i am post op May 9 2011.

Paula

Quote from: paulault55 on September 01, 2011, 11:54:03 AM
How do i join, i am post op May 9 2011.

Paula

As Val mentioned:

Quote from: Valeriedances on August 28, 2011, 09:59:56 PM
There is an orange button (Modify Profile) in Account Settings that is a dropdown. Group Membership is at the bottom of the list.

Lets get active :)

Hmph... I've been pending approval for a few days now?

Sometimes it takes them a few days.  If you haven't heard anything in a week you could send a private message to Forum Admin and I'm sure he will help you out.

Sigh. I have almost given up trying to contact the admins.
I'd like to fix my old account email addy.

Can the forum Admin contact me?

Please add me to the post op group.  Also, if ya haven't noticed, I'm trying to get in enough posts to have a profile today.  Slow day at work!  I am 1.5 years post op (Meltzer) and I think I have a lot to contribute to this group.

Quote from: IamJulie on September 01, 2011, 04:01:06 PM
Sigh. I have almost given up trying to contact the admins.
I'd like to fix my old account email addy.

Can the forum Admin contact me?

How do I find this area?

Quote from: Valeriedances on August 28, 2011, 08:17:35 AM
Group membership can be requested in the Profile section under Modify Profile - Group Membership.

Julie, it is in the "Just For Us" section and the name of the board is simply called "Post-Ops".  I'm not sure if your post-count affects the visibility of these areas or not, but it's possible there is a minimum count to be able to see it.

Thanks. I am trying to get my old account repaired so I can revert back
Account wise, not.... Never mind  :)

Hows the spring in Manly?

I applied for membership in "post-op" and it seems I have it in my membership list now (said pending earlier). However, there is no forum section called "Just For Us" anywhere that I can find either :(
Is this "just for us" supposed to show up in the list of forums, just like "transsexual talk" or something like that? 

I don't particularly want to make lots of posts about nothing to be able to get in, and post-op issues is pretty much the only thing where I have something to contribute (and to learn for that matter).

Hi Thriss,

There is a main category called "Community Conversation" (the second category, just under News and Information").  The first forum in the Community Conversation category is "Just For Us".  There is a sub-forum in "Just For Us" called "Post-Ops".

May I be added to the Post-Ops forum? Thank you.

Quote from: FairyGirl on September 27, 2011, 04:28:22 PM
Hi Thriss,

There is a main category called "Community Conversation" (the second category, just under News and Information").  The first forum in the Community Conversation category is "Just For Us".  There is a sub-forum in "Just For Us" called "Post-Ops".

Thank you, at least now I know where it is supposed to be. The first forum under Community Conversation is Transgender Talk in my list and a search for "just for us" on the main forum page results in nothing :) It must be related to my number of posts or something. I bet it solves itself if I start posting instead of reading :)

Quote from: Annah on August 28, 2011, 12:02:18 PM
I'm getting my surgery in 5 weeks. Would this apply to me too?

Thanks!

Hi Annah,
Must be real close now. Be thinking of you. Hope everything goes REALLY well for you
Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa luv
Catherine

Quote from: Annah on August 28, 2011, 12:02:18 PM
Im getting my surgery in 5 weeks. Would this apply to me too?

Thanks!

Um, you posted this in the post-op forum like it was a fact to get access to a private area meant for post-ops. How did your surgery go? You should be recovering and dilating now...

Quote from: Valeriedoeswcs on October 27, 2011, 06:44:30 AM
Um, you posted this in the post-op forum like it was a fact to get access to a private area meant for post-ops. How did your surgery go? You should be recovering and dilating now...

me telling you the day I have surgery and me telling you exactly when I am dilating is none of your concern nor is it your business. Only my closest friends and family knows of my medical history. You are not on that list.

And smiting me over it will not force me to put you on that list.

Its everyones business in the post-op forum since this is where you posted it.

It's actually whoever's business she wants it to be.

Nice try, though.

Well, well still sticky stuff as ever there is...

This forum -post-op- is VERY non active so far, still.

Seems we [post-ops] still get our kicks on route 66, the main forum, like: "Saturday night is good for fighting..." hey ;-)

There ARE some post-op issues though, that seem in a better place there, rather then in the main accessable -Post Operative Life- one.

My 2 cents on that item,
Axelle

Quote from: Valeriedoeswcs on October 27, 2011, 07:49:23 AM
Its everyones business in the post-op forum since this is where you posted it.

negatory.

