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I gets pretty annoyed when people call me, "Sweety, cuteiiii, cute", and so on.
its okay once in a while but if someone say,
"hey sweety, you look cute," "so sweety how are you today, you look so cute"
then I feel like answering with "DONT CALL ME CUTE OR I WILL KILL YOUR!!!" XO

what do people call you
who really makes you annoying at times?

I'm starting to get really rattled by shopkeepers calling me "sir" - but it doesn't annoy me, just jangles me because I'm so into feeling female now (and at the same time, really don't look it yet).

......late for dinner!

"mate".  I am dressed feminine but shop assistants have started saying it to women here now. It is possibly a generational thing but I hate it!

Karen.

scarface.

Quote from: Logan Bann on August 31, 2011, 03:15:28 PM
Cute.  Most of my pre-coming out attempts at looking more masculine were met with 'wow your haircut is so cute.'  >:(

What a stupid word.

If I was ever attractive, which I am not vain enough to judge, it was never in a girly way because I don't have girly features and have not presented female since I was six.  Saying I am an attractive female, especially since the implication is usually that boys will like you... cute... is just creepy and makes me feel exposed.  Way to make me feel like ->-bleeped-<-.

(I will make an exception, however, which is passing and being called cute, which happened to me a few days ago.  She said, 'are you like thirteen or something?'  I said no and she giggled and said 'you're cute.'   ::)   Still, there are far better compliments.)

yeah I dont mind the word cute either, in some situations, but since I look very young for a guy people tend to call em cute alot.

I actively like cute.

Cute, cutie, sweetie, sassy, girl...

Gah, there's this one shoplady who is friends with my mother. She never calls me by any name at all, she just says girl. As in, "Hey, girl!" But it's not just a greeting. She says it constantly, and says goodbye by blowing kisses.

I never styled my hair during the past 5 years, so it was always just kinda short/shaggy and masculine. But whenever I went in for a haircut, the lady my mom always forced me to go to would ignore anything that I said and cut it in a weird, short, girlie style. She would refer to me as "sweetie" the whole time and whenever she was done she would inform me that my hair was cute now. If I had to go out in public before I could wash the hairspray out and comb my hair back to its usual look, people who thought of me as female would tell me that my haircut was "sassy."
I hate the word sassy, not just because it sounds as feminine as it is, but also because for several years I rode a horse (a mare, specifically)named... Sassy. Ans Sassy the horse was the bitchiest horse ever. So any time someone said my hair looked sassy, in my head it seemed like they were saying it was feminine and related to a bitchy horse.

I used to feel weird about pet names when I was younger.
Then my perspective on the hole thing changed over a few years
I realized regarless of how I presented, these people don't know me
at all. It would even happen with complete strangers.
So now I tend to think it's not about me and that it's about them, it kinda
speaks volumes about people's personalities.
Seems like the more open, needy types use pet names more.
There's the occasional, I don't know your name, hey girl/man/sweetie.
But its used alot less frequently in those cases.
It bugs me the most now when you know by the tone in their voice,
it's a dig/Snyde remark.

"ma'am" what a despicable, terrible, no good word, Its used for old ladies! I got called ma'am at work a few times by young children, and it was super annoying..so i cut my hair lol

Even if I was a woman, I wouldn't want to be called ma'am, not in my twenties!

I don't mind, cute, sweetie, honey.. maybe cause I am from the south and its common for young men to get called those things too

Not much sweetie or mate down here on the mean streets of South London. More like: "ya alright blud", innit!

I get "lass". Seriously? The first few times I ever heard that word was in relation to a female horse. I cringe every time.

Also, never call me "sweetie". I ain't your sweetie, random stranger. It's worse when they move in to touch you on the arm or leg. I got spanked on the butt by a woman the other day. That's a friendly greeting? I tried to run away but it was a professional meeting.


Blake

Quote from: Tracey on August 31, 2011, 06:00:08 AM
......late for dinner!

:icon_rockon:

Don't call me TG/TS/CD/TV

I'm a woman so please call me sweetie, cutie, Hon, sweetheart, sweet thing, oh yes and bitch.

Always hated the femaley words, of course. But the worst was when people would add Miss in front of my old name and use the two together as one.

The last person to do this introduced me to her husband that way, so that's what he called me. Soon after, I reached my own personal bottom with GID and started making corrections. Next time he saw me, not only did he not say Miss, he called me Dude instead of the old name. Was a nice bonus.

beside all the annoying female words I notice I hate to be called clever,
I dont know but I just dont think it fit me so well,

Quote from: blake on September 12, 2011, 02:49:45 PMI got spanked on the butt by a woman the other day. That's a friendly greeting?

