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     Hey guys as the topic says do you think it's better to be skinny or to be curvy (and by curvy i don't mean fat)?  I decided to make this thread because just recently my therapist made a comment to me about my weight/figure, she said " You look great BUT maybe you should consider trying  to gain some weight towards your hips and thighs...you look alittle too skinny". This kinda bothered me cuz i REALLY love my skinny waistline but at the sametime i HATE not having that curvy hourglass figure. I'm scared to gain any weight cuz i know it's gonna go right to the spot i don't want it to like my stomach.


       My weight runs from 143-145 pounds which isn't bad for my height at 5'9 but i do sometimes obsesse over it thinking i'm fat when i'm really not, i hope i'm not becoming anorexic or something.  ???

I'm terribly skinny, 110 pounds and 5'10.5". Actually, I would rather be curvy, even if I was a little fat. I see those tall models and some of them look really gross, but there's also really pretty and non-curvy women, like Asian women for example.

Haven't started HRT yet.

I'm 5'9'' and 158 lbs and I would prefer to be skinnier! XD I think the whole "grass is always greener on the other side" thing comes into play here. It seems to be that everyone always wants what they are not. What you should do is take a step back so you can get a realistic idea of yourself in your head and then judge what would be healthier for you. And what would be more natural looking.

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on September 02, 2011, 06:23:56 PM
Actually, I would rather be curvy, even if I was a little fat.

Me too. This body is so thin and weak I hate it (in addition to the obvious reasons for hating it lol). Even my doctor says she is concerned, though it probably doesn't help that food is so expensive.

I would love to be curvy, but my body doesn't cooperate. My choice is either stay thin or become potbellied.

If I were guaranteed to get hips, I'd go eat a bowl of bacon right now!  :)

Quote from: Lily on September 02, 2011, 06:39:28 PM
I would love to be curvy, but my body doesn't cooperate. My choice is either stay thin or become potbellied.

If I were guaranteed to get hips, I'd go eat a bowl of bacon right now!  :)

That's me too!  Weight doesn't distribute on my body, just hovers around the midsection while everything else remains stick-ish.

I have a friend whose pot bellied. Her hips are narrow but her boobs are fantastic.

If you want to look better in skirts and dresses, curvy. Otherwise, either thin (not skinny) or curvy (not obese) is fine as long as you have the soft plushy feel for your skin instead of the bony feel.

I was 141 lbs (5'10.75") but my face took a toll from the significant weight lost I had. I am now 153 lbs trying to gain more weight in hopes of filling in some spots to round out my face. The potbelly I have is a concern but genetic females also have them so as long as you do not look like you are pregnant with your belly you should be fine until swimsuit/intimate events.

I'm curvy and I like my figure. 195 lbs and 6'1". It's all in my thighs and hips though, I don't have much belly fat or a "gut". If you want to put on some curves try doing strength training for your legs and butt.

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on September 02, 2011, 06:23:56 PM
I'm terribly skinny, 110 pounds and 5'10.5".

  Omg trista! that is skinny  :D

Quote from: Sunnynight on September 02, 2011, 07:08:25 PM
I'm curvy and I like my figure. 195 lbs and 6'1". It's all in my thighs and hips though, I don't have much belly fat or a "gut". If you want to put on some curves try doing strength training for your legs and butt.

   My roomate and i jog a few miles along the beach everyday but that's about all the exercising i do.  :laugh:  I'm kinda afraid to do alot of exercises cuz i don't wanna gain muscle.


     
     

Quote from: Forever21Chic on September 02, 2011, 07:41:10 PM

  Omg trista! that is skinny  :D


   My roomate and i jog a few miles along the beach everyday but that's about all the exercising i do.  :laugh:  I'm kinda afraid to do alot of exercises cuz i don't wanna gain muscle.


     
   

The whole point would be to gain muscle. You don't have to do anything that will make your upper body bulky, but if you want thicker thighs and butt without putting on fat, then you would have to work them out with strength training.

Skinny! I wanna rock a size 6p forever. Forget curves. I find skinny super sexy. I wouldn't mind having enough boobs to balance my frame but I'll go without if it means I can avoid ever getting the hips and thighs.

I love curves... I'd love to get a little fat and get rid of this muscle. 6' 200pnds and a 32" waistline... grrrr

I'm curvy, but I'm also a bit too heavy. I do, however, have a good hip to waist ratio, 0.78; and that gives me a pretty good hourglass look. I'm also running a 38b/38c - depending on the specific bra.

As far as I'm concerned it's totally a health issue.  I tend towards high cholesterol.
I'd like to have more of a waist, so I will be getting back into ice skating now that I have access to a rink again, it's is good for the lower body, although the balance needed means it's a whole body workout to.

Karen.

Thin and curvy. Ideal measurements would be 34-24-34 which is hip to waist ratio 0.71. How thin you can be while retaining your curves would depend on your shoulder width - a broader shouldered woman could get to 38-24-34 and not look curvy. They would have to aim for 38-25-36 or something similar to retain proportions.

Personally I would SET* (not sex lol) a maximum ideal at 36" hip width, because after that is when fat starts to hang off and create awful looking shadows throughout the skin.

8888,
hm, seem you just quoted my size, 38-25-36. How's that?! :-)
Though am only 5' 6.5"

And I thought my 'can' was getting too big.
Not that I can do much about it.
E seems to have it's own mind - I started to notice.
Stop eating and gain weight, eh! Girly kummer... always talking diets...

Thank you for making me feel good right now.

Axelle

Skinny. Right now I'm 6foot and weigh about 150. Right now though I am working on gaining weight at my legs.

I'd like to look like Madeleine Blomberg. Hence my name, along with me absolutely loving the show "Madeline" when I was younger. :) Hopefully I can pull it off the look! :)

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F3.bp.blogspot.com%2F_cP1J8Dr2nlM%2FTIhJQms6BmI%2FAAAAAAAADGQ%2FStXAFVxaLm0%2Fs640%2FMarcin%2BKosmowski8.jpg&hash=f21cc870e72e6885836e05b75a3a851cf95b50cc)

Be greedy and be both. i did.

i'm stuck at 110-115 at 5'6, size 3 is alright, but i have zero curves. I wish I had bigger hips and didn't look so bony

I would like to have some curves but my body refuses to gain weight. My mum and dad were super skinny my age and only gained some weight when they were in there late 20's hehe

I'm like 119 or 120 pounds and i'm like 5ft10.5, maybe us girls who are skinny could try out modelling :D   

Salisha x x

Men prefer curvy ladies  ::)

http://www-weightgainsupplement.com/1770/how-to-gain-weight-for-women-how-to-go-from-skinny-to-curvy-and-place-on-weight-rapid/ (http://www-weightgainsupplement.com/1770/how-to-gain-weight-for-women-how-to-go-from-skinny-to-curvy-and-place-on-weight-rapid/)

Quote from: salisha on September 03, 2011, 09:00:36 AM

I'm like 119 or 120 pounds and i'm like 5ft10.5, maybe us girls who are skinny could try out modelling :D   

Salisha x x

Planning on it!!! I already did modelling for a few years a while back. :)

Quote from: Narela on September 03, 2011, 09:58:25 AM
Men prefer curvy ladies  ::)

http://www-weightgainsupplement.com/1770/how-to-gain-weight-for-women-how-to-go-from-skinny-to-curvy-and-place-on-weight-rapid/ (http://www-weightgainsupplement.com/1770/how-to-gain-weight-for-women-how-to-go-from-skinny-to-curvy-and-place-on-weight-rapid/)

But what do ladies prefer? On topic, I'm 5'9" and I hover around 190lbs. I'm not happy about my weight, too much on the thighs and belly. The hips, however, are coming along nicely. Saving up for a house right now, and once I have one I think I'll buy a fancy running contraption to try and get my problem areas down. Oh, and I've been told I have a killer butt, as in I have one  :-*.

That is extremely offensive. I would find a new therapist that's more body positive towards how you look right now. i'm sure your body is fine. But of course the more weight we have on our body the more shifting you may see on hormones. Because, hormones will re-distribute your weight. I happen to be quite skinny myself and would also prefer more curves but if my therapist told me to think about gaining some weight, which is ultimately criticizing my body in the storm of unhappiness i was feeling at the time, i would have walked right out. Also because i know that I can not gain weight. My body is the way it is. I have enough unrealistic expectations by having gender identity disorder as it is.

Quote from: MADI! on September 03, 2011, 10:24:42 AM
Planning on it!!! I already did modelling for a few years a while back. :)

coolness, you go girl !!!!
ohhhh what was modelling like ?  Like how do you actually get into it ?

Salisha x x

Quote from: MADI! on September 03, 2011, 10:24:42 AM
Planning on it!!! I already did modelling for a few years a while back. :)

I almost became a model at one point.  Got scouted by one of the top agencies in the city, but when I went in and they measured me, they liked everything but my height.  I missed being 6' by only 3/4", and runway models had be 6' to 6'2". :(  And so it never happened... gave me a serious height complex for years.

QuoteBut what do ladies prefer?

We definitely love the curves!  ;D

Quote from: Torn1990 on September 03, 2011, 10:40:59 AM
That is extremely offensive. I would find a new therapist that's more body positive towards how you look right now. i'm sure your body is fine. But of course the more weight we have on our body the more shifting you may see on hormones. Because, hormones will re-distribute your weight. I happen to be quite skinny myself and would also prefer more curves but if my therapist told me to think about gaining some weight, which is ultimately criticizing my body in the storm of unhappiness i was feeling at the time, i would have walked right out. Also because i know that I can not gain weight. My body is the way it is. I have enough unrealistic expectations by having gender identity disorder as it is.

    Yeah i know it was kinda rude of her to say that to me. I think maybe she said that cuz she is infact over-weight herself. I have nothing against people that are over-weight both my mom and grandma are in that category. I went home and looked in my full length mirror for awhile and thought about what she said & to be honest i would prolly benefit from gaining a few pounds in those areas, but either way skinny or curvy i still rocked that outfit. I should have taken a pic, oh well.  :D 

Well should I consider my self like, fortunate. I am somewhat thin 164lbs at 6' but can't wait to get to 150lbs although I can see how, when I loose a bit of poundage my boobs and butt start to diminish. As a middle aged male, right before start of transition I was 217lbs, totally strait as a board, no butt, no waist, beefy bloke now after 8 months of HRT and 4 years of low calorie diet I am curvy to the point of having my hips almost the width of my back and I think almost as skinny as I would want to be getting into size 6 jeans but comfortable in 8's. So, I sort of have both. Now if I only had this fantastic face to go along with my body.....................................................................:)

Quote from: salisha on September 03, 2011, 10:59:36 AM
coolness, you go girl !!!!
ohhhh what was modelling like ?  Like how do you actually get into it ?

Salisha x x

I was lucky enough to have a very good friend in the top agency in the city at the time. The people I met were mostly very nice, although some were a little more judging of other people. Training can be expensive, and it can be difficult to get jobs, but it's a lot of fun. I would do it again in a heart beat.

Getting into modelling is really not terribly difficult so long as you can meet what they're looking for. Though, there's models all sizes and ages needed for many different reasons. All you need to do is speak with an agent to get started with training.

However, sometimes they have open calls. At those they'll scout a specific look for a job. Those are open to everyone, but they're difficult to get, and you should know your stuff before going. Having the right look is obviously important, but being confident in what you're doing is equally important. I was turned down for two open calls because I wasn't confident enough yet.

@ Zoe

That's for runway, you could have done plenty of other stuff. :) Now though you're the perfect height for runway.

I think it's possible to be skinny AND curvy!  However, if it were skinny and non-curvy vs a little pudgy and curvy I'd go with the latter on most days.  Have you ever noticed how your opinions change on different days, though?  Like, sometimes I'll see a girl whose curvy look awesome in an outfit and want to be like her.  Other times, I'll see a skinny girl look great and want to be like her.  About 2 months ago, I started to eat much more in an attempt to gain weight and it worked!  8 pounds in about 1 month.  However, it was really hard to point out where the fat had gone, until my brother commented (and kept going on) about how my legs looked all fat and like lady-ish.  Eating so much was just hard, though.  Forcing yourself to constantly eat and never being truly hungry because you're always eating is not enjoyable and totally not worth it to gain weight.

But yeah, curvy all the way! 

Quote from: 8888 on September 03, 2011, 03:41:07 AM
Personally I would set* a maximum ideal at 36" hip width, because after that is when fat starts to hang off and create awful looking shadows throughout the skin.

Just to correct myself I meant set not sex, but it makes sense either way haha.