Your quote speaks for itself. 5 weeks... It was a statement and question directed at post-ops hence my response.

I for one dont believe the statement is true. Why come into this forum and post then?

Valerie.  Love you to death, but people are allowed to post whatever they feel comfortable posting and keep the rest personal.

Quote from: Valeriedoeswcs on October 27, 2011, 08:15:05 AM
Your quote speaks for itself. 5 weeks... It was a statement and question directed at post-ops hence my response.

I for one dont believe the statement is true. Why come into this forum and post then?

Valerie, trust me. I am not going to lose sleep tonight if you believe me or not. It's not one of those things I worry about.

This forum, called Post-op Life, is meant for those bleeding, hurting, in pain, recovering, scared, needing support. Please do not post here unless you are going through that or are supporting those that are. That goes for everyone. It is disrespectful.

Out of respect for those of us going through or have gone through that keep your posts in the other forums.

Quote from: Valeriedoeswcs on October 27, 2011, 08:34:53 AM
This forum, called Post-op Life, is meant for those bleeding, hurting, in pain, recovering, scared, needing support. Please do not post here unless you are going through that or are supporting those that are. That goes for everyone. It is disrespectful.

Out of respect for those of us going through or have gone through that keep your posts in the other forums.

Valerie, I can understand the fascination with other people's vaginas.  I find them to be pretty darn cool, personally.  That doesn't mean you can call it disrespectful when they don't want to bring up what is entirely their business.

Quote from: Wonderdyke on October 27, 2011, 08:45:55 AM
Valerie, I can understand the fascination with other people's vaginas.  I find them to be pretty darn cool, personally.  That doesn't mean you can call it disrespectful when they don't want to bring up what is entirely their business.

exactly. Thank you.

 :police: Just a general reminder that this is a part of Susan's Place, and subject to the ToS, which include not making personal attacks on each other. Please keep things civil. :police:

Quote from: Joandelynn on October 27, 2011, 08:56:22 AM
Well, I do think Valerie has a point. On the 14th (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,105944.msg812008.html#msg812008) you said you still have to get your surgery. You have been posting here every day since then, which is a bit odd for someone who has to undergo invasive surgery. Also, earlier this year (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,102473.msg759968.html#msg759968) you said you would get your surgery in 2012.

Something is fishy here...

My surgery is also next year, but let's pretend I've already got it so I can also get access to that forum.

As I mentioned, my medical status is of no one's concern. You can come up with conjectures and ideas all you want. I am not going into dilating details and such. I even had people PM me about it and I still will not say. This is my medical journey and not yours. I will disclose my medical issues and events when I see fit or when I wish to

Quote from: Joandelynn on October 27, 2011, 09:14:07 AM
I didn't mean it as a personal attack. After being around on transgender forums for about 3 years I've learned that a lot of people on these forums are not who they claim to be. This has made me pretty paranoid, especially when things don't add up.

I actually agree with Annah that her medical status is nobody's business. But in that case one can wonder if it's smart to ask access to a closed forum that requires you to be open about your medical status.

If I have to give access of my medical status and intimate details to dilating, etc., to complete strangers in order to chat in a particular forum, then i will gladly forfeit the right to talk in that forum. My privacy is much more important to me than where I can post in.

And since you spent a great deal looking through my posts you will also see the very limited number of posts (1) that was posted in the Post Op section besides the events that occurred today.

Quote from: Joandelynn on October 27, 2011, 09:14:07 AM
I didn't mean it as a personal attack. After being around on transgender forums for about 3 years I've learned that a lot of people on these forums are not who they claim to be. This has made me pretty paranoid, especially when things don't add up.

I actually agree with Annah that her medical status is nobody's business. But in that case one can wonder if it's smart to ask access to a closed forum that requires you to be open about your medical status.

I wasn't singling anyone out here, just making a general reminder to try to keep cool heads when discussing a hot topic.

I have a question here, though: is it in fact laid down somewhere that to have access to this closed forum, you are required to be open about your medical status? I'm asking this as a mod, in the collective interest of anyone who wishes to join this closed forum, and should then know in advance what is expected of them, and by whom.

No one has to be open publicly to request access to an area, of course. There does have to be a written request to an admin advising of your post-op status, since it is a restricted area.

I do not believe anyone, especially a prolific writer who discusses everything else trans related and is well known for arguing with post-ops, would keep quiet about their post-op status and having a vagina. It just didnt happen.

If it was rescheduled or a change of heart then just say. Everyone would understand. There have been plenty of people who have backed out of surgery. I met one in Montreal that changed her mind for the third time.