Why don't women ever spank me on the butt....

Also, don't call me.  No really:  don't call me.  I don't have a phone  ::)

Quote from: VeryGnawty on September 14, 2011, 09:06:02 AM
Why don't women ever spank me on the butt....

Also, don't call me.  No really:  don't call me.  I don't have a phone  ::)

LOL okay I wont XD

Quote from: VeryGnawty on September 14, 2011, 09:06:02 AM
Why don't women ever spank me on the butt....

Come over to Newcastle, England sometime! Lots of really friendly people up north  :D

Quote from: blake on September 15, 2011, 01:41:06 PM
Come over to Newcastle, England sometime! Lots of really friendly people up north  :D

Bigg Market on a friday night, highly recommended ;)

Quote from: mimpi on September 16, 2011, 11:08:24 AM
Bigg Market on a friday night, highly recommended ;)

Great timing, mimpi - I was looking for a club to go to this Friday! Might swing by...

*thread officially derailed... sorry*

Quote from: Elijah on September 07, 2011, 03:03:11 AM
"ma'am" what a despicable, terrible, no good word, Its used for old ladies! I got called ma'am at work a few times by young children, and it was super annoying..so i cut my hair lol

Even if I was a woman, I wouldn't want to be called ma'am, not in my twenties!

Haha, I got called "ma'am" by a cop the other night and it annoyed me so much. Especially since I'd clearly passed at first... he'd called me over like "Hang on, bro" and then asked what I'd been up to — there were loads of drunk sports fans causing trouble in town and a lot of cops wandering around and pulling up young men and asking them questions. He asked a couple of boring questions, then came the dreaded "Have a good night, ma'am." >:( Stupid voice!

I also find it really hard to accept compliments when they involve words like "cute" or "beautiful" or other fairly feminine words. I don't care if people are complimenting my appearance, all I hear is "You're a girly girl girl girl and you don't pass."

Cute, cutie, sweetie, girly, beautiful, lass, lassy, lady, missy (call me missy and your dead, so dead)

Don't call me Big Guy, Hagrid, or Ralph. Granted I only get Big Guy and Ralph (my name's NOT Ralph by the way) now, but I still don't like it >_>.

Also don't call me a "man" or say I'm a "man" now. Can't you just say adult? Yeesh.

I love words like honey, dear, babe and all that - it saves me a lot of time I would have to spend in remembering people's names when they really don't matter to me at all.

I think that pet names in general are odd, but the only things that actually piss me off are baby and Kimmy.

I love being called honey, sweetie, cutie. As was mentioned earlier, growing up in the south makes it seem not so gendered.

Lol I heard someone say "Felix, she..." the other day and that just kinda pissed me off. Not cool.

Ma'am hurts my self-esteem. I've had the experience of passing at first and then not passing after closer interaction, and that makes my blood run cold. Ick.  :'(

Also, I know that "bitch" gets used for males sometimes too, but I was squabbling with a friend the other day and he called me that, and it felt pretty gendered. So I don't want anybody calling me that.

Quote from: Felix on October 27, 2011, 03:26:54 PM


Also, I know that "bitch" gets used for males sometimes too, but I was squabbling with a friend the other day and he called me that, and it felt pretty gendered. So I don't want anybody calling me that.

my brother called me a bitch once (before it became trendy to call guys that too) and I was so pised off, but then he called me 'son of a bitch' before i even transitioned and i remember being so happy.

mate :(

Cute. The one compliment I can't take.

You are so intelligent, it must be fantastic to understand those things.

I'm not
I don't
What I have I work damn hard for.
I remember stuff 'cos I read it 50 times and understand it.
I'm not lazy.
Don't place yourself in my shoes. You would not like it.

I'm as cute as hell. I don't mind being called cute, gorgeous, sweeties or any of those fem terms. But don't do it in a lecture talk or I'll rip your bum off and graft it to your lips. But with a smile.

Cindy

hun, sweetie, whatever is all good depending the persons motivations. My neighbor would call a rabid chainsaw wielding racoon "Sweetie" so my chances of dodging "sweet-ums" is nonexistant. Even the rare gender pronoun slips I can shrug off without much thought.

Mandy irks me.
Calling me Mandy flips my bitch switch faster than anything in the universe.