If you're skinny when you're young, you'll look great when you're older  ;)

Quote from: ZeldaHeart on September 04, 2011, 02:38:28 AM
I think it's possible to be skinny AND curvy!  However, if it were skinny and non-curvy vs a little pudgy and curvy I'd go with the latter on most days.  Have you ever noticed how your opinions change on different days, though?  Like, sometimes I'll see a girl whose curvy look awesome in an outfit and want to be like her.  Other times, I'll see a skinny girl look great and want to be like her.  About 2 months ago, I started to eat much more in an attempt to gain weight and it worked!  8 pounds in about 1 month.  However, it was really hard to point out where the fat had gone, until my brother commented (and kept going on) about how my legs looked all fat and like lady-ish.  Eating so much was just hard, though.  Forcing yourself to constantly eat and never being truly hungry because you're always eating is not enjoyable and totally not worth it to gain weight.

But yeah, curvy all the way!

Right on! ;D  I'm far more comfortable at 140 pounds than I was at 100, even if my anorexic brain tells me that 100 was too fat.  I consciously try to tune out the looks of super-skinny girls so that my mind doesn't force me back into starvation.  My feminine ideal has true curves, healthy arms and legs, and isn't afraid to have a little bit of a belly.  Her face has healthy cheeks, not sunken ones.

This helps me every day to eat when my brain tells me not to. :)  And now that I'm starting to see my ideal embodied in myself, it's so much easier to tell anorexia to shut the hell up.  It'll probably never go away--the calorie counting, extreme exercising, voice of punishing culinary restraint--but so long as I see a healthy, beautiful, happy woman staring back at me in the mirror, the rest doesn't matter.  I'd rather have attractive, smooth, and plump upper arms than the upper arms I had two years ago, which were bony and small enough that I could touch my thumb to my index finger when I wrapped my hands around them.  I looked sick and I was sick, only a missed meal or two from heart failure.

At my current height (6,2) i have had any weight and body type between 225 and muscular and a concentration camp chic 110pounds. Over the last 2 years i got rid of the muscle bulk what brought me down to 175 pounds, feels much better of course :D
since i am getting closer to accept my body as raw material to work with opposed to shutting everything remotely related with body out my attention has shifted: i have always felt too massive/tall, now its more things like my lack of hips that catch my eye. Well, i canwork on that....

I'm 36-27-36, 135lbs and 6'1". (Built like a stick.) I like being slender, but I want the 10lbs I need to not be underweight - especially since weight I gain tends to go to my hips, ass and chest, which could use it. But I'm still bleeding weight from muscle loss in my upper body, so I'm kind of just treading water at the moment.

I'm what is described as a pure ectomorph body type. So I better like being thin, cause curvy just isn't in the cards. Sometimes you have to be happy with what you've got.

Quote from: Lily on September 03, 2011, 11:05:52 AM
We definitely love the curves!  ;D

Speak for yourself. :P

I like girls with athletic, slender builds. Not that exceptions aren't possible...

ive only been on HRT 2 months now, but even before hand i had a very curvy lean body luckily =) i have an hour glass figure and i love it, hopefully i just dont gain too much weight

im 5'7 1/2 and weight in at 134

    Screw this, i'm starting a sushi tofu diet. =/ A friend of mine started on this diet and lost alot of weight. According to her it's high in protein which fills you up faster and is very low in calories which is always a plus in my book. I NEED to be in the 130-ish range for me to feel comfortable so yeah curves can wait.  :D 



     Although i was going to ask my endo about starting progesterone, maybe it will help in the curves department?  :eusa_think:

I am, and would rather be, an "athletic curvy" but it's not really an option because my ribcage is a little too large to be truly skinny.  My build is relatively athletic at 37-31-42, 6'1" and 163ish pounds (assuming I measured right).  Apparently my butt is very nice and I'm a large 36A or small 36B up top so I don't have far to go for my ideal.  Currently need to lose down to 155 and start wearing a corset to shrink my ribcage and waist 2-3 inches.

Wish I had advice as far as gaining curves goes.  Seems to be pure genetics with some luckier than others - and several wishing they were opposite of what they are.  Just like hair. :)

i would have to say curvy because lets face it, men don't have curves it's what makes us unique to men and also what men like in us.

Quote from: Forever21Chic on September 02, 2011, 06:14:35 PM
     Hey guys as the topic says do you think it's better to be skinny or to be curvy (and by curvy i don't mean fat)?  I decided to make this thread because just recently my therapist made a comment to me about my weight/figure, she said " You look great BUT maybe you should consider trying  to gain some weight towards your hips and thighs...you look alittle too skinny". This kinda bothered me cuz i REALLY love my skinny waistline but at the sametime i HATE not having that curvy hourglass figure. I'm scared to gain any weight cuz i know it's gonna go right to the spot i don't want it to like my stomach.


       My weight runs from 143-145 pounds which isn't bad for my height at 5'9 but i do sometimes obsesse over it thinking i'm fat when i'm really not, i hope i'm not becoming anorexic or something.  ???

Girl, your therapist would say the same thing if she sees me lol. I eat a lot, even late at night, but I just don't gain weight for some reasons. I don't know why, I think it's because of my metabolism. Even I know that I'm too skinny but guys love girls with petite so being skinny is a good thing, well at least in my case. I just started taking hormones for 7 weeks so maybe 6-7 months later, I'll be gaining some weight due to the fat distribution. By the way, my weight is 110, and my height is 5'6 :o

The one problem most people have when the deliberately try to gain weight is that they never seem to get it where they want it-- and do get it where they don't. This has certainly been my experience. Your doctor should know your body well, though, so maybe it will work for you, but most skinny people who gain weight seem to just get an incoherent belly pudge.

I have gained weight but in the wrong places.  I am 180 lbs and have a belly.  If it would only shift to the proper places.

Quote from: Lily on September 03, 2011, 11:05:52 AM
We definitely love the curves!  ;D

Quote from: Lucy O Connell on September 04, 2011, 06:12:50 PM
i would have to say curvy because lets face it, men don't have curves it's what makes us unique to men and also what men like in us.

+1

I want to be be small and curvy but I'm tall and skinny 6'2" and 130lbs thankfully I have small frame and narrow shoulders

Hopefully curvy.

I am just 2.5 months on HRT and currently 36-30-37.  I went from 36 inch to 37 inch hips in 1 month, so hopefully that's a good sign.

well weird me :) i am 112 lbs and 5'5.5'' yet i look so funny ! i am like super skinny except my thighs have all my fat and my waist is super thin so yea i am super skinny and well curvei but look weird

my therapist has told me i should lose some weight before, because it would make me look more feminine or something like that. i'm 5'11, and about 240-250 pounds. it fluctuates pretty easily. people have told me i'm fat before, but i've learned to accept myself as i am. the media and so much that influences us everyday is not a realistic measure of what people really look like. women come in all shapes and sizes. i've learned to accept myself for what i am. i have a large frame, and my muscles also come pretty thick, the fat, even thicker. even though i'm really weak. i just try to watch my portions, and exercise each day. if i can never get down to 150 pounds, then so be it. i think i would look slender if i was just an even 200 pounds. because i am tall, the fat is pretty well stretched, so it makes me look interesting.

I'd hope to be curvy, but currently I'm a straight rail and I can't imagine that changing. There is no fat to even redistribute!  :embarrassed:

Yesterday I was listening to a top Playboy photog on the Twit Photo podcast. He happened to say that most people are fairly straight figured and indicated that much of the curviness you see in the magazine comes from models posing in uncomfortably contorted positions. Then I recalled having seen a couple of playmates at a car show years ago and noting how skinny (not curvy) they looked to me.

But, hey-- we can all have a curvy look if we want to. That's what fashion is for. Emphasize what you've got and de-emphasize what you don't.

I'm 170lbs, 5ft 10".  My current measurements are 38-33-37.  I am pre HRT and due to start next month.  I want to be curvy :D  It would make me feel so feminine.  I have been at the gym working out a couple of times a week and doing as much cardio as possible.  I have been using the "stair climber" to add tone and a little extra muscle to my thighs and bum (hence 37" hip).  I would love to loose an inch or two from my chest (muscle) and 5" from my waist if possible.  I guess i will have to keep my fingers cross for HRT and continue to follow my diet and exercise programme.

Unfortunately I'm neither!

Becoming more athletic as I continue to lose weight, certainly will never be skinny unless I go on a strict diet, I'd call my new shape as being shapely haha.

skinny and curvy both can look fantastic.  I'm liking my combination of athletic and curvy at the moment.   

I'd love to be curvy and have the hourglass figure or even just some bigger hips!;) But I don't mind being skinny!