QuoteIf I have to give access of my medical status and intimate details to dilating, etc., to complete strangers ...

Seriously, Annah... are you secretly dilating?

* ...is it in fact laid down somewhere that to have access to this closed forum, you are required to be open about your medical status? *

The answer to that question is: NO.

But I also should suggest to stick to post-op issues and items over here, as Val pointed out. It is -Post-Op Life-, not -Pre- Post-op Life-... and getting all sticky when asked a simple question.

In my case I had no issue what so ever to explain in a few sentences why my original SRS date 15. June 2011 was delayed, i.e. I had emergency brain surgery 9. June 2011. No big secret that was, as also I was very distressed and looked for support.

Visitors are welcome here I found, but not really for the sake of picking on post-ops... if you please.

...
Axelle

Quote from: Axélle on October 27, 2011, 09:37:29 AM
* ...is it in fact laid down somewhere that to have access to this closed forum, you are required to be open about your medical status? *

The answer to that question is: NO.

But I also should suggest to stick to post-op issues and items over here, as Val pointed out. It is -Post-Op Life-, not -Pre- Post-op Life-... and getting all sticky when asked a simple question.

In my case I had no issue what so ever to explain in a few sentences why my original SRS date 15. June 2011 was delayed, i.e. I had emergency brain surgery 9. June 2011. No big secret that was, as also I was very distressed and looked for support.

Visitors are welcome here I found, but not really for the sake of picking on post-ops... if you please.

...
Axelle

While I appreciate the concern, I don't really think the fact that I don't have a vulva right now has any bearing on whether I can support someone's decision to their own privacy, and it's not 'picking on the post-ops' to do so, unless you think someone else's genitals are your business, in which case that's weird.

The Post Op Group (in the Just For Us area) is just that, Post Ops.  Not almost post op, not going to be post op one day, Post Op (Susan's Staff has access to all areas for moderating purposes).

Quote from: Wonderdyke on October 27, 2011, 10:05:18 AM
While I appreciate the concern, I don't really think the fact that I don't have a vulva right now has any bearing on whether I can support someone's decision to their own privacy, and it's not 'picking on the post-ops' to do so, unless you think someone else's genitals are your business, in which case that's weird.

Hi Rebekah. If you told me you were having surgery in a few weeks I would ask you about it. If you posted it publicly I would ask you about it publicly.

I will be thinking of you when your surgery comes up. We are a community however much we argue and this is something important. Be sure I will be thinking of you.

If you tell me its private and you dont wish to discuss it, of course I would respect that. The least you could do for a community you devote so much time to is to at least say whether you have had your planned surgery or not.

Quote from: Sarah Louise on October 27, 2011, 10:11:44 AM
The Post Op Group (in the Just For Us area) is just that, Post Ops.  Not almost post op, not going to be post op one day, Post Op (Susan's Staff has access to all areas for moderating purposes).

I agree with that, but that isn't what this whole thing was about. She challenged me on my medical history. I have no desire to tell her or anyone here my medical history. If this prevents me from posting here then I will not do it and if you can see, I have only posted once in this post op section...so this issue isn't a concern for me nor am I trying to fight for the right to post in a post op section. The only reason why I was posting again was to defend myself against someone telling me I am a liar.

I am sure, if someone accused you of that, you would defend yourself as well.

Where we are talking right now is not in the Just For Us area, you are free to post away.

But the original topic was about the Post Op Group in the Just For Us area.

Quote from: Valeriedoeswcs on October 27, 2011, 10:13:56 AM
The least you could do for a community you devote so much time to is to at least say whether you have had your planned surgery or not.

I also devote much of my time eslewhere. That is not a medical pass or a HIPAA agreement between me and the people I talk to. My medical history, any surgery details, etc., will not be discussed by people I am not close to.

If me requiring to disclose open my HIPAA to those I have no idea who they are only by what they post here (and especially with certain people I do not morally and ethically agree with) then I, as I said before, I will gladly to never post in the post op section. It is something I will not lose sleep over it.

You have to come to peace with the fact that I will never tell you my medical history or details. The only reason why I responded back to this thread is because you challenged me of my honesty. Other than that, I had no desire to post here.

Quote from: Sarah Louise on October 27, 2011, 10:36:16 AM
Where we are talking right now is not in the Just For Us area, you are free to post away.

But the original topic was about the Post Op Group in the Just For Us area.

I agree 100% with that.