Quote from: Natkat on August 31, 2011, 05:09:43 AM
I gets pretty annoyed when people call me, "Sweety, cuteiiii, cute", and so on.
its okay once in a while but if someone say,
"hey sweety, you look cute," "so sweety how are you today, you look so cute"
then I feel like answering with "DONT CALL ME CUTE OR I WILL KILL YOUR!!!" XO

what do people call you
who really makes you annoying at times?

You reminded me of someone at work who calls me sweety all the time. She's always giving me compliments. But I know deep down she's just a fake ass, two-faced, bitch.

Quote from: JenJen2011 on November 02, 2011, 01:17:56 PM
You reminded me of someone at work who calls me sweety all the time. She's always giving me compliments. But I know deep down she's just a fake ass, two-faced, bitch.

I take compliments from girls with a grain of salt.

Now compliments from guys...those mean something.

Oh guys can compliment me all day long. I like them to feed my ego.

Quote from: JenJen2011 on November 02, 2011, 01:35:37 PM
Oh guys can compliment me all day long. I like them to feed my ego.

Girl, I feel you! Compliments from men make me feel great!

mate :'( opps already said that

Quote from: Natkat on August 31, 2011, 05:09:43 AM
what do people call you

My name.

I've no idea what they might call me behind my back.

Quotewho really makes you annoying at times?

I don't care what I might be called, positive or negative. It's meaningless to me unless it comes from someone close.

I hate being called "lady".
I also got quite tired of being called Harry Potter by strangers in the street.
I'm not very fond of being called "Doc" at the hospital, it makes me think of Bugs Bunny or that you are too lazy to learn my last name, or say the full word, or you want to sound cool.

Quote from: David1987 on July 28, 2018, 11:51:51 PM
I also got quite tired of being called Harry Potter by strangers in the street.

Either I am really behind on the times and Harry Potter means something, or that one is oddly specific...

Quote from: LexieDragon on July 29, 2018, 12:14:08 AM
Either I am really behind on the times and Harry Potter means something, or that one is oddly specific...

Short brown hair and glasses get you places, Hogwarts mainly. It was really out of control a few years ago, I would be walking in the street and total strangers would go out their way to yell "Harry Potter" in my ear. Or I would be at a flea market and people would yell HP as I walked by. I got yelled HP from passing cars, from homeless people sleeping in the streets, from people picking up garbage, by Walmart cashiers, you name it. It started to get quite annoying.

Ah..

Don't call me lesbian. I hate when people call  me lesbian. Nothing wrong with being that, but I'm not one.

Can't wait to get my top surgery and the T to do some magic with my voice.


Tony

During my transition I usually just hated when people called me by obvious female terms/words but had no issues with most words pertaining to my looks, like cute, sweet, pretty, etc. I recognised most of those as more or less gender neutral. Cause people who thought I was a cis guy also sometimes called me cute or pretty. Likely cause I was small and soft for a guy, and also cause I was more or less "gay" (attracted to men, but in quoations cause I wasn't really a guy myself). Although it rubbed me slightly the wrong way to be called beautiful.

Now detransitioning it became the opposite, but not as strongly. Like it irks me to be called by male terms/words but it's not like super upsetting. Man, sir, boy, etc like clearly male terms would irk me the most, I think. Cause I haven't been called much of anything by strangers yet. They seem to be too uncomfortable around me to say anything pertaining to my gender or looks. That's actually worse. I'd rather get called something I'm not, as in a mistake, than having people avoid me cause I creep them out with my sheer presense. Even my neighbours avoid saying "hi" to me now, like they used to before.

I went from a very masc to very fem expression/appearance pretty much over night, a month ago, and I think a lot of strangers in my small village actually know of me or like recognise me from before. So they're probably really confused about me now. Some probably think I'm a crossdresser. I really like being called a girl, woman, beautiful, feminine, etc now. Makes me feel like I didn't lose all of my original womanliness by my transitioning mishap, which is immensely comforting.

When someone used to use female or  feminine terminology for me even long  before I knew how one called the condition I had it made me cringe, feel disgusted and I battled the urge of puking right into that persons face. If it was to happen now, sure I would automatically cringe, but I would look at them as if they were nuts and politely ask them:"Are you just mind blowingly stupid or blind?"

But it doesn't happen anymore anyway. I am a man, I look like one, calling me anything else would only be ridiculous.

When it comes to the term cute I am indifferent because I don't actually see it as feminine or something to call chicks. I never find chicks cute anyway. As a gay man I myself use this word sometimes to refer to other men I find attractive or cute for that matter. 
However I am not the cute type, it's an unfitting term for me hence I am not really called that.

So I don't know, I am not called anything that would bug me at the moment.