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I have an issue, I left my home 2 months ago pretended I live in another state and basically lived with a guy for the past two months. I told my boyfriend that my mom maybe visiting my place because I'm here at their place, I have no vehicle and so they wanted to visit me, so they pick me up and I am spending a couple of days here.

Now she wants to go drop me off my place, and I'm trying to find a way to avoid this. My boyfriend is picking up the place, and making it look like I'm living in another room. I have no idea what it looks like....

What would you do if you were me?

Quote from: Wild Flower on September 09, 2011, 09:45:38 AM
What would you do if you were me?

try being honest with mom?

Be prepared to face up to the truth, whether or not your mom figures it out. Chances are she already suspects anyway. If she says nothing, do the same. She may be just respecting your choice but that is OK. If not, admit your life and move on.

Quote from: LordKAT on September 09, 2011, 09:49:06 AM
Be prepared to face up to the truth, whether or not your mom figures it out. Chances are she already suspects anyway. If she says nothing, do the same. She may be just respecting your choice but that is OK. If not, admit your life and move on.

I doubt it... for now. She believed the story of me moving to another state, and so she figures I just recently moved back. I doubt she suspects I live with a guy. I told her I live with a couple (there's a lot of plants; flowers outside). I'm going to tell my boyfriend to leave out college books to go along with the lie, which I bought a lot of. It'll bring credibility that I do live with a college couple.

I cannot admit my life right now... unfortunately.

QuoteMy boyfriend is picking up the place, and making it look like I'm living in another room.

Sounds like that's the best thing you can do. I can't come up with anything better, sorry. Maybe she won't want to go in. Hope all goes well.

Quote from: Wild Flower on September 09, 2011, 09:54:16 AM
It'll bring credibility that I do live with a college couple.

I cannot admit my life right now... unfortunately.

That credibility that MIGHT be gained today will be shot to hell, and that is if mom even buys into what you are trying to sell.  Sounds as though there are too many people involved to keep a single story straight, and that will be the downfall...

How can you go through life without being honest about yourself?

Take pride in who your are and show that same respect to your loved ones.  Lying to family, low blow.  Making your boyfriend play along with your games, not cool!

Sorry, don't mean to be blunt, I wish you all the success in being honest.

Jamie

I don't know. I don't think she will accept me, and I doubt she will. My life otherwise is going smoothly.

Quote from: Wild Flower on September 09, 2011, 02:48:42 PM
I don't know. I don't think she will accept me, and I doubt she will. My life otherwise is going smoothly.

If you have a good relationship with your Mom, she will accept - but put a support system in place.  i.e. I made appointment for my parents to got to therapy!  Also copy of WPATH SOC, Reseach, guidebooks, support groups.

Dumping a "$hitload" on your family without thinking about what they need for support, is just poor planning.  I came out to close family, 200 close friends, 500 employees at three jobs, 50 clients - number of rejections = 1 vs. the number of friends I made = 100's

So, if you has a bad, destructive & disconnected relationship.....well, all I can say is Good Luck!!!

Time to step up to the plate and hit a home run, but you still need to run the bases!!!

I found a bus route to get home very cheaply, and I think she agreed.

So all is okay, as long as she takes me to the bus stop.

The time isn't right, she's dealing with too much in life right